If my wife does not make any effort to have sex or show she wants it...how can i know if she wants me sexually

Question

My wife has never made any remarks of wanting to have sex with me or start the act ever since she quit drinking. When she use to drink she would always want it and especially the next day in the morning. Now that she stopped drinking its as if she was
use to having sex drunk and now that she
is normal she dont want it anymore....is this
the case or now that she has stopped drinking she realizes she doesnt really want me sexually anymore.....

Answer 1

Most people are less attractive without beer.

Answer 2

She is upset with you over your porn situation. You and she need to get some counseling. She will never feel the same way about you until you work out your problems.

A woman is emotionally stimulated. She needs to know that you love and appreciate her all of the time, not just when you want sex. You need to show her how much you love her. Try giving her a nice card, or surprising her with a special night out every now and then. Foreplay for a woman does not start with touching just before sex. It starts with making her feel emotionally secure.

A major part of that is that you have had physical altercations. A woman does not respect a man that hurts her either physically or emotionally. No respect, no sex.

She was drinking to forget the problems that you towo have.

Answer 3

I dont think its because she realized she doesnt want sex anymore. You have to consider that shes possibly in am emotional turmoil righ now due to withrawal from alcohol which could cause low sex drive. Second she might be experiencing depression due to her drinking in the past. Let her adjust give her some time. Ask for a couples counsellor that would always be helpful.

Answer 4

Drink is a great releaser of inhibitions! Did she used to drink so much that it became a problem. Does she associate sex with that drink problem?
You need to let her know of your concerns and talk it through. She will come around in the end. The thing is you must TALK.

Answer 5

Probably just going through a transition period. Does it bother you to make the first move? Remember drinking lowers inhibitions. Maybe now her inhibitions are higher, so she doesn't initiate, but it does not mean she doesn't want you. In the end, you two need to work things out and discuss openly about stuff.

Answer 6

i think she needs some time to realize the change and the first time she is sober she may have difficulties in many other things except sex, so you could show a little patience and understanding. Also you could try something different in sex like other ways of approaching her (like you were another person)or sex toys and if that fails too, search for someone else.

Answer 7

Most probably your wife on gets the confidence of telling you when she got a lighter head due to drinking.
When you initiate the act and found her in high performance and liking it most of the time, then she is always like doing it with you, its just she's a bit shy to take the initiative. In that case there is no problem with that.

Answer 8

I think the fact is YOU want your wife to want to have sex with you all the time WITHOUT BEING DRUNK. But since she is not drunk anymore you think there is a co-relation to wanting to have sex with you. Or then again it maybe YOUR WIFE wanting to be drunk so she can want to have sex with you because there might be something going on when she is drunk while having sex with you that is not happening when she is not drunk while having sex. I think it is best to see a psychiatrist

Answer 9

when someone sonsumes alcohal , he/she loses control over senses.Hormone level goes up and this stimulates and burns the desire of doing something which you may or don not want to do when you are normal.But there are other ways to overcome your problem.
Moreover not all , but wome generally do not initiate.so you should not think that she does not want it.You can handle this more pratically by watching some adult movies/ or can present her some books( related to sex).This will help you.

Answer 10

Thank your stars. It is better of the two evils. Drinking is so bad, she needs to be congratulated for quitting.

Now about your sex - make overtures, advances, try something new and buy her lingerie etc...... You know this problem you can solve. You solved the biggest one, her drinking. This should be small - pittens - compared to that.

Answer 11

of course she still wants you. you didn't meet her while she was drunk did you? It's just an excuse she had to be drunk to have sex. a woman always wants her man 24/7 of the time. she's gonna have to give in soon.