she stopped since she had my baby sister in June. The only time i see her is when i watch my baby sister
2007-12-17 18:19:02 · 20 answers · asked by ♥ aLeXiS bEeZyS ♥ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
the father is doing drugs to and just got out of prison.
2007-12-20 11:34:41 · update #1
Think of it this way, all your experiences you're going through now with your mother... correct them as an adult. It's not going to be easy to forgive her, nor is it going to be easy to accept her. I'm terribly sorry for what you're going through. It is totally up to you what you choose. I can say, since she is your mother, to find it in your heart to forgive and accept her. This may sound ridiculous, but it's only for your sake. At least you know that you're the one being more of an adult.
Like I said above - all your experiences that you're going through now with your mother... correct them as an adult. You'll be a mother one day. You'll know exactly what is right for your children. In your right mind, you'll know to never do what your mother did to you. Best wishes and take care.
Keep your chin up,
Violet
2007-12-17 18:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by Violet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mother has made a recovery and treats you well, that is a good thing
drug addiction is an illness, not something a person really WANTS to do. perhaps you could find out more about drug addiction by doing a yahoo search...
if you want a relationship with your mom then let her know... i suppose that time will tell if you are forgiving or not... i think you need time to try and heal... you may not forget what happened, but in time, you may be able to forgive.
hugs
2007-12-18 04:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer to that question lies within you, and only you. Do you have resentment toward the baby beings mom quit after her and not you? Are you ready to accept her in your life? Is there a place for her in your life? If the answers are no, yes , yes,yes, then I think its time to sit down and talk with her and put all your feelings out into the open(on the table) so to speak. Also i think you need to have a relationship outside of just being the babysitter!Whatever you decide I only wish you GOOD LUCK AND HAPPY HOLIDAYS=D
2007-12-18 02:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by buzymomuv3boyz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who says she won't do it again if she says shes clean and is it doesn't change what happend to you brcause of her mistakes the drugs are still out there and there is always an urge it will never laeve her it is very small. No don't take her back and please save your baby sister no telling what she acts like on those she could be a danger to your baby sister.
Good Luck and may God be with you and your baby sister
2007-12-18 02:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by a007nix 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes because not forgiving her only hurts you. Everyone makes mistakes. Try to be the type of person you wanted her to be. Many people go down the wrong road and make unwise decisions. It is really nice that you do babysit for her. This tells me that you are a very good person considering what you have been through.
2007-12-18 02:34:44 · answer #5 · answered by Jodi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U should forgive her for ur sake, not for her sake. u should heal and get over the agony of being deserted.
Its good to meet her, forgiveness will come slowly, over a period of time.
cheer up, learn from her example and NEVER go on drugs. One day u too will make an excellent parent.
2007-12-18 02:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by srk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
from the other side. i was a junkie and a dad. now im not. i told all my kids hey when i was doin drugs i wasnt in control. now im off the stuff and all i ask is see me as i am now, dont hate me but try to understand.
we get along great they are very loving and forgiving . i do all i can and more to make it up to them so they know i will nbe there for them now. if your moms cleaned up her act dont hate her just proceed with caution and do give her a chance
2007-12-18 02:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by crazzijimsmith 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. She's just using you for babysitting. I bet she's still on drugs. See about getting custody, or having the father get custody of your sister.
2007-12-18 10:31:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you would greatly benefit by researching some alanon groups in your area.
Unless someone has goen through what you are going through.......we are all clueless. Alanon is for family members of addicts. I know they have all sorts of different age groups they deal with. It is free and you will be surrounded by people who have been there and done that.
I bid you well!!!
2007-12-18 10:31:58 · answer #9 · answered by T J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't forgive her. She left you in the cold. I feel so sorry for you sweetie. Listen don't. 'Cus if you do you will only put you and your sister in danger.
2007-12-18 11:15:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋