My brother in-laws girlfriend( who I went to school with 5 yrs ago, but wasn't friends with) bought my husband and I a gift card for Christmas. Am I obligated to purchase her a present even though in the six months that they've been dating i've only seen her once, and i don't particularly like her.
My opinion is " NO" , but my in-laws think that i need too? What's you opinion?
2007-12-17 16:39:03 · 18 answers · asked by amt 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
my brother in law doesn't buy us gifts his mom does. We've been married seven yrs his other girlfreinds never bought us presents.
2007-12-17 16:50:49 · update #1
You are never obligated to buy anyone a gift, it is a personal choice.
Don't let people dictate to you what's acceptable or unacceptable during the holiday season.
Your in-laws are on their way to being outlaws! They sound as if they want to control this situtation.
If you do not buy this woman a gift, then so be it, end of discussion, case closed!
Let the giver know how well you like the gift & a personal Thank You will suffice.
Happy Holidays!
2007-12-17 16:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by Sustagurl2 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting her a gift would be the right thing to do. I would look at it as something that you are doing for your brother in law. I'm sure it will make him happy if he thinks you like his girlfriend. Do the right thing. Buy her a gift.
2007-12-17 16:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by kimberbahr2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. Say thanks and wish them a Merry Christmas, but don't feel obliged to give a gift. I gave only 7 gifts this year to either bosses, co-workers or subordinates, and I come in daily contact with 30 or so. Great Question, Merry Christmas!
2016-05-24 11:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I find gift cards to be unthoughtful so its not like she really meant it when she gifted it. however you might as well just because go along with inlaws suggestion because if you dont i fear theyd question your kindness. Plus it isnt all that hard to get something small that may not mean much but it is Christmas , what the hay!
2007-12-17 16:51:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your Brother in Law give you a gift as well? Maybe she is the one that does the gift buying. Since she gave you AND your husband a gift card, perhaps you should give her and your brother in law a "couple's" gift.
2007-12-17 16:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by Vicki D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are never obligated to buy a present, but it would be nice. At least send her a Thank-You card.
2007-12-17 16:41:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You could always send her some baked cookies or something. If she marries him, you don't want to have laid a bad familial (sp?) foundation. It doesn't have to be expensive, and you're not obligated, but it would be polite and would show some gratitude. It was a nice gesture on her part.
2007-12-17 16:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by em T 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not buy a gift just to please a fair-weather friend/relative, etc. Giving a gift should not be an obligation, but a whole-hearted charity.
2007-12-17 16:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by nedeacserolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sometimes I don't want to buy people gifts in situations like this, but it is the polite and classy thing to do.
2007-12-17 16:42:42 · answer #9 · answered by Liana 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Maria...Just get her a card , and maybe a 5.00 dollar gift card from Starbucks...no more than that
2007-12-17 16:43:25 · answer #10 · answered by Burt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋