Been notic'g my wife carry on cell phone conversation in odd time and places to the same person. They do have business dealings together and he is a flirt. Our marriage is having problem and I confronted earlier on another discoveries of a potential dream affair. She said I love you but not in-love w/ you. Seem like she willing to try to work on our marriage one more time but something still don't feel right. Her calling to this guy is alway at a wrong time frame. Like in the middle of my family's xmas dinner. In a dressing room in a dept store, etc.. This guy wanted her and flirt w/ her quite often. And within this weak period of time, he could create problems. Should I confront her why she is calling this guy so often and address my concerns? Just keep my mouth shut and trust her she will do the right thing? She told me to give her space and time. Am I foolish to believe it? I am so confuse!!! Should I just move on? We have 2 kids and seem like that's the bond.
2007-12-17 16:24:01 · 13 answers · asked by 1-Confused-man 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her straight out - take a break from this guy and go to counseling to work on the marriage, or end the marriage now. Never would I emasculate my man by making him wait while I flirt with someone else.
2007-12-17 16:29:04 · answer #1 · answered by Kacky 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The two of you need to sit down and have a serious heart to heart conersation. Your wife should not do anything to make you feel insecure. If this is bothering you this much then your wife should understand if she loves you. I fit doesn't bother her that this is upsetting you then maybe it is time to move on. A relatonship without trust is a dead relationship. You should trust her but at the same time you should not be blinded by love either. If she doesn't want to work on your problems together then there is nothing to stay together for. A relationship has to be based on love and trust. When someone violates their spouses trust then there are problems. Mabe she doesn't mean anything about it and they are just business partners. You won't know until you confront her.
2007-12-17 16:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by trish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A marriage needs communication, especially if you are having problems. If this is a concern to you, it should be a concern to her as well. Tell her how you feel, and try to find out what is making her possibly stray from the marriage. There's no reason that your wife should be on the phone that much with another man, and you do have a right to know what is going on. Good luck!
2007-12-17 16:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have a talk with her. If she is willing to make things work this want be that big of an issue. But I would really think of the right way to approach this. I think that if you love her than I would fight for you marriage at least for the kids sake. You want to be able to walk away from the marriage if that is what this leads to and know that you did ALL that you could do!!!!
2007-12-17 16:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by ~Stepa♥~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront her. If she needs space and time to think she should not be doing that with another man. Staying for the children is not a good idea. Calling him in the middle of your families Christmas dinner is suspicious and so is the dressing room. She is calling him anytime that she thinks you will not be paying attention. Sorry but I do think that you are foolish to believe that she will do the right thing. It would be enough for me to move on with her telling me that she is not in love with me.
2007-12-17 16:30:42 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1. You two need to have a heart to heart, immediately.
2. I would not wait to see how it pans out.
3. You have kids together, fix it or quit it.
I am very sorry for the problems you are having. Its terrible how in today's society we have made family and relationships disposable. I truely hope the best for your marriage. Work it out.
2007-12-17 16:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by blueeyes_unever_4get 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry! Yes, it sure sounds like she is making a fool out of you. Move on you deserve better. If she is not willing to cut ties with this man and work on her marriage. There is something more than business going on with this man. Does he know she is married? God bless****
2007-12-17 16:32:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you need to confront her and ask for her to give you a good reason shes talking to this person so much.. if shes really wanting to work on your marriage that is something that will have to stop.. and she needs to know that. you cant work on it if there is 3 of you in it. if shes wanting space then maybe shes not willing to give him up and wants to keep you on the side in case he don't work out. you do have to call her on it. if it was me anyway i would.. and for you two to work on your marriage it wouldn't hurt to get counseling to help you guys.. if your both willing to do that maybe she is really putting an effort into it.. good luck
2007-12-17 16:31:35 · answer #8 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say to trust her, if she wants space, give it to her, because if you hound her all it will do is definately run her off.... She is still with you, so you have that, work on YOU and maybe the two of you will make the marriage work , you can't spend all of your time wondering if she is being 100% faithful to you, ya know?!
Good luck!!!
2007-12-17 16:30:59 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, go ahead and confront her..
her playing around with the love word means a lot..tell her your opinions, and tok it over..why stay with something that will bother you day and night..
tok to her she is your wife..if she doesnt want then call it quits..as much as it may be difficult to call it quits..but you live once and thts it..so maximise while you can do it now..this is your life live it to the fullest of you wants..
i hope all goes well, be free tok it over, and tell her there should be transparency in your relationship..inciate the transparents your self..tell her to pik your fone, and next pick hers..but do it all in love..
2007-12-17 16:52:56 · answer #10 · answered by MaiTah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋