I don't know what to do, plz someone HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for 1 year and a month. We were unseprable. The world just felt right when we were together. Thanksgiving came and it all changed. We "broke up" but got back together that same week. He said he wanted a break. I understood that and respected it, but it still hurt. Then our one year anniversary came on November 7th. He gave me a promise ring and told me alot of things that made me feel special you know. But then, on december 7th (our 1 year and a month together) i noticed something. So i took him by the hand at lunch at school and asked him what was wrong. He didn't want to tell me but he told me anyways. He said he has been pretending ever since thanksgiving. He said "i see you in my life but not right now". I told him "what about the ring that you gave me? i lost my virginity to you. what about all those things we've talked about? Ever since that day, we haven't spoken to each other. I don't know what to do. How can i get him back?

Answer 1

He obviously lied for some reason and do you really want a liar who will never really love you? Time to pick yourself up, cut him loose and don't look back, you have been highly disrespected and he is not ready for a relationship. The guys you date today are only the stepping stones to the man you will be with as an adult. Live and learn from your mistakes.

This is why you don't have sex before you are married. You would have saved yourself tons of heartache for starters. It is one thing to date and another thing to give your body and a piece of your soul away. It hurts a whole lot more and makes it harder to break away for girls more so than most guys.

Remember: Sex and babies always go together even with birth control. Sex and STDs also can go together - Condoms do not protect you as much as they say. If you are not ready for either of these, be smart and safe and wait. this you will never regret.

You sound young, Discover who you are and who you want to be and stop focusing on him. It is your turn to be all you can be with your God given talents. Find out what those are and use them instead of hurting over a looser.

Answer 2

Best advice-Do you know what to do when your bf walks out? Close the door.
Don't let him string you along. The break he wants is to date others, not you. Not meant to be cruel, but you need to face it and move on. He lied to you and told you some very special things that were untrue. Liars don't stop and are never trustworthy. Be glad you found out before you lost anything else to him. He's a loser and you deserve more. Get busy, run around with your friends and meet lots of new people. You have just learned a hard lesson and that's why older people tell you not to get so serious when you're young. Guys are growing up and so are you and there is so much to learn and those things change you and what you want. Feelings change and that was no fault until he lied. He wanted to try out something else but didn't want to get rid of you until he was sure that's what he wanted. That means he really doesn't respect you. Trust me there are better guys out there. . .And please don't let one rotten apple spoil it for you. LIfe is a learning experience and life is choices and consequences. Make better choices for yourself in the future. And cut it with him-no calls, no nothing. He does not exist. If he comes back, do not fall into it again. He will toss you aside the next time something else comes along and each time it will hurt you worse. The hurt lessens as time passes so get busy and time will pass much faster. .

Answer 3

Tell him ya so!! If he was turned off by it, he would have just ignored you and not teased you about it. Tell him, he'd be an idiot not to know you were crushing on him, and your just sorry it took you writing a note to figure it out. But you gotta say it with a smile and a little sexy attitude. Don't act weird or diffrent....Trust me, he teased you about it, it's ok. Now go ask him what he's gonna do about it, or, I prefer the bold method, and just give him a big ole kiss and get it over with...Good Luck

Answer 4

There is no use on forcing a relationship that is not meant to be for now...let things go..he told you that he was pretending ever since thanksgiving..that is a huge red flag right there! Leave him some space and if it's meant to be then he will come back. I know it's really hard but girl you have to be strong...What if this happened so you can meet the man of your dreams?? because it wasn't him!! you never know..i have a saying that everything happens for a reason...no matter how much it sucks at the time...

Answer 5

It is obvious that you are in terrible pain. I can see that you had a good relationship and suddenly it vanished like the wind without a plausible explanation. You are not only hurting,you are also confused. Sometimes this uncertainty drives one crazy. You have to somehow have a serious talk with him and get some straight answers. If he does not want to get back together you have to go on with your life. Tell him to be honest because you do not want to play games. Whatever answer he gives you is better than living hoping and wondering in "Limbo Land'. I realize that if his answer is no it is going to hurt terribly because the wound is fresh. But with time the wound will heal. If he decides to return you have to convince him of your love, and show him that he will never find someone like you. However, tell him no if he returns back to you out of pity. That will never work. He has to have feelings for you. Have one of your friends arrange a meeting or send him a note. Tell him you want to put the cards on the table once and for all. You have to know where he stands. Demand specific answers. Tell him that if he is not interested you have to go on with you life. Use these exact words. If he loves you he will not let you go. I wish you the best. Remember, it is painful but it is not the end of the world.

Answer 6

You know what, you won't like this, but I'd say let him go! There's something happening here that maybe you're too young to understand, but every one of us has to go through a stage in our life, maybe even several times, where we are changing and growing inside and it affects who and what we want in our lives. It's happening to your BF right now. And why you feel left up in the air is because we don't all change together at the same time with the people that we are together with. He'll either want you back one day or he won't, depending on how his inner changes end up making him feel. Don't ever force someone to love you or be with you. It won't work that way. They've got to love you all on their own. If you've grown out of love, accept that you had your time together and move on yourself. We all pine over losing someone who was special to us, but don't fool yourself. Especially when you're young, there'll be a lot of changing and growing to do yet and personalities don't stabilize often until the mid 20's or early 30's. Those that find their one true love in their teens are the exception to the rule. No one knows themselves well enough yet to be able to choose a partner for life at so young an age. You were fortunate to have had a year long relationship, but view it from a different perspective. You're growing too. You yet need a lot more life experience in your notebook too. Give yourself the chance for that. I've learned, over time, that losing one guy just means I'm now meant for another. We fool ourselves that we feel complete with so and so, but life is trying to tell you it's time to look beyond and see something different. You're too young to cement yourself into one way of being with one person so soon in your young life. Look forward to finding a greater love for yourself one day!

Answer 7

Unfortunately, teenage relationships are not permanent, lifelong commitments. This breakup is all about his inability to sustain a long relationship. You were better at it, but he couldn't do it. It's not about anything you did wrong. And you can't win him back because he can't do this lengthy thing right now. He already tried after Thanksgiving and couldn't do it. You need to respect that limitation. I know it feels horrible.

But...believe it or not, you will get over it, and you will have other boyfriends who are better than him. Trust me on that.

Answer 8

seriously.. if the guy breaks up with you and then goes back to you and then breaks up with you... theres something wrong in this relationship. i dont think he is truly serious about you and maybe just using you, which is very very bad. if he was just "pretending" to "love" you since that day he gave the ring, then i think you shouldnt be with him. find a guy who wholey appriciates you and will not break up with you over little things and stuff. dont just think that he is the only one. trust me, there are many more better guys out there, you just gotta look a little harder and deeper. =]

Answer 9

Go ahead and give him a lapdance..... Dump the fool he obviously doesn't have strong feelings for you or else he would never, "need a break." that's the problem with youth nowdays, they think sex makes an everlasting bond.. When in-fact it does absolutely nothing. Dumb him and when he comes crawling back because he misses you see how things go...

Answer 10

I am so sorry your feelings are hurt. Have a good cry and choose to forgive him. Do things that comfort you and help you see that life is still good. You will survive this, and there will be many new, good things that come into your life. Count your blessings, and realize that his departure may be one of them.