Okay this is a long story, bear with me please! your opinion would be very much appreciated.
About two years ago my sister had told me that when she was babysitting my husband had come home drunk with a friend of his and asked her to su#k his d@ck. I had talked to him about it and we fought for a while about it he denied it. Then he wanted to get her involved in the conversation, but she was scared. Later in the week she had said that she lied about it, so i decided to let it slide because i knew somhow the truth would come out. So I brought it up to my sister the other week and she was scared of her new boyfriend finding out. I asked her why and she said because he woulnt trust her if he found out that she s#cked his d@ck! and then quickly changed it and the look in her eye was shocked Maybe that she had given it away?? Ihave always had weird feelings about them like they avoid each other when im around...I told you it was a long story lol
2007-12-17 16:06:02 · 13 answers · asked by boohbahs 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know what the LOL is all about. Your sister is screwing your husband... That is my opinion. If they avoid each other, HELLO! You already know the answer. God bless****
2007-12-17 16:14:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The ages of these people would be important.
As for your husband denying it, OF COURSE HE DID what else was he supposed to do?
If your sister was underage when this happened, it should cause a slightly different reponse than if she was a consenting adult. If she was underage I think I might file for divorce and contact the police. They can make her talk and they can see that he does not do this to any other babysitter.
I dont know what you should do if she was overage, but my heart bleeds for you. Two of the people you love the most have stabbed you in the heart.
I suppose since he was drunk he is going to use that as an excuse so at the very least you should DEMAND that his drinking days are over if he wants to keep his family, if divorce is not an option for you.
Keep in mind that a drunk man's mouth is generally a sober mans mind..meaning if this is what he does when he is drunk, it is what he is thinking about when he isnt. It would creep me out that my husband disrespected me but not only screwing in my house but screwing my sister. Is there anything lower? Has he tried to hit on your mom, your grandmother, your child's friends?
This man seems not to know shame!
I can't for the life of me see what is LOL, I am pissed just reading about this...
Furthermore, you need to be sure that he does not have an opportunity to enteract with any other potential babysitters....you owe these children in your neighborhood that much...and YOU could be held responsible if you knew he had this potential and you allowed this to go on
I dont know what is LOL about any of this...this is so sad for not just you and your sister but YOUR KIDS
2007-12-18 00:18:44 · answer #2 · answered by lisa s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband may have said that. Your husband may be a total ******. It's a shame your sister saw that side of him. Where were you, by the way? I wouldn't even allow that opportunity to come up, ever, knowing what has been discussed.
Your husband may have said that because 1) he thinks it would be cool to have illicit sex and 2) he's a drinker. Yes, he's a drinker - you know that - but there are people who drink and there are people who come home drunk. Your husband belongs in that latter category. Now you have learned what that can mean. Don't trust him around anyone again if you know he's been drinking.
A real obnoxious drunk is ten times more obnoxious when he wants to be cool around his 'buddy' who he's brought home with him. Know that, too...
2007-12-18 00:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definetly find out the answer to this !
First .. have a gentle talk with your sister. Assure her that she has nothing to be scared of .. with your husband, or you. Tell her that you won't be mad at her .. but you need to know the real truth. Add that you understand if she was scared, etc. Appeal to her as you know how, as her sister.
I don't know the age of your sister .. or your husband .. but the truth needs to be revealed. Your sister is probably the best way to find out .. but she may be so scared of what your husband might say or do .. and she might be scared of you getting really mad .. and she might be scared of getting into so much trouble .. so she needs to be given solid ground of reassurance.
If his happened, could it be that she was taken advantage of?
If it were me .. I would not stop until I found out the truth ... however, some people would not want to know the truth.
I am a stranger who would want to know the truth from my sister ... because if my husband did "that" ... grrrrrrr .. I would never even want to look at him again.
This will always be a mystery that will hang over your head. Also .. what if he really did this? omg.
You need to know.
2007-12-18 00:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have to ask yourself what your sister has to gain by lying to you about something like this...probably nothing right? Then you should consider the fact that your husband was drunk so he was more likely to be unfaithful or act out of character if he was drunk. Usually if you follow your heart and your instincts it will lead you in the right way. Sometimes we try to deny things that we don't want to accept but in all honesty it sounds like something happened. The only question is did your sister go through with it or was it just your husband that violated your trust? I would sit down with her and have a serious heart to heart talk with her about what you are feeling. I would give her the chance to answer your questions before you make any accusations that you may regret later. After that I would sit down and talk to my husband and ask the same questions. If your husband asked her that then obviously you cannot trust him when he is drinking. Even if nothing else happened other than him asking her that is a violation of your trust with him. He should have never crossed that line. It would have been bad for him to ask any one but for him to ask your sister is the worst in my opinion. That is your sister and he should never try to come in between your relationship with her.
2007-12-18 00:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take into consideration that he was drunk. That doesn't make it right, but even if it's true there can be reconciliation. Of course they act weird around eachother given the circumstance, but it doesn't mean he's currently cheating with her. Maybe he'll tell you the truth, maybe he won't, but fighting about it will probably bring no resolution. You can't force the truth out of anyone.
2007-12-18 00:23:27 · answer #6 · answered by mommyoffour 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that maybe she did it and maybe more!!! Besides the fact that he said it wither she did it or not is wrong. I would keep close eye on them two.....and I would find out who his friend was that night and see what they know about your sister and him!!!!
2007-12-18 00:24:30 · answer #7 · answered by ~Stepa♥~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um...wow, why would your sister do that, to you? Why would your husband do that to you, even if he was drunk? That isn't right, I would divorce him if I was you.
2007-12-18 00:20:21 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would believe it and even wonder if something more had happened from the way she's acting. I would question her more.
2007-12-18 00:14:25 · answer #9 · answered by Adrianna Scar 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
he is lying ide divorce my wife if that happened tom. although that is sometimes hard when yer married & in love
2007-12-18 00:14:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋