CONCERNED about spouse abuse issues?

Question

My wife and I just had a heated argument. She says she is going to file a police report tomorrow. I did not hurt her or threaten her. We yelled, got close and yelled. She hit me in the face six times. She spit in my face. I spit back. That's when she said she was calling the police.

My spitting back was wrong, and pulling the phone from her hand to try to reason with her was wrong. But in no way did I plan to scare or hurt her. I never have and couldn't imagine doing anything like that.

I am concerned on two parts:
1) Her filing a report - how does this affect my record? Is it public? CAN EMPLOYERS SEE IT?
2) She hit me in the face. That's HER abusing me. I am not worried about being harmed but ****, that's not exactly love.

Any legal advice?

Answer 1

You can search "SPOUSE ABUSE" by Google. There are different laws in different states. Based on my understanding from my friends' stories, if your wife tells the police what happened between her and you tonight, both of you will be in trouble, that is, you and your wife's names will be in the local police station. But if there is no hard evidence, the police officer can't do anything. Thus, there will not be any public records unless the arrest issued.

By the way, we all have heated moments. Share with you my mom's wisdom:"When you are angry or mad, don't say anything; when you are calm down, think how to speak."

Hope things will be better tomorrow

Answer 2

Yes, if she hit you than you should be the one filing a police report. Because if you don't when she divorces you and she WILL she will accuse you of abuse. And the court will most likely listen to her unless you have a police report stating that she has hit you.

I would get as far away from her as you can. Because even though studies show that women are more abusive than men the general public doesn't want to admit it or believe it. No matter what she does..don't hit her back unless she is really trying to hurt you. She knows if she hits you she won't leave any bruises but if you hit her you will cause her to bruise. So get out of there .

Answer 3

Not legal advice, I am not an attorney. However, she is the one that assaulted her. Call the police and file a report and have her butt arrested for domestic violence. You really should not have spit on her that is just nasty... She needs to keep her emotions in check and keep her hands to herself... Tell her to check the laws, women do get charged these days if she has left a mark on you she will go to jail. Yes, it does show up on your record if charges are filed not the call to report. Unless it is found necessary to file charges. God bless****

Answer 4

First of all, file a police report on her! She hit you, for heavens sake, why are you putting up with this. And why are you staying married; you need to put distance between you. I can't give you legal advice, you would have to speak to a lawyer about that. But I am sure the police could tell you.

Answer 5

first off...been there done this...don't wait for her to call and make the report on you...2nd you can also getted nailed for grabbing the phone if she claims she was trying to call for help(this is against the law) and yes it is public record...if you both get past this without the cops getting involved...you both should get outside help if you want to continue a strong and healthy relationship...if it happens once then the chances of it happening again is very high....if the cops get in the pic..a judge can order a temp restraining order...order counceling and or anger managment...our courts take these matters very seriously...and 9 times out 10 the cops believe the women...public isn't so aware of abuse towards men

Answer 6

My heart is going out to you, you're able to get out of there has quickly as attainable. have you ever considered going to a girl's shelter. they have leads & i'm optimistic they'd assist you to with employment,legal professionals, & counseling. I lived maximum of my existence in those sort relationships as a results of fact i became into raised interior an analogous element. ultimately @ forty six i became into waiting to break loose & exchange my existence. you're being verbally & mentally abused, if he pushes you this is actual abuse.existence is so short to could circulate Thur all that. To Thy very own Self Be real. you're actually not caught Hon have been there's a will there is away. Pray & ask GOD to instruct you the way & he will.

Answer 7

it depends on who has the marks on their body you no the police is go in to look at that i'm sorry to hear that but you guys need to sit down like civilized people and DISCUSS don't be hating on each other man when she yells you turn of your listening ears let her go on words won't harm nobody let it fly in the air as for the hitting let her no you're not accepting that if she wants to hit put her in a boxing ring or something good luck man hope it works out

Answer 8

if you know shes going to do this then you would want to file one before her.. maybe by morning she will have thought about it and not do anything.. if things are heating up like that alot then maybe you need to get out before she does blame something on you that you didnt do.. if she files against you first you will be the one going away not her.. might be best if you split up for a while and try to work things out.. or if that cant be done then part ways.. good luck

Answer 9

do not wait til tomorrow. you call and talk to the police. get out of the house for the night. give her time to cool off. most of the time if she does not call when it happens she will never call the police. this woman sounds psycho. maybe u should renegotiate your relationship.

Answer 10

dont quit on your relationship after 1 fight, theres no sense in dragging personal matters to the cops work it out