we are thinking about gettin married though we're in our 2nd year of college. though we go to 2 different universties they are only 30minutes away and if we got in apartment in the middle it would only be a 15min drive to either of them. my parents want us to wait and his parents really don't care. we both want to, and even if our parents did not pay for it we could afford a humble wedding. is it okay to get married now? we've known eachother since our senior year in highschool and are very much in love. could it work?
2007-12-17 15:20:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i don't want to live together first. it's against what i believe in so rule that one out please.
2007-12-17 15:25:40 · update #1
if we died tomorrow i don't want to regret doing it or not doing it
2007-12-17 15:31:19 · update #2
YES,YES I say YES again.You pretty much have it made,go for it..Make sure to look for the place to live as soon as possible this way that wont become an issue,and if you both ar ein love then what are you waiting for? Good Luck,best wishes....
2007-12-17 15:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by hiddensecretangel 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would probably be a good idea for ya'll to wait at least till one of you finishes college. It would be kinda hard with both of you in college trying to make a go of something as serious as marriage and trying to study and exams and all that. Ya'll live so close that you can see each other any time you want but still have your own space when you need it for school work and studing. Believe me, it's one thing to date and all, but it's a whole different ball game when you get married, and are with each other all the time.You will be trying to bring 2 lives together and going to college and trying to study and everything else, it could make problems instead of making it better!!Try to think about it from all angels, and figure out what will be best for you right now. If you both are truly in love then, you can wait till the time is right!
2007-12-17 23:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by blondi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think finishing school would be the FIRST thing to do but only you two know how established you are and if you can really handle it. I think (Now this is just my opinion, I know some other users might throw stones at me) but it might not be so bad to move in for now and maybe hold off on the marriage. You can try it out and see how it goes. It might make or break your marriage. Yes i know some folks are old fashioned about things like that but let's face it, TIMES HAVE CHANGED. It's not exactly something that's frowned upon anymore. You two need to do what YOU feel is right. You're both adults and it doesn't sound like anyone is gonna be paying your bills. Well except maybe for school, I dont' know the situation. You'll figure it out.
****Food for thought. I got married at 22, and to even say it was still strong in our 5th year is stretching it. I'm now divorcing. I really think age was a factor in that one. BUT, like they say, "only the person carrying the sack truly knows what's in it. That being said........
Good luck : )
2007-12-17 23:33:40 · answer #3 · answered by grneyedgrly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into it . A lot of young people do. Take your time marriage can wait a little longer. Finish school first get financially stable. Find out more about each other. The smallest things can end a marriage. Do you and your partner want the same things out of life? Ask a lot of questions to see where you stand on everything.
2007-12-17 23:57:29 · answer #4 · answered by mandy c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make a list of pro's and con's. Your marriage will work if you both understand the demands and expectations of what you are doing. Trying to create a relationship(and its a different one when you get married than when you are dating.) is hard when you have the rigors of college ahead of you.
If you were my daughter I would strongly advise you to wait. Life is hard and it comes at you fast. You have all the rest of your life to be a wife, take this time to get this done so that you can actually enjoy being married.
2007-12-17 23:56:38 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are adults, if you want to and have talked about all the things that make relationships work and fail - then go for it. Humble weddings are the best anyway. It's not about the wedding, it's about the commitment.
2007-12-17 23:25:34 · answer #6 · answered by lilwoman 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wouldn't it be nice to have your educations behind you, your careers on track and parents that are happy and supportive about your marriage? There's really no rush if you're going to be together for a lifetime. Relax.. You have plenty of time.
2007-12-17 23:28:31 · answer #7 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course it can work but don't rush it. Finish school and get your careers off the ground. One thing at a time. You'll feel better.
2007-12-17 23:25:34 · answer #8 · answered by jognmiles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait till you graduate. If your love is strong enough for marriage, it will wait and be there after you are finished with school.
2007-12-17 23:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with April.
Continue to date until you finish school.
2007-12-17 23:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by Kazoo M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋