What Should I do im really scared?

Question

I am 16 y.o. I was dating a 35 year old guy.We have had sex 3 times to be exact.This guy started talking to me 1st. He told me he loved me and wanted to marry me.Now he hasnt called me or nothing in weeks and I feel sick for letting him have sex with me.It was illegal for us to have sex but now I feel sick for having sex with this middle aged man!The 1st time we hooked up was November 3,07

Answer 1

Hi La La,

I know you probably think I am tripping but please listen to me. I have a 16 and a 20 year old (both girls) I would have a cow and fuss for weeks if my 20 year old decided she wants to date someone old enough for me to date. I would stare him down and just flat out be rude to the point of him never ever wanting to come back to my house. My kid would be mad at me...I would explain to her that he is wayyyyyyyyyy too old for her to date....but if he stuck around after meeting me and esp her dad eventually I would back off..........I think her dad would be a much larger issue. Now besides us throwing a b-fit......AND ACTING like A S S HOLES......there would be nothing else we could do.

My 16 year old is a completely different story. I would be fighting mad.....not at her...but with him. Somebody would be going to hell and somebody would be going to jail.

This is not a fling, not a relationship, not a love affair, not a romantic interlude..........HE RAPED YOU.

Go tell your parents...please expect them to flip out on you at first. They need time to process this...........once they do their initial flipping out.....their next move should be the prosecutors office. DUDE IS A PEDOPHILE!!!!! u aint his first under age victim and wont be his last.

Answer 2

You need to tell someone fast. A parent, a teach you trust, anyone you can trust. Honey. You've been raped. You need to go to the doctor and get tested for STIs and pregnancy. You also need to talk to the police about him. What he did was wrong, and he should have known better. Do not blame yourself, he is an adult and he needs to take responsibility for what he did, which can include pressing charges with the police.

You know how sick and horrible you feel right now? Do you want any other girl, your best friends, to ever feel this way? If the answers 'no' you need to talk to someone and the police to charge this lying jerk with statutory rape. What he did was wrong, and he will probably do it again to other girls. To keep yourself safe and happy and to save other girls from him you need to do this.

Understand he is NOT a real man. A real man would never presuade a child (you're 16, you're not an adult yet, especially not 35.) with lies about love and marriage to rape them. And it was rape, you're a victim.

Answer 3

Its hard when your so young to understand or see the consquences of having sex with someone you dont really know...You have made a mistake and hopefully you will learn from it ...as for comment on stat rape forget it you said you were willing so now you just need to build up your confidence and not let this happen again to you.I understand your probably very confused and upset atm but ask yourself would it be ok to report this and jail this man because of your OWN poor judgement..

Think twice before having sex with anyone and when you decide to always be safe ...

Not that im condoning this mans actions at all

Answer 4

First of all, there is nothing wrong with you. He is the sick pervert, not you. Second, I know what you are going through because when I was 17 I was sleeping with a 31 year old man. I don't regret it, but I do know that it was a mistake. He made me believe that he loved me, and being an insecure teenage girl, I wanted to believe him. Now I realize he was using me for sex and to fulfill his sick fantasy. If you want to talk more, feel free to email me [e-mail]

Answer 5

What were you thinking?
Do you honestly think that this man loves you?
He's 35. He probably already has a family started and using you as a " toy ".
Doesn't that make you feel bad?
You have too:
1. Tell your parents.
2. Get tested for STD.
3. If you still have his e - mail, numbers or any form of communication. Go to the police and get this guy arrested for statutory rape! Do you want him hurting other girls?

Answer 6

Only a weirdo of 35 years of age would have sex with a 16 yr old. @_@ Now that you know, you should have been smarter. I advise you to let your parents know and let them help you. I hope they are understanding too. If you are afraid to tell your parents, you can report it to DCF(if you live in america) or your local social/child services. You need to get tested for STD or STI and pregnancy. Don't wait any longer. Good luck.

Answer 7

I'm very, very sorry u fell for this sexual predator. He was only using u dear girl. In all probability he is married and has children.
Well, put it behind u as a very bad dream. You are only 16, u have a whole life ahead of u.
Is there some-one u really, really trust? try talking to that person about it or tell ur mom.
And in future be very, very careful of whom u date

(((((hugs))))

Answer 8

Stuff like this happens. It's life, just not life right now. Pay attention to the good things now. Cross that bridge when you get there. Try calming yourself down by rubbing under your collarbone with 2 fingers. Hope this helped! :D

Answer 9

What is your question? What are you scared over that you might be pregnant? Take a test. If you feel that this man man be a threat to you, talk to your parents about it and tell them that you made a mistake, and be prepared for the consequences, as he should be.

Answer 10

Why are you scared? You should be happy he hasnt called you. He probably realized what he was doing! Hopefully you atleast had safe sex. Please learn from this and stick with boys your own age. This could have ended up really bad, there are a lot of older men out there preying on young girls.