It's really been three years since I've had a gift for Christmas. I'm 16. My Parents sent me to rome last year to make up for chrismtas, but that was in march. Am I being greedy? Last year I got the Jackass2 movie a few days before, but nothing really under the tree. My family is on the verdge of divorce, my father drinks, my mom lacks a companion, and the one person i truly love no matter what he did, is mad because he is in a financial situation where he can't afford gifts. Is it worng for me to just want christmas for what it is? Is it wrong for me to want a present? I feel like everyone has perfect lifes they are living, then theres us. I make up 'gifts'. My mom will start a month before saying "this is for under the tree" when sh ebuys me something i need like nice undies..Is there something wrong with this picture? Why does it make me cry?
2007-12-17 14:26:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
Guys, I'm 16. I've dealt with many things in my life that I just wouldn't have wanted to. How many people can say that their father has told them to suck his cock? I don't know if it's about the gifts, or a rooted anger. I just want a normal family christmas with happy people at home. I don't mean to make it sound like it's all about the gifts, but it's tough when the traditional sense of christmas is butchered to someonel.
2007-12-17 14:36:59 · update #1
No. I actually don't think your being selfish. Yes - you have been very lucky that you were able to get a few gifts and go to Rome. I hope you are greatful for that.
But, I think with all the chaos around you, you miss having a nice family Christmas with love and yes, also the presents (although they are secondary). I think because you do not have the love part of Christmas, that at the very least you want to be reminded of better family times via one aspect that seems easily accessible. This being a present under the tree.
I think you are just going through an emotional time and need to be strong. But you have to realize you are not the only one in a difficult situation and pull up your socks. I suggest volunteering with an organization that serves holiday meals to the needy or maybe a toy drive.
You also should go back to what Christmas means and find the joy and wonder of the season. Go to church and get involved there - you will be welcome with open arms into the family and love with G-d.
I am not super religious but I feel that you need to turn to G-d at this time of the season and time in your life.
Good luck. You will overcome this. Happy holidays.
2007-12-17 14:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emily,
You sound like you are pretty down right now, If your Mom buys things and says "this is for under the tree" why aren't these things sitting under the tree???
If your parents could afford to send you to Europe that sounds like there is not a big lack of money in your house, Why aren't you taking your mom to the mall to buy for the whole family, yourself included....??
If you know someone who has less money than you who likes/loves you what are you doing for him for Christmas....
It is not greedy to want Christmas and it is not wrong to be so frustrated you would like to cry especially around Christmas..
It is not wrong to want a 'normal' Christmas. It is not wrong to want things for Christmas....Bottom line is most people do not have the perfect Christmas they would have you believe, at least your name is not on the Angel Tree at the mall, which if you have the money you could be making someone elses Christmas better.....
It sounds like you are stuck being the adult in your family, start by not accepting anything as a gift for Christmas with out wrapping it and putting it under the tree....then there will be gifts under the tree. Next shop for others and put those gifts under the tree... more under the tree...Everytime you go out with Mom even to the grocery store get stuff that can 'go under the tree'
All this makes you want to cry because you know your chilhood is pretty much over and your life is about to change maybe drastically and you don't know for better or for worse...
You still have a week until Christmas so start right now making a Christmas for your self and as many others as you can.......
2007-12-17 15:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by Judy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it's true that Christmas is about more than gifts it's also perfectly normal for you be a little upset about a lack of, especially when seeing how happy your friends probably are about all they get on Christmas morning. I often feel the same way. While mentally and emotionally I accept what the season is about and that financially it's impossible for my family to have gifts like we did when I was younger it's still upsetting that morning to not have at least one small gift under the tree.
There's nothing wrong with crying, just don't let it overwhelm you and think that one day things will be better.
2007-12-17 14:40:09 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy_Suto 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Christmas is more than gifts. I don't care if I get any at all, rather not actually. I know my boyfriend isn't getting me anything. Mom got me something but returned it because I already just bought it for myself. My brother and I agreed no gifts unless we find something perfect.
But I am having a wonderful Christmas season. I am making all the food for Christmas eve and wrapping gifts for everyone.
Get in the spirit, you can make some cookies, decorate, make things for your parents, sing some carols. Try a few new recipes and eat some pie.
If you need Santa to come give your mom money to get you something she can wrap. Worry more about what you are giving than what you are getting and you will have a wonderful Christmas time.
2007-12-17 14:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by shipwreck 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Christmas isn't about gifts, but they sure help! I think it's human to feel that way, especially if our expectations of the holiday aren't met. I don't think you're being selfish, I know what's been the Christmas "norm" in my family in the past and no gifts would be a major blow to those expectations.
2007-12-17 14:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
because you are selfish. All you can think about is presents? How about other people in your life? it sounds like they need help more than you.
2007-12-17 14:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by 2U2 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋