I live with my best friend during term time in lancaster as I am a student at lancaster uni. While my friend was at work the other day he tried it on with me. I said no, and gave him a telling off and left it as that as he had had a few to drink. I know that ppl will think I should have told my friend but the thing is that even when he had cheated on her before she begged HIM to stay with her, he's violent towards her also but she will never leave him, despite my countless amounts of attempts to convince her to. the next night he tried again and was a bit more pushy, grabbing hold of me so i slapped him. Im scared she wil stay with him if i told her and it would also affect our relationship. I would also have nowhere to live while at uni..its her house you see. What do I do? I hate this guy, have done from the word go, but she will never leave him i know she wont, i cant stress enough how much ive tried. Im also not comfortable staying in with him anymore on my own. Any advise?
2007-12-17 14:02:36 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know it's not what you want to hear, but it's what you know you should do - tell her that he's "coming onto you" and that she should do something about it. When he tries to do it, push him away from you. Get out of there if you have to! Just drive around or take a walk. Tell him you're not interested and you don't want to do that to your best friend.
What will hurt your best friend the most: hiding this from her. Tell her you don't want to break them up but he's making you uncomfortable. All you have to do is tell her. If she finds out and you DIDN'T tell her, you're going to have a bigger problem.
And most of all, tell her that you love her and don't want to see her get hurt.
Just whatever you do, don't be rude about it. Don't tell her her boyfriend is scum, even though it sounds like he is.
2007-12-17 14:12:32 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he tries it on, you call the police and lodge a formal complaint of sexual harrassment against him. AND tell your friend what he's doing.
You'll have to start looking for a place to live, unfortunately. Ask you students' union office to help you out with this. They should also be able to provide you with support in dealing with that asshole.
Your friend ... oh honey, I don't think you can help her if she doesn't want to be helped. But you can always keep tabs on the situation. By telling the police about what he's doing to you, they will be alerted to him and his violent tendencies. At least you can help your friend indirectly this way.
2007-12-18 08:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to leave the house,having nowhere to stay while at uni is better than living with a pervert who won't take no for an answer,threaten to involve the police or invite some male friends round when he's alone,whatever happens get out before he gets too drunk and goes further
2007-12-17 22:26:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your her freind then you would tell her.. to save her problems in later times with him
2007-12-17 22:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by Spooky Mouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
castrate him in his sleep.
2007-12-17 22:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by mushaboom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋