Does she have time to keep up with her appearance and weight, do you like the way she look now that she's a little bit older?
2007-12-17 14:00:28 · 14 answers · asked by 結縁 Heemei 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-12-17 14:08:55 · update #1
008 I agree with you, pregnancy is hard on a woman's body.
2007-12-17 14:10:06 · update #2
My wife never had children but I think that I have something to share that may be helpful. I didn't get married until I was 40 y/o. Before I met my wife I had a serious relation with 2 women that each had 2 children. (I didn't date them at the same time :-)
Each one was beautiful and had great figures even though they had had children. Before I met my x-wife, I finally realized that I had been stupid to limit my dating to pretty women. When I met her she looked average but as I came to love her she then looked beautiful to me.
We were married 19 and 1/2 years. She was 39 when we got married and 59 y/o when we were divorced. She had gained some weight and was 20 years older but she still looked beautiful to me.
I had experienced that when you love someone and look through eyes of love, the person looked at, looks beautiful.
You wanted the hard stuff too. I will admit that after she gained about 20 pounds she was not as exciting to look at when she was naked and I had wished that she had stayed slim. However, she wasn't the only person to gain weight. I gained 20 pounds before she did and I know that I was less attractive to her also.
I think that the reason a lot of women don't lose the extra weight after having children is because that they have to do more work to take care of the children and don't take the time for themselves to diet and exercise. This is true for husbands also.
You know, many woman who are thin and pretty, feel unattractive when they are pregnant and worry whether their husbands still love them. They also worry about whether they will be able to regain their shape after the child is born.
If I had had a happy marriage and if I had not developed serious health problems, I would have been so thrilled if my wife was pregnant. Maybe your husband is too!
I hope that something I have written has helped. You, your husband, and your children are special to me. God bless you in everything.
2007-12-17 18:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that every person is different beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder.I am married with 2 kids and my hubby loves my body.For me i am 5 ft 5 -5 ft 6 before pregnancy i weighed 105 pounds was a size zero-one and my chest did not fill up completley a 32 a bra.Well now after two kids i have filled in to 110-113 pounds,my boobs have filled in and have a cute booty.And i am actually in better shape than i was before i had my 2 kids ages 4 and 1.5 yrs old.Its all on how you take care of yourself ,having a healthy lifesylye,and how much effort you are willing to put in or put aside for you to feel good about you .
2007-12-17 22:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dated 3 women who had kids and their bodies varied but they all looked good to me. I mean yes a woman's body does change some and many women often are left with stretch marks but I do not think that is anything to be concerned with, I still thought the women were really good looking. One had some stretch marks and a little area that stuck out as many women have after they have children. I still found her very attractive sexually. So I say yes, I am not married, yet like I said I have dated and "been with" 3 women that had children and I thought they still had sexy and attractive bodies. One of the women was about 33 and one was 38 and they looked fine to me. =)
2007-12-17 22:27:38 · answer #3 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I've been married to the same woman for over 30 years. She weighs the same as she did the day we married, with two kids at that.
That is not to say that the weight has not relocated.
Does it matter though? Not really. If it did it would not say much for me would it? The truth is I'm more interested in whats between the ears than the container.
2007-12-17 22:16:01 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Look at Victoria Beckham after 2 or 3 kids.
2007-12-18 01:14:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should ask this question. "Ladies do you like the way your husband looks now that he's older?"
I'd like to say that I had 2 kids, I'm 50 years old. I've always kept myself in good shape. I weigh the same as the day we got married. I was thin then, and I'm thin now. My hair is always done, I dress nice etc.
My husband on the other hand has gained probably 40 pounds, has a gut, and is losing his hair.
I love him just as much as ever, and I know he'd love me just as much whether I got fat or not.
2007-12-17 22:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by tess 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
A husband should love his wife no matter what, and the fact that she is the mother of his children...MOST MEN find that more attractive.
I am pregnant with #7, and I am in as good of shape, as I was before I ever had children. It's all about taking care of yourself.
...... And to you 008. your just mean, rude and disgusting to me, speak for yourself, not all men, because not all men think like you think,
2007-12-17 22:16:23 · answer #7 · answered by peacefrogzs 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
008 that's so mean! I'm actually thinner now than before I had my kids but whatever. I hope all men don't think you.
2007-12-17 22:07:13 · answer #8 · answered by plastic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get em Smile....grawl grawl...scratch scratch...... I agree, my wife looks just as good if not better than before she was pregnant....besides her back side is kicking...I mean damn.... if you could see it...you would be like ... baby got nice back.... lol Seriously, they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder...Not real sure what that means... but I do know that my wife was so cute during her pregnancy and is still cute today...
2007-12-17 22:12:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
No we don't like it no matter what you hear. Pregnancy is brutal on women. I know we are supposed to say that is when you look the most beautiful but that is a lie. If you are young and really work hard afterwards you have a chance to get back to close to normal or better.
2007-12-17 22:05:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 4⤋