I found out a year ago that my brother has been cheating on his wife since October of 2006. He has even proposed to his mistress and talked of having children with her!
I've talked to him several times about it and he keeps saying that he is going to divorce his wife and that he is going to keep the truth about the affair from her "because it would hurt her too much." He's been saying the same thing since LAST Christmas.
Now he is bringing his clueless wife home for the Holidays. I know he hasn't loved his wife in years and that he apparently loves the mistress very much. I am VERY mad at him for putting me in this situation. I am supposed to smile and look his wife in the face and pretend that they are a happy married couple?
I actually really like and respect his wife. I don't think she is very happy with him though, but her family doesn't believe in divorce. Do I tell her of my idiot brother's affair? He seems to want to but is unable because of guilt at hurting her.
2007-12-17 13:36:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He has put you in a very bad position. That aside, I would tell her. If he loves his mistress then more power to him. Maybe you should give him an ultimatum for him to tell her before new years or something. If he doesn't tell her yourself. She probably won't divorce him anyway. Him saying that he doesn't want to hurt her is a pitiful excuse and makes it seem as if she is fragile. I'm sure she's not a child and can handle it. It's his way of backing out of being a man about it.
2007-12-17 13:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by Adrianna Scar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to tell her because she will find the truth the hard way and she will be more hurt when someone didnt tell her straight away, BUT dont tell her on christmas because that would ruin her holiday. Maybe a little after christmas or new year's day.
2007-12-17 13:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by Oh, that one girl ;) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u sure your brother's wife really don't know anything, women have great sense for this kind of thing. maybe she still love your brother that she pretend not to know.
talk to her and u will know if she has any clue. whatever it is, u shdn't be the one to disclose this nightmare to her. if your brother has no feeling for her, tell him to disclose his affair to his wife. good luck
2007-12-17 14:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by JJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless his affair is with your wife, you don't have a dog in this fight. Stay out of it, you have nothing to gain and everything to lose.
2007-12-17 13:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell her .and then tell him you tould her.its best she knows so she can do what she needs to.best of luck to you.would you want to know if the shoes where the other way.then do what you would want to know.
2007-12-17 13:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give him a deadline to confess himself or tell him you are going to tell her. Give him a week to fess up, if he doesn't then tell her yourself.
2007-12-17 14:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by nashvillezta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mouth shut!! You have no business in their business!
2007-12-17 13:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by I play the game 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋