how do you tell?
what is the difference between bullying a friend and abusing mentally?
what makes the abuser not afraid to show his dark side in front of his victim? he feels safe and comfortable to do so? for the victim is weak? or because he knows that the victim would tolerate as they are close?
2007-12-17 13:31:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Bullies are bullies becase they are insecure. They don't pick you because you are friends, they pick you for reasons that only they understand. No matter what anyone says, you can never fully understand why someone picks you unless you talk to them about it. You won't get a real answer on the internet. Everyone is different, though at our core we all share similarities, life changes us all and makes us who we are. That is why some questions shoud only be answered by the subject of the question. The subject is the bully, ask him. Don't be mean to the bully, remember that there is a reason he is doing it and he may be hurting inside already. A guy started bullying me once in 3rd grade, it is not true that they won't bully people bigger than them, after he got tired of trying to hit me i talked to him, he stopped being mean to everyone.
2007-12-17 13:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by turkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most bullies select certain types of people to bully i.e. who seem insecure.
If you have a "friend" who is abusing you mentally, you should first of all tell him/her that you dont like what s/he is doing. If they continue, you should stop considering that person a friend and stop spending time with that person.
The abuser is not afraid to show his/her dark side because s/he knows the victim will not confront the bully or challenge his/her behaviour.
I dont think bullying necessarily has anything to do with them being close friends as you dont have to be a close friend to get bullied.
2007-12-17 13:41:23 · answer #2 · answered by Chimera's Song 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They abuse you probably as they copy the physical abuse they got/get as a child at home - watching their father smack their brother about or themselves....
Remember, all children 'copy' behaviour. Be it destructive (violence, swearing) - or more normal and positive behaviour such as an interest in sports or academia.
A bully wants revenge - they pick on the weak, because inside - they are weak too.
A bully is always weaker than the victim, because if he/she wasn't, there would be no need to 'bully' anyone at all.
2007-12-17 13:46:34 · answer #3 · answered by dead 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Either and/or both.
To bully someone is a sign of weakness, a problem they have, not the victim.
That said, some bully's are BIG bully's, not to be messed with by their victim.
If you are a victim, seek help, now, please.
Just call 999 or 911 if that is your only choice.
Bully's ? VVankers.
2007-12-17 13:42:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
They think they can get away with it. When someone bullies you, if you don't have good support, you can feel alone and not sure what you can do. So it may appear to the bully that he/she has you cowed. If this is happening to you, speak to others who have been in this situation. Better to get out sooner than later, but getting out when ever you can is best.
2007-12-17 14:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An abusive person is like that because they were taught that this threatment of people will somehow make them feel they are in control and gives themself self worth being superior to others.
Abusers are dependant on others for their self worth and weak because of it.
2007-12-17 13:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by johnboy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its because you're weak. Some bullies will spend ages knocking you down emotionally until they get you weak enough for the physical stuff to start. They drain you of everything you have and then blame you. Bullies never pick on anyone stronger than them and if you fight back you lose your appeal to them.
2007-12-17 13:40:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
He bullies you because you gave away your power to him. Your first job is to take back your power. It is yours. It belongs to you. It is not his.
When you get your power back from him, you will note the bullying will stop. He will no longer have any influence over you. He will no longer have control over you.
If you need help from others in getting back your power, then find some help that way, but first and foremost, get your power back.
When you do, you will soon begin to be right in the head again. Bullying hurts. It takes awhile to get it all together again after it's over with.
2007-12-17 13:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
bullies bully mainly because of social inadequacies. they feel weak and threqatened and so being thick as pig sh it, they cant vocalise their arguments, and so lash out, physically and verbally...
i met my bully many years ago... he was drunk in a gutter... and i was much the worse for wear after a night on the stella and a fiery vindaloo... and well i threw up all over him... and it felt so good...
i see him occasionally, drunken and staggering around the city centre with a carrier bag and a bottle of cider... being abused by the youngsters... karma... its gonna get you in the end
2007-12-17 13:42:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
no hun the buly is actually the one is weak n afraid they put this front on to hide that but inside they r scared
2007-12-17 13:38:50 · answer #10 · answered by Psychologist In The House 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋