I wanna change my personality bcuz im tired of my friends acting like they run me and show me lack of respect and i dont wanna end up beating the crap out of them , plus too many say ima following and im not i rather be a leader please give me pointers so i can turn into a leader and a better person?
2007-12-17 13:14:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
you could get some assertiveness training. there are lots of websites on it, and books, or you could go to a community counsellor and do role playing. you can achieve a change which gives you satisfaction after a short time of trying the strategies. btw it doesnt mean you're a worse person than anyone else, even though you're not yet a leader. theres an inbetween position, too, not just 'leader' or 'follower'.. there are other ways, but this is just one i can think of right now. some others....not to have your friends opinion your main focus. get good at something you like. do some voluntary work to help people or animals. do random acts of kindness, soppy though that might sound. you might not need to be a leader, but just to have more self respect and feel like you have respect of others. if you're doing what you consider worthwhile, you wont need others to confirm that. but they probably will. all the best. its good you want to do something to improve your life.
2007-12-17 13:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by pippa_wonders 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To anwser that, you can change your personality on the outside, but never in the inside. If your getting lack of respect, step up and tell them how you feel, dont just let them control you like a puppet. If there your real friends, they would be happy to hear you opinion. Remember stay away from drugs, it can mess you up and you will regret it in the long run.
To be a leader you must show your willing to do whats best, and to make the best choices possible. Followers are people who don't know what way to choose and taking advice from others. A little advice every once in a while can help though. Fighting is never the anwser, ending in hurt feelings, punishment, and lots of grudges! Try to find the possitive's about you.
Do your best, choose the right choices, willing and unafriad of doing what needs to be done. That makes a great leader, but don't forget, Have respect and listen to others opinion. People don't like snobby jerks! Try to improve your downsides, and never give up, and ill promise you that you will see a change in your lifetime.
Have a nice day!
2007-12-17 13:33:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i got good news and bad news!
Good news = You can change your self...
Bad news = It will not be Fast. . . sorry everyone wishes their were a way tho!
let me explain
Once you know what you want other then the generic better person and leader.. Pick the traits :) only say this because there are good an bad leaders soft heart and mean and by the book and oh i can go on!!!
so you have to be much more detailed with what you want. and make the plan and work it.
most importantly don't beat your self up if you don't change over night ... good change takes time!!
so practice and if you fall back pick yourself up and practice again!
best wishes
2007-12-17 13:26:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start out by reading about things you talk about with your friends, and thinking about what you read. It can be politics, music, an assignment, or something else that will probably come up in conversation. Form an opinion about it - like it, dislike it, whatever, but develop an opinion that you believe in. If it's contrary to what the others think, so much the better. Try to come up with 5 different ways to support your opinion.
When the topic comes up in conversation, express your opinion. When the others say no, you're wrong, stand up for yourself. List one or two of your reasons. If they come back and argue against you, use your other reasons to counter them.
What you've just done is you stood up for yourself, and you showed them that you can be an independent person. You don't have to get defensive or argumentative, just show that you have opinions and ideas, and that you believe in them.
In a few days, repeat the process with another topic. In the meantime, watch for times when you can influence the group. If you go out for a movie every Saturday, pick a movie you want to see and try to convince them to go to that one. You can use price, location, or convenient times to support your argument. Or you can try to get them to try a different restaurant if you go out to eat - maybe go for chinese if they have never done that, or go to Arby's instead of BK all the time.
The idea is to show them that you are a thinking person, that you can take action and lead the group, that you have opinions and ideas and the initiative to act on them.
Go get 'em, tiger!
2007-12-17 13:31:09 · answer #4 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy; get an AA meeting list or look it up on the net. Look at the "12 Steps". Then black out the two times it says "alcoholic" and the two times it says"God". For this they don't apply. Then do them. I'm very serious. You won't turn into a Bible banger or something, you'll just change.
2007-12-17 13:28:23 · answer #5 · answered by Bob H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to
Rockrstar by Nickleback
it will answer your question
2007-12-17 13:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by frenchi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋