In your opinion....At what age should a parent finally kick their child out into the world???

Question

To live on their own....Provided they aren't mentally or physically disabled.

Answer 1

18, or as soon as h.s. graduation occurs...Sink or swim, overkindness can harm as much as underkindness.....

Answer 2

18 or 19

Answer 3

19

Answer 4

Different people are ready at different ages. Being forced out can have negative impacts on people. Economics can also play a part. I was forced to leave home to escape mistreatment by my mother at age 20. The economy was in deep recession. My mom refused to help me to go to college like she did for my sister, who was later diagnosed to be mentally unfit for employment and sits on an MS degree while collecting SSI. Jobs were so hard to find, I couldn't even find a job collecting carts from a supermarket lot. I got tired of being locked out for no good reason. I got tired of trying to survive on what ever food or drink dropping in on a friend might yield. It was too embarrassing to just come out and say I was being abused and hadn't eaten much in days. Finally having enough of this and trying to keep myself clean under cemetery water faucets at the crack of dawn(so no one would see my shame), I reluctantly joined the army to get a paycheck, food and a roof(with a shower) over my head. I didn't want to do this as I had serious objections about being put into a position where I might be forced to kill another human.

When forced to plan your life at the point of a gun, you make decisions that seem right at the time, but end up being terribly wrong. My life could have turned out different than being a forty-something that works in a store, for lack of other marketable skills/degree and drives a 16 year old truck.

Sometimes, in the late of a sleepless night, I still wonder what my life might be like, if I had been allowed to establish myself and move out on my own, instead of being forced to when i wasn't ready for the world, and it wasn't ready for me.

But I can't change the past, so I live life day by day.

Answer 5

I'd start to worry when they hit 25 and didn't show any sign of moving on. You'd think they would be established with a career and maybe already in another city, depending on University education. So if they were still at home at 25 I'd be wondering if there was a problem. Because, you'd also hope that if all was well, that they'd be in a stable relationship with someone and was looking to spend time with them rather than me. But bottom line, I'd never kick them out, because if they had issues, I'd have to take responsibility as the parent.

Answer 6

19

Answer 7

I think no parent should ever do that. I think when a child is old enough and responsible enough to understand life and its ups and downs and difficulties and is able to face and handle them themselves, then and only parents may suggest or give them time out to live and try on their own. Under 30 would still be quite young and every kid has different understanding of life. There is no particular age limit of when a child can become fully responsible. It all depends on how a child has been brought up. It is a parents duty to make sure that they have home educated (besides school), their children well and good enough to believe that they are ready to step out on their own, and work and live life in a proper way.

Answer 8

I left my parents home when I turned 18, once out I wasn't allowed to come back, my dad said it was my choice to leave and it is his choice to not let me back in. it was the best thing he could have did, it made me more responsible to provide my own way. As far as my own kids my daughter I let stay until she moved out on her own when she felt she was ready, age 23, my son I made the mistake of letting him move out and in a couple of times, finally at 22 I told him he had to leave and can not get back in, i felt that there was a pattern developing with him move out, move in, move out etc. 2 years have passed and he has had to be responsible when he realized he was not going to move in whenever he was without a job.There is no animosity because of the actions I took. I do feel that if child is attending college and after he or she graduates give them a year longer at home for them to establish themselves with a job and preparation for life on their own away from the roost.

Answer 9

I would say 19. That way, they could have about a year just relaxing while still being able to have the comfort of a home for a bit (since the kid would graduate high school around 18, he/she would have a year off from school)

Answer 10

If they are in college then 22 or 23 if not then 18 or after High school graduation.

Answer 11

With the price of renting and mortgages - 37!! Have some sympathy for anyone trying to live independently these days!!! lol - maybe mid 20's - enough time to save for a deposit, and then not have to join the trap of renting and never being able to buy. (But guess that depends on which country you live in, and whether the child has been to college etc.)