Boys are ALWAYS mean to me!!?

Question

All my boy cousins are so mean to me even though ive never done anything to them!! they spread around rumors that i like to cut myself and that i have an eating disorder (which is NOT true), all my guy friends dumped me and became my bullies, my brothers are mean to me, i truly believe im going to stay single the rest of my life because every boy ive met is mean to me......Am i the only one here with this problem? is this a curse?

It happens even though im nice to boys from the start....they somehow seem to turn it around and become the enemy....

yes im 14 years old =_=

Answer 1

that's the reason why i don't have any male friends, they are a pain in the a**

Answer 2

At any age




You will find that people treat you the way you treat you. The more
accepting and loving you are towards yourself, the more you will
attract loving and accepting people. They will come out of the
woodwork.

The more you demean, criticize and find fault with yourself, the more
you will attract people to judge and criticize you. They too will
come out of the woodwork.

If you are not expressing love, you cannot experience being
loved......no matter how many people are loving you.

The more loving you are, the more creative is your mind and healthier
is your body.

The more unaccepting and angry you are, the more limiting is your
mind and vulnerable is your body.

The more you talk about the joys and pleasures of life (that's self-
love), the more joys and pleasures as people and situations you will
attract for you to talk about.

WHAT YOU TALK ABOUT.....YOU BRING ABOUT. That's just the way it
works.

The more you 'need' to be in a relationship, the more you will
attract relationships to keep you needy.

The more you realize how complete and extraordinary you really are
(that's self-love), the more you attract people that you feel secure
and confident about.

The more you have a difficult time being alone, the more you attract
people who have a difficult time being with you.

The more you appreciate your unique nature (that's self-love), the
more you attract people who love to hang out with you.

Answer 3

You are 14YO.
I know that this must be tough.
Perhaps they like you, perhaps (in the case of your cousins)they want to protect you-from the admiration of other boys.

If a girl carries these bitter things into womanhood, she becomes a womanchild.
The power of a woman is much greater than you can now imagine.
A womanchild might act out by stealing pensions, houses, children. Generally, crushing men's souls is entirely possible.

With great power comes great responsibility ;)

It's best that you don't seek out any more of their abuse.
Gravitate towards those that don't seem to care about rumors.
Please.

Answer 4

Honey, you have a little paranoia going on. When people accuse you of something, it's easy to ignore if it's totally untrue. Do you cut yourself, even occasionally? Do you have a little bit of an eating disorder? If either of those are either slightly true, you're going to have to stand up to the guys in your life and tell them to knock it off, that you're not perfect like they are (sarcasm implied). If their accusations are totally off base, and you have neither of the conditions, you may need to tell them (out of earshot of adults) to just **** off and leave you alone.

You're at an age when comments from your peers mean so much....but you can control it. They are being catty and invasive and rude. You can be a real adult if you CUT OFF the affect they have on your feelings and self esteem. Grow up, ignore their childish comments, and live the freedom of not being judged. It's totally your call. Good luck, sweetie. You have some tough choices to make.

Answer 5

Unfortunately, you're surrounded by a bunch of jerks right now. It's sad that even your brothers won't stick up for you. It sounds like they're cowards and succumb easily to peer pressure. Not all guys are that rotten. There are some nice ones out there and you will meet them as you grow up and get away from the community you're in now.

Answer 6

Aww, don't worry about it. You sound young, so just give it time. Girls generally develop at a younger age than boys. soon enough, all the boys you know will start noticing girls and will start acting a little nicer. For now, you just gotta put up with it and not let it get you down. You'll meet guys later on, and eventually you'll fall in love and get married. Don't worry about it for now because things will get better!

Answer 7

happens to the best of us. Things change when you're older. Im assuming you're still in highschool / middleschool.
Dont worry tho, life is a hell of alot better than it may seem sometimes. Just cuz something isnt going your way doesnt mean you should be upset. If that were the case i'd probably have killed myself already lol. :-P

Answer 8

Don't say that. You'll meet someone special someday. Those guys are just immature. They'll grow up eventually. God has a plan for all of us. Spend some time with Him and talk things over. Hope this helps. peace.

Answer 9

It will be ok. Most of the time if all the guys are bulling you somtimes it means they like you and just don't want you to know. That is how brothers are. Stay positive. You won't be single all of your live. I promise. i got made fun of all the time. It will be ok

Answer 10

Curse? No?

Sadly, it's part of growing up. Just give yourself some time, and hopefully the guys around you will grow up and grow some testes.

Although, it is rough. Yes, it is. But hang in there.

Answer 11

No, you are not gonna be single for the rest of your life!!!!!!!! I don't know how old you are but, usually guys tend to make fun of girls for fun and stuff.....when you get older they will start appreciating you more and seeing you more as a girlfriend of whatever and not be so mean!