anyone else have a hard time deciding on a name for baby? how did you finally decide?

Question

i'm just having such a hard time!! nothing seem just right...
i have found names that i like, just not *the* name, ya know?
i'm 30 wks, so i know i have time still, but everyone keeps asking me what her name is, & i don't even have it narrowed to a short list yet!!!

what helped you to decide?
(& what did you decide on?)

Answer 1

1) once you decide, tell NO ONE- all you get is snotty comments about how they dislike it, or suggestions about what's 'better'. We made the mistake of telling family beforehand, this time around not a peep until he/she is born.

My first child- my 1st husband insisted on one name and one name only, which wasn't even a family name nor did I like it. He refused to make anymore suggestions, so I gave him a list of my top 3 (we agreed his name would be the middle name). I told him to pick one of my 3, come up with 3 more suggestions of his own, or i would name the baby. He picked one of my top 3 and that was that.

2nd child, 2nd husband- My hubby came up with one name and one name only (I swear, it's a different husband too). I made 400,00 suggestions, he found one that was 'ok'. He let me give our son my Dad's name as his middle name, so i let him 'pick' between 'my' name and 'his' name, letting him know why I didn't care for 'his' name (Damien, which I like fine, but when mentioning to people got some very strong negative reactions about 'devil child'- didn't want our son saddled with that). My hubby picked 'my' name.

We are expecting child #3 this summer, and NOT finding out the sex this time- I will do my usual million suggestions, pare it down to my top 3-5 names for either sex, and ask him to pick or contribute suggestions. The middle name is decidely from his side of the family this time around- not my favorite, but 'hi; turn to honor a family member- I got to do it with our first.

So- toss around as many names as you can stand, if you can't agree, come up with your top 3-5 each, try to compromise. And keep the name QUIET till it's said and done! Good luck- it can be such a headache!

Boy #1= Justin John
Boy #2- Samuel James

Unknown 33- middle name Julianna, or middle name Sandor (Sean-door, it's hungarian and my hubby's name, though he goes by sean)

Answer 2

I decided on a name for my baby since i was like 4 months pregnant, but i still feel weird when i call him that.. I don't know.. I'm not so sure that's ''the name''..

I guess I'll decide when i look at him... however when i make other suggestions my husband says that he already has a name.. so maybe i don't have a choice anymore, lol.. It's a nice name.. I think i just have to get familiarized with it =]

Good Luck with the names
God Bless

Answer 3

I had a hard time for a different reason. My husband hates all names except his own. So you probably know how that ended...HE decided to name our son after himself. I had no say. *sighs* When I tried, I got the silent treatment and the "I Don't Care" attitude.

Good luck with picking out a name! My cousin is about 37 weeks now, and she still doesn't have a name picked out for her baby.

Answer 4

I decided to go with something that would have meaning. I combined my Dad's first name with my Mother's middle name and chose not to give my daughter a middle name because her first name (in my eyes) had so much meaning.
It probably took about a month for it to hit me, but when it did I stuck with it and never had a doubt.
If I had a boy I would have named him after my step brother who passed away years earlier.
The "Right" name will come to you. I know of people who had no clue and the second they saw their little one a name just popped into their heads.

Answer 5

I had a very hard time deciding with my second child. The best suggestion I have is to make a list of the names you like and take them with you. When you look at your little one say the names and see which one your think would fit him/her.

This time around we have settled on Isabelle Rose - after our grandmothers, so it was easy.

Answer 6

We had a hard time deciding on a name for our son. We didn't actually make our final decision until he was born! We had a few names that we liked and couldn't decide, but when he was born we look at him and decided that he was a Mason. If you don't know sooner maybe when you look at him or her you will just know! Good Luck!

Answer 7

Well, yes I had a hard time deciding. But what helped me is talking with my close friends and family and getting thier suggestions. Using the name combinations I like and suggestions. Also websites as well.

Answer 8

ahh!!
i know how you feel!
i still can't decide!
i went from this list of names:
Isabella
Aubrey
Scarlett
Hallie
Hayley
Gwendolyn
Alyson
Madilynn
Jocelyn
Ava


and have narrowed it down to:
Hayley Nichole
or
Scarlett Aubrey.


ugghh it's SO hard to decide.
but what i did
was think of all the nicknames and see if i like them.
and i didn't. so i picked names that can't have nick names.
then i kept saying the names over and over agian until i found one that just stuck!
good luck!

Answer 9

I did alot of research on my daughters name. We wanted each name to mean something, plus the name worked for a boy or girl. Her name is " Phoenix Freedom Rain". She is sooo a Phoenix, I can not picture her with anything else!!
It's amazing what you can find on the internet...you could start there!
I had a friend who said if you yelled out your childs name to look for her in public....would it sound silly!? Interesting perspective!

Answer 10

actually, i had names picked out for years that i just loved. i used family names for my daughter's middle name and her first name was just a name i liked. best of luck to you!