we've been together for a while now, and this year he wanted me to spend christmas eve with him and his family. my parents dont trust us. at all.
they dont want me to go.
and for two years straight he's been coming to OUR family things. but now that he invites me, my parents dont wanna let me go.
they think i'll get raped or some **** like that. which pisses me off.
can anyone help me think of what to tell my parents to convince them to let me go?
i really wanna spend christmas with him.
-_-;
2007-12-17 11:31:11 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I've had a relationship in high school with an older guy.. and my parents were definitely the same way. I would get so upset with them and cry and beg and it still wouldn't work and they were always questioning his motives.
Your parent's logic I'm guessing (from what i found with my parents) is this, you're they're baby. Dating a guy much older forces them to realize you're growing up. Also, depending on what state you're in there are legal stipulations that probably concern them. Also, lots of guys have ulterior motives( taking advantage of you sexually etc.) and your Dad being one himself knows this which heightens his sense of worry. I understand where you're coming from and that girls mature much faster than men as a rule, and you and your boyfriend are probably at the same maturity level. The best advice i can offer you is this: Talk to your parents, tell them that you understand how they feel and what their fears are and assure them that you're trustworthy. Also bare in mind that Xmas is a time when your family probably counts on you being there. I'm not sure of your situation of course, but I know even now at my house my family cant even bare the thought of me not being there and I'm graduating college. So make sure you take in to consideration there feelings and be sure to treat them them the way you would want them to treat you in return. It works much better that way and they will be much more apt to see it from your point of view if you aren't pleading and in hysterics (not that you are, but i was from time to time lol).
Best of luck!! And enjoy the holiday regardless!!
2007-12-17 11:57:43 · answer #1 · answered by skipowder16 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe if you stopped talking like some foul mouthed brat you'd have half a chance. I take the half a chance part back. Your choice of boy friends leaves a lot to be desired. What kind of 20 year old would go for a 15 year old? Or even worse, what 18 year old would go for a 13 year old? You are going down a dangerous path. One that will be life changing in a very bad way if you don't watch out. Give him up. I'm sure you can do better. Clean up your mouth and your act, and maybe someone other than weird 20 year olds will want you to be their friend.
2007-12-17 19:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by Proverbs twenty7 7teen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 15 dating 20 year olds once. Now I'm a parent. I'm only 21 now, but my life has changed a lot since my younger teen years. I think the reason your parents are a little " iffy" about you being with him, away from them, is that they are afraid there will be no supervision. They probably wonder what a 20 year old male wants with a 15 year old female. Be honest. Tell them you want to go with him. Trust and communication are very important in any relationship, especially child-to-parent.
2007-12-17 19:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by Megan 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh wow well there is a pretty big age difference, but I'm not hating on it. But I can see why you're parents feel that way.
2 years is a long time to be dating though,I'd have your boyfriend sit down with your parents and say I'd like to take her to my familys house for Christmas Eve. And I'll have her back a respectable time and have him tell your parents where its at and everything. Maybe that will sway their minds.
Good Luck and have fun if you go :)
2007-12-17 19:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey... i know it's hard, but dont get mad at your parents. They have a duty to protect you and when i first read your details i was kinda confused. I mean you are 15 and he is 20; thats a big age difference. But if you absolutely and utterly trust him; bring him over to your house one day and sit down and talk to your parents with him. It might seem awkward at first but it's not that bad. And tell him to act mature and smart. Also you can tell him the truth; if he is a good person ; he will understand and wait a little while till your older, but if he gets mad or wants to suddenly break up; then you know that he wasnt the right guy and only wanted you for advantages.
2007-12-17 19:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by choco 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell them that you two have been together for 2 years and I'm pretty sure if he was gonna try something stupid he would have done it already and make sure they know you will be with his family and no where else. Tell them they can talk to his parents to confirm. Tell them that you are smart enough to make the right decision and know right from wrong.
Don't screw it up if you get to go. They will never trust you again.
2007-12-17 19:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by Bailey G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's too old for you.....good lord. What are your parents thinking even letting you talk to him? In the eyes of the law, you are still a child and he is an adult. Adults and children shouldn't be having a relationship. What could you possibly have in common with him? You're in what....9th grade? He should be in college. You're parents are right in not letting you go to his house.
2007-12-17 19:37:03 · answer #7 · answered by First Lady 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
15 year-olds should not be going out with 20 year-olds. That's just plain wrong. Kudos to your parents. They should have intervened two years ago. It was really wrong for a 13 year-old to go out with an 18 year-old. There's something wrong with his parents if they think it's OK.
2007-12-17 19:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by colder_in_minnesota 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry kid, your parents are correct on this one. If you really want to spend Christmas with him and his family convince your parents to go along. It's amazing you are being allowed to date someone of this age.
2007-12-17 20:25:39 · answer #9 · answered by Titus12 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your like a sophmore, right and he's almost don with college?
THough it's only 5 yrs. your worlds are totally different. Plus he's a little to...adult. THough it has probably been a long to yrs, start dating guys your own age, it right for your parents to worry. Don't choose some guys over them. THey will always be there for you, maybe he will too though
Good luck hope you sort things out!!
2007-12-17 19:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by Gaara's 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋