Should I stop....?

Question

I met guy 1st yr in college 4 yrs ago. I like him a lot &he says he likes me. I found out he is on &off wit his gf tho. I was already attached b4 I found about the on/off gf. We said we would be just friend but he know how I feel. We dont have sex but mess around . I'm tired of waiting. He says he and is gf dont get along but he keeps getting back w. her even tho they r always fighting and breaking up. He told me he likes me and I have all the qualities hes looking for. He's still on and off wit her but @ same time is callin me everyday as his "friend". He's gonna graduate in June. I feel hes going to leave my city and never come visit (it will be me going to see him as always). Rt now I know his gf is visiting him @ his apt. Im tired of being played but I dont think he's lying when he says he has feelings for me. He needs to make a decision. Should I explain it to him &tell him I cant be his friend b/c this is hurting me & then stop talking to him 2 c if he cares? we're best friends

Answer 1

move on, you FEEL like your getting played? you R! tell him you can't do this whole two -girl thing and he's obviously not serious, and your not going to stand a dumb player just messing w\ u. your worth way more then that! even if he does have feelings he obviously doesn't love you enough to treat you right, leave him! please hun! best of luck!

Answer 2

I think you should move on and find someone else that deserves you. He obviously isn't over his ex gf, and it probably won't work out in the end. You will just end up getting hurt, because you are like the girl on the side. Trust me...you deserve much better. I've been through the same situation, and you will just get hurt in the end!

Answer 3

he won't leave a gf that bugs him, you always go see him, he's graduating soon, uh...
cut and start over - he's playing the field and you're part of the options he's mulling
not all are like him - guys have a hard time figuring out how to settle down on the best choice (you), knowing full well 3 is a crowd...

Answer 4

He's a playa, yo. OK I don't talk like that, but if he's had a "on/off" gf, for a long time, he may be telling her, the same thing he's telling you.
If your looking for commitment, look elsewhere. He is too young. Girls mature and commit earlier than men.
I waited until 26 for my first marriage. And she left me!...lol
Good luck with this.

Answer 5

Sounds like you are letting this guy have his cake and eat it too. Move on!! you will be happier with a man that is committed to you with out an on again off again playing around in the back ground.

Answer 6

You really deserve better. Any guy who would have two girls both on the end of a chain continually won't be the right guy for you if you want to be the only one.

If you really just can't let go, you really do need to tell him how you feel.

Answer 7

Yes talk to him & see where he stands really. If he is not gonna leave his on/off g/f, then he needs to tell you, so you can move on & find someone who really wants to be with you. You shouldnt stand to be played the way he is doing.
Talk to him, tell him this is hurting you & you want more than friendship but if he's not gonna give that too you, then you are moving on somewhere else.

Answer 8

If he is hurting you then you need to tell him so. I doubt he is going to leave his GF for you because if he wanted to, he would have already. Don't you think four years of this guy messing with your heart and your head is enough? Move on!

Answer 9

He has an on/off gf? and he calls you? and you've messed around. Take note of what you've said, if you end up with this guy you will see it from the ohter side, you will be the "on/off gf" Good Luck

Answer 10

You need to get some self respect.
Unless you respect yourself and have some kind of self worth , you cant expect others to respect you and value you.
Life is not a dress rehearsal. This is it!
Are you content to go thru life being #2?
Dump his *** and find someone who values you.