My parents disapprove of the fact that my boyfriend is 13 years older than me but whatever.
Im 20 he's 33
2007-12-17 10:52:35 · 15 answers · asked by Sofia.E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would date/marry someone up to 15-20 years older than myself. In my early 20s I mostly dated guys in mid- to late 30s, my ex-husband was 16 years older than me. I'm 30+ now, and I'm married to a guy only 4 years older; it just kinda happened that I stayed with the same age demographic for the last 15 years. I don't think 20 and 33 is such a big deal. As long as you have a good head on your shoulders and are making good choices overall, your parents will get used to you being an adult and deciding for yourself. Just use your common sense. :)
2007-12-17 11:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom's parents were 15 years apart. My boyfriend is 7 years older than me. My sister's boyfriend is 6 years older than she is. One of my best friends is only 2 days older than his wife. I guess there's no perfect age difference. Plus, the age gap matters less and less as you get older so I can kind of understand why your parents might disapprove right now. I don't think it's because he's 13 years older than you are. It's probably more about the fact that you're only 20. In a few years, the age difference won't matter quite so much to them. You still have a lot to do and learn and experience. Your parents are probably worried that this guy is going to hold back from all of that since he's already had the chance to do those things.
It's not the age DIFFERENCE...it's YOUR age.
2007-12-17 19:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by QT_Pie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think age is just a number. My husband is 10 years older then me and I wouldn't want it any other way. I think your parents are just scared thinking you are going to tie down with this man and regret it later on. You are still so very young and have lots of life to live and grow. He has already experienced things that you haven't and you might regret that you missed out on being young if you married this man. I think that is why your parents are disapproving.
2007-12-17 18:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married 13 years older than myself. I'm 27, my husband is 40. We were actually the same age as you and your boyfriend when we met. He's not too old for you if you get along well, are both legal (which you are), and have similar interests. Too old would be if he was 45-50 and you're 20.
This chick above me is clueless...Flower that is. Thirteen years is a good stretch but it's not an impossible relationship. I'm proof of that.
2007-12-17 18:58:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Age is not any concern for me. Unless one is under the ge of 18 or 20. I am 25. For me my men are always either my age or older because lets face it men are immature at any age so why go younger? Parents worry regardless, if he were your age they would find something else they didnt like about him. they are just trying to "look out" for you or whatever the hell that means
2007-12-17 19:05:20 · answer #5 · answered by hotmoma_37 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Way to big of an age difference. You may not think so now but as you both get older it makes a big difference. I don't recommend marring more the 3 - 4 years difference.
2007-12-17 19:06:49 · answer #6 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
The most I'll go over is 4 yrs, but I don't have to worry about that. I found me the perfect man.
2007-12-17 19:18:23 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Gotta Luv Pure Evil ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well im only 27 and i would only go three years older to three years younger. i have dated way younger and i have dated way older, i just like to think of it this way, if we live to old age, i would want to be with someone till then, and if he went before me or vise versa i wouldnt want to be alone for very long.
2007-12-17 18:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by lonelynconfuzed(gar) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Met my husband when I was 18, he was 28.
We will be celebrating our 14th anniversary in Feb. So I say go for it! Good luck.
:)
2007-12-17 18:58:01 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Sweet♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband is almost 10 years older than me but its great :)
2007-12-17 18:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋