My husband likes to go to HOOTERS, WING STOP, BONE DADDY"S ect. I don't like that he goes. He is married now and I don't think married men should hang-out at places like that. Is that being to controlling or is it just that I don't have enough self confidence or WHAT.......please help.
Thanks!
Kim
2007-12-17 10:47:32 · 25 answers · asked by Kim D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is ok as long as he did it before he met you. It wouldn't be ok if he began doing it after he met you.
For you see, if he did it when you met him and you knew about it then you accepted it. If you had a problem with it you shouldn't have married him.
Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will stay the same.
Of course you can always go with him and have a good time.
2007-12-17 10:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by boiledcrabs 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, Kim, I'm glad I am not in your husband's spot. Normally, when you get married you are supposed to relax in comfort that you have a solid relationship. You are supposed to advance to a higher level of security and trust with each other. That being the case, it should be less of an issue for him to go to Hooters or whatever. Because now you know you've got him. You don't have to worry about some girl stealing him away or him fooling around. There are now legal consequences if he screws around behind your back. You got married and made a serious commitment to each other. Time to act like it
So learn to pick your battles wisely. Who cares if he goes to Hooters for lunch? Stop being so jealous and insecure, or you will run him off. If he wants to go to a female coworker's house for lunch at least once a week, maybe then you have something to be concerned about. Again I say choose your battles wisely.
2007-12-17 11:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I'm female. Second, at wing stop everyone wears over-sized t-shirts and aprons. Third, Hooters has really good wings. As long as he has a "look but don't touch" policy, what's the problem? The guys in my office all go to Hooters (it's across the parking lot) about once a month for beer, wings, and pool. If they wanted to drool over women, they'd be at a strip club. Same with your husband. But if you're really that worried about it, why not go to Hooters for yourself one day and watch the guys that are there. They might be doing a little flirting but only to try to get free beer. Stop worrying so much.
And they really do have good wings.
2007-12-17 11:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by QT_Pie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a guy I like to put it this way: Just because I'm on a diet does not mean I can't look at the menu. Meaning I'm married not dead and enjoy looking a women. Does that mean I don't love my girl, absolutely not. It actually makes me appreciate what I have even more, mostly because I know she is mine and no one elses.
Women enjoy looking also, otherwise there wouldn't be groups like Chippen Dales or Thunder from Down Under. Male show off groups here in Vegas that are very popular with the ladies of all ages (over 21)
Either way, it does not mean we aren't happy at home and looking is not cheating. Besides when we see some good action it may make us ho rn y so when we get home we are ready for some good loving from the woman we love and took to be ours for the rest of our life.
Be happy he only looks, because if he stops looking it may mean he has found someone else that gives more than the looking.
2007-12-17 10:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by Cliff R 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're kidding, right? You're about to get mad because your husband goes to Hooters? Yes, it's being majorly insecure and controlling - grow up. Have you even been to Hooters? I've gone there many times, it's no big deal. A few girls wearing tight outfits - so what. C'mon; you really need to develop some self-confidence.
2007-12-17 11:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
hooters wings are the bomb!!! But seriously, just talk to him, did u have a problem with it b4 you 2 got married or did you at least bring it to his attention. If not it's going to look as if you are trying to be controlling, but still talk to him anyway. and try hooters wings, there really good.
2007-12-17 10:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by puffy2step 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak for my self, personally. It doesn't bother me at all because I am very happy with who I am. I also trust him and I know these guys well enough, that they are paying more attention to the TVs or talking amongst themselves, and quite frankly, I am sure the girls there will find them obnoxious and annoying! lol. The way I see it, if he feels it makes him manly to go there and do stupid guy stuff- I say have at it. Its a long way from a stripper club or worse. And He always comes home to me and most times tells me if I am out and about to stop by and see him.
2007-12-17 10:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by purplewaterhorse 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I keep hearing YEAH THE WINGS ARE REALLY GOOD THERE...sooo stupid....so hes going to chose eating good wings over respecting your feelings....I would be mad if I were you....your not trying to control him you asked him to simply not go somewhere that your not confortable with him going...If you cant express that to your husband outta all people then theres something wrong. sure theres the chance he really loves the food there....but come on now.....thats INSANE TO BELIEVE...it might be fun for you as a couple to go around trying to find a new place with great wings....minus the slutty waitresses rubbing their boobs on your table!! Married men should respect their wives....self confidence has nothing to do with this!! you wouldnt tell him to close his eyes when a chick walking by with her **** out walked by...you can chose to be around it and he simply should choose to not be around it......good luck
2007-12-17 11:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I used to think this way I was so controlling, but I think eventually you realize he loves you and yes he may look but you are the girl for him and you are the only one he wants. As long as he is not a pig or a jerk there is no harm in him looking you know he is coming home to you.
2007-12-17 11:11:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hooters is made for married men.
Get over it.
If I were him, I would leave immediately. Why do women think they can control someone like this?
2007-12-17 10:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋