you are still going to the strip clubs to view people you don't have at home. if you know they love you and you love them why do you still wish to be with other people?? if you don't like the way they are or look, leave them right??
2007-12-17 10:38:56 · 25 answers · asked by That's Life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Exactly!!!!!!!!
2007-12-17 10:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by kimber g 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I had a problem with my husband going to strip clubs and he went anyway, that's a sign he doesn't respect your feelings and that's not right. But leaving him is not the answer either. Come on, now, if you would leave your husband without doing everything in your power to make the marriage work, then you have a f*cked up view on marriage.
So start taking your marriage seriously, talk to him like an equal, which means don't nag him, and explain to him exactly why you don't want him to go. If the reason is because you're insecure and jealous, then tell him and work it out together. If you can't manage that, get a third party in there to help you guys figure this out.
Good luck and fight for your marriage.
2007-12-17 10:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by Peace 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little confused here, are you talking about your husband going to strip clubs? If so, does he ask permission from you or does he just go with the guys. Has he always gone to them? How long have you been married? How is your sex life with him? Maybe he just enjoys the environment and it adds a little spark for him.
Men and a lot of women enjoy looking at people of the opposite sex, although men admit it more. Women still have a little more reservered attitutude toward it. But if you care to go into any adult store you will find far more toys for women than men which means women enjoy it but prefer to keep it home and more secret.
Talk to him about it if it bothers you that much. Offer to go with him, nothing wrong with a woman going to those places as long as you go with an open mind. Might add some spark to you too so when you both get home you're ready to rip off each others clothes and make wild passionate love.
Doesn't necessarily mean he does not like what he has at home, just looking for some "safe" variety in his life. As long as he is just looking or getting a lap dance then it's better than seeking out the females at the corner bar and taking them somewhere for a quicky.
2007-12-17 10:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by Cliff R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why go to a petting zoo if you have pets at home? Does this make you love your pets any less? Same thing. Guys go to strip clubs to enjoy the experience. I'm sure he'd probably stay at home and save money instead if you would provide that same experience for him. My suggestion is to get some stripper clothes and some dance music, adjust the lighting, pour him a tall glass of cold beer, and shake it for him the way the strippers do. If you would rather make excuses instead of just giving it a try, I can see why he'd rather leave the house. Do you think the strippers are concerned with how fat they feel or how they don't know the best dance moves or their age? Well maybe in the back of their minds they are, but if they want to keep their jobs they will get out there and shake it. Same thing applies to home. If you want to keep your husband happy in the same fashion, maybe you should stop worrying about why you can't and just get out there and shake it. Your husband just may find out that he can have much more fun at home than he is allowed to have in the clubs. You also may find that you can have a lot more fun with your husband than you thought was actually going to happen at this point in your relationship.
2007-12-17 10:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem too....my husband has two excuses one: He goes to socialize. He has no friends and no life except me. He doesn't just chat with the girls Ive herd of him talking to everyone I thought it was kind of funny at first. I only knew because he goes to chat rooms on the strip club he goes to and for a while I was monitoring them to keep track of him Two: Its not real the naked girls walking around are fantasy to him. Its not like they ever go home with you. He always says this to me very calmly it drives me nuts but now he just leaves after I fall asleep. I put the clues together in the morning but it does give me time to relax about it before he wakes up. He could just stop telling you about it. I think that would be worse. Oh ya I will dance and do whatever my husband wants it still doesn't matter when we go together its not the same as being alone. I know we have done it. If you can live with it do if not don't....but dam girl don't give up on your marriage because of this.
2007-12-17 10:53:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're asking why guys go to strip clubs, It's not really to look at the hot girls. It's for the camaraderie. The girls are just an added bonus.That's why you rarely see someone alone at a strip club. Unless your hubby is going alone, you have nothing to be worried or offended about. Lighten up he always comes home just to you... right?
2007-12-17 10:51:03 · answer #6 · answered by Rich R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys will always be attracted to other girls. However I am not for the strip club thing if you are with someone. You are asking for trouble and it is disrespectful if it bothers the one you love. And just because a guys is attracted to other girls has nothing to do with the fact that he is not happy with who he is with looks, us girls just feel that way. Guys will always fantisize about others too but that is normal and does not mean they are not happy with the one they are with, it has taken me years to get this but I understand, not to say it doesn't hurt, but some things just are.
2007-12-17 10:54:06 · answer #7 · answered by openminded 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my husband go together. And I'm the one who gets the most lap dances. I am not bissexual I just think that if we do it together and we do it alot its not really a "new" or "different" situation that he will think he is missing out on. And he really enjoys seeing other women fondle me and hang on me, and I like the attention too. then it is a win win. Now if I ever caught him with porn or on the internet checking out porn, I would have to beat the hell out of him. Because that is where the line between reality and imagination is crossed. If you need to get your jollies from magazines then why am I here? Use your hand if you want to but that will be the only sex you will ever get from me.
2007-12-17 10:52:10 · answer #8 · answered by hotmoma_37 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes this is bad and you need to speak up!!! Don't let him be on your nerves and if you are not ok with this situation then tell him and move on you don't deserve this you as his WIFE need respect, comprehension and love..IF he doesn't like what he has at home then why he is still with you ??? You deserve someone better so talk to him .. Best wishes:)
2007-12-17 10:47:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not a guy but I think love, romance and their wife is the last thing on their mind when naked women are dancing around.....
Men are visual. There are millions of bodies out there and I think they want to see them all.
If you don't like it, all you can do is let him know. He's an adult, it's a legal activity and it's really his choice.
You have choices too :)
2007-12-17 10:46:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your out of sync with your husband.
If you haven't had kids and your not pregnant, get out!
In a while that won't be a problem, at least not a big one.
Unless he wants to start bringing them home!
Just talk to your husband, first and let him have a choice!
Go Figure!
2007-12-17 10:50:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋