how likely is it that i get pregnant on my first time?

Question

i am 16 and i am a virgin ..but me and this guy have decided to take our relationship to another level..i really want to but i am very scared of getting pregnant. also i had a friend who lost it when she was 16 she is now 17 and when she was having sex she tore something in her vagina and had to have stitches done ! how much of a chance is there of that happening to me or anyone?

Answer 1

First of all, I DEFINITELY recommend going on the pill, as others have said, and also to echo others, make sure he uses a condom.

I had a great professor in my college human sexuality class, and learned a lot.

Couple o' things I'll pass on to you...

Don't worry about bad side effects from the pill if anybody tells you to (unless a doctor says so). Health issues from the pill are pretty much restricted to women over 40 who smoke.

Even though men will give many different answers, the biggest reason they won't use a condom is because they are too embarrassed to go in the store and buy them. If your bf hesitates about that, get them for him and he'll probably be more receptive to the idea.

The pill is excellent protection from pregnancy, but make sure you follow the doctor's instructions, especially when you start taking it for the first time.

Some people will tell you the pill is the same as an abortion. THEY ARE WRONG. It doesn't abort anything. It's just hormones that already naturally exist in your body.

The pill will NOT protect you from diseases. That's what the condom is for.

Use a LATEX condom. Those lambskin 'natural feel' ones will not block the HIV virus very well, if at all.

The piece of skin everyone is talking about is called the hymen. It's a very thin layer of skin over your vagina that will tear the first time you have sex. Some women don't even feel it, but you might feel a small pain initially. It's nothing to worry about. Your friend is the first time I've ever heard of anybody needing stitches. I don't think that was from the hymen. It must have been something else. I don't think you really need to worry about that, though.

Answer 2

You can get pregnant any time you have sex.

However, if you take the necessary precautions, it almost never happens. Millions of people use birth control, and the vast majority find it reliable.

Also, remember that the definition of "fertility problem" is a couple that has regular sex for a year and still doesn't get pregnant, so unprotected sex does not guarantee pregnancy. (However, if you really don't want a baby right now - take precautions. I'm just saying, don't worry that if you have one slip-up you're automatically pregnant. It's more like Russian Roulette... and you wouldn't play that game either.)

As for the "stitches" thing - Unless he's a horse or you are abnormal - don't worry. The story you tell is the only time I've heard of it being a problem, so that's pretty rare.

Answer 3

Before you do have sex for the first time just make sure that this is really something that you want to do. There's no harm in waiting...you have plenty of time! There is always a risk of pregnancy when you have sex. I would suggest that you use some form of contraception (birth control pills, patch, etc.) and use a condom also, just to be on the safe side because not all birth control is 100% effective (I got pregnant when I was on birth control, it happens more than one would think). Bring some extra lubrication (astroglide or ky jelly) just in case, and always always always use a condom!

I tore my vagina the first time I had sex, but it did not require stitches. I think that's rare though.

Answer 4

Well, to an extent any time you have sex you are just as likely to get pregnant as the last time (at least in a physical sense). Your first time has nothing to do with your chance to concieve.

I'm not here to lecture on waiting for sex until you are married, because I, myself, lost my virginity at a young age. What you do need to think about is protection. Not just condoms, but birth control as well. If you truly believe that you want to have sex with this guy then you need to make sure you are responsible enough to take precautions. Never have sex without protection. If you have no means of protection, you need to hold off. Sex is not worth a baby at 16 and its also not worth an STD. Also, don't let anyone pressure you into having sex. If you think you are ready, it needs to be your decision.

Another thing you might consider is how having sex will influence you. Are you sure this is the guy you want to lose your virginity to, or is there a chance you will regret it later. I personally married the guy I lost mine to, but he to this day can't forgive himself for having sex with someone else before me. It was very important to me to only have one partner no matter how young I may have been when I lost my virginity. How do you feel on that issue. I can tell you that I know many people who have had sex with many people and hate themselves for it. What they never considered was that once you've had sex with a few guys it gets emotionally easier to have sex with just anyone... I would hate for this to happen to you. Have you also considered that you could get a "reputation" at school people could start to say hurtful things, even if you just have sex with one guy.

As for your question on the tearing thing, I'm pretty sure that it's not that common. It is more likely if the sex is rough or forced though. If you do decide to have sex, make sure that you stop it if it gets uncomfortable for you for any reason. (Emotionally or physically)

It's your body and you are free to do what you want with it, but don't take sex lightly. Make sure you consider all of the consequenses.

Answer 5

You should get on birth control first and far most. Go to Planned Parenthood and ask them questions. Make sure you love this guy and you won't regret having sex with him. Everyone's case is a little different. If he has had sex before he needs to get tested for STDs.

Answer 6

lets put it this way. I came inside w/ no protection maybe about 10 times in my life, 5 pregnancies. Everything else has been proteted. You wanna ruin your life for something that you can probably take of w/ your hand, thats your business though. i'd get on the pill or some other potection before you go to next level

Answer 7

How do you know that you aren't going to regret this decision? Wouldn't you like to be married before you get intimate with someone? I saved myself for marriage and it was one of the most fullfilling decisions I've ever made. I'm 26 years old and we've been married for 5 years. I never had any worries about pregnancy or STD's. Please consider this as an option. Remember, just because you are in a relationship with a guy, doesn't mean you need to do this. If he respects you and truly loves you, he will stick by your decision. Many guys find it truly amazing when they meet a girl who is saving herself. You will never have any regrets, and your wedding night and ultimately your marriage will be that much more special.

Answer 8

Hunny, read about 5 of the questions on here. Look at all the teenage girls getting pregnant because of STUPID mistakes. I am a teenager myself, and sexually active, but im smart about it. Ill admit, I had a pregnancy scare in the past week, its not worth it hunny, do not have sex until you are over 18 PLEASE

Answer 9

tore something? ive never heard of that happening before!

these is just as much chance of you getting pregnant on ur 'first time' than if you have had sex laods of times!

Answer 10

there are risks of getting pregnant.

always use protection and/or birth control.
condoms help stop the spread of HIV/AIDS/STDs.
if you're going to have sex, pulling it out before he "comes" doesn't do anything. he releases sperm the whole time.

and having sex you're first time, it's going to hurt.
there's a layer of skin they break.