I don't know what got to me. I just had this feeling in the pit of my stomach cuz after 5 years I was starting to notice that "my" son looked land behaved less and less like me. I went ahead and got both of us tested two different times without his mother knowing, and it turns out he's NOT mine. I did it twice with two different companies so I'm sure now. I have been so incredibly mad yet I haven't told her yet that I know. Frankly, I don't give a damn about her and her child anymore. All those feelings that I had for them are gone. I feel like I was taken for a fool for far too long. I'm too embarrassed to discuss this with any of my friends or family.
I have to give her a notice that I'm kicking them out. I'll just leave her a copy of the results and note that she has to 3 weeks to find a job and then to move out. We're NOT married. Do you think she'll leave me the heck alone without causing any drama and further embarrassment?
2007-12-17 10:09:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's my house. There is no way I'm letting her stay here. As for the kid, I feel sorry for him. But there is just too much going on in my head to imagine him back in my life in any way shape or form. I also don't think it will be fair to him to think I'm his dad when I'm not committed to his future.
2007-12-17 10:45:15 · update #1
Fi, legally I can't just kick another person out like that. I'll be liable for what happens to her or her child.
2007-12-17 10:47:11 · update #2
She most likely won't leave you alone. But would you really kick the kid out, you fathered him for 5 years, he thinks your his dad. You can't do that to him, you gotta love him deep down.
I suggest that you tell he you know and then tell her she has a month to get out and then have the kid come over like 1 or 2 weekends every month and let him have fun. His life isn't going to be easy with you cut out partially, imagine it if your out completeley. You don't have tom pay for anything other than gifts for his b-day and x-mas/channukah
2007-12-17 10:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one... To be honest you have to just up and kick her out. There is no way around it. She had friends and family to take care of her right? The problem with giving her time is that she also has time to destroy or steal your stuff. Once you've told her what is going on more than likely you won't be able to trust her with your own belongings.
So my personal recommendation is talk to her, have her stuff already packed, have her friend come pick her up and be done with it. It's not graceful but it might save you in the end.
I had to kick my friend out and she stole all my stuff when I gave her two weeks to move out. That is why I I recommend being heartless. Also I'd suggest documenting everything before you tell her (like pictures of your stuff) so you can always prove (in worst case scenario) that it was once yours or was in your place...
Good luck, you'll need it.
2007-12-17 10:23:53 · answer #2 · answered by Fi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, not a chance. I realize he isnt your child but you have to realize that he has been deceived as well as you. He is only a child and you shouldn't take it out on him. Do you realize he will be just as traumatized to learn your not his daddy as you were to find that he isnt your son? He did nothing wrong and didnt ask for any of this or ask to be born so please dont hate him, he didnt deceive you. just think...you can get rid of her but hes stuck with her the rest of his life cause shes his mother so stop feeling this way toward him and start having some compassion for a little guy stuck in the middle of sh*t thats beyond his control, and good luck getting rid of her cause you may be in for the fight of your life. She brought all this on herself but this poor child hasnt done anything but love the man he believes is his daddy...and whose gonna have the guts to tell the little guy the truth? his heart will break in a million pieces. so his dad is not his daddy and his mother is a liar...what a pathetic way for a child to start his life.
2007-12-17 10:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by pennylane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's rotten on her part, but her son had nothing to do with his mother's actions. You shouldn't take your anger out on him and you have to have feelings for this innocent child who you thought was your son and he thinks you're his father. You were a child once, put yourself in his place.
2007-12-17 10:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel you must do but remember that child had nothing to do with what his mother did to you.
2007-12-17 10:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by Mona 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should still be the father to your son. He thinks only of you as his father. You would crush him. That is so sad. What a hooker.....
2007-12-17 10:15:19 · answer #6 · answered by Brooke9767 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! Just tell her and move out!
2007-12-17 10:19:43 · answer #7 · answered by Jessi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bad idea buddy!
2007-12-17 10:13:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋