My kids haven't been speaking to me for months. now xmas is here do i buy them xmas gifts?

Question

They blame me for my past and use it to they're advantage when their doing wrong. What do i do for the holidays?

Answer 1

You phone and try to make amends with them. Life is too short to be angry at your loved ones.

If they are adults they need to start taking responsibility for their actions.

I would buy them a gift they are your children regardless. If they don't want to come then put it aside until you reconcile your differences or send it to them anyways and let them know you love them.

Answer 2

Are your children adults? If they are under the age of eighteen, I would still buy them a present as long as you make sure they know that you are not trying to make up by buying their love. It is important to try to communicate with them even if they are adults and try to work out what has ruined the relationship. If you have more than one child that is not talking to you then I think maybe you need to look at yourself and see what you did wrong to all of your children. If they are adults, maybe making amends is the best way to give them a gift. After all, Christmas is a time for being together and sharing your memories with family and friends, not gifts. Good luck.

Answer 3

Yeah definately, Xmas time is a time for broken families to come together. Buy something meaning that really means something to them, maybe you can get them to realise nobody is perfect, including parents and they have their own life now and they should not dwell on the past and use it as an excuse, set them a good example that you are not going to do the same as them and you love them no matter what happens.

Answer 4

If I was that angry at my parents, I wouldn't want a gift from them in the first place. If I felt they wronged me, no material good would make up for it.

I would be more satisfied with a heart-felt letter or getting together for a meal than anything else, whether I was angry at them or not.

Never give gifts to ingrates. Both parties will feel like they got the short end of the stick.

Answer 5

how old are they? i mean if they're grown up and moved out well, buy them something small anyways, or bake them some christmas cookies and make them a card.
if they're still young and live with you, then maybe you should get some proffessional help because it seems as though there's something wrong with the way you guys get along.
i'd say buy them something practical that you'd end up paying for anyways, like clothes, that new bike seat to replace the old tattered one.
but seriously i think your family needs to talk, and if that doesnt work you really should get help.

Answer 6

The holidays are for spending time together and sharing with your family... NOT just for buying gifts... I would buy gifts for more deserving children in your children's names.. If they get upset then just let them know that since they were NOT speaking to you that you simply did NOT know what to buy them AND that they didn't deserve anything... I would make a nice holiday meal and leave it at that.... Then they can be MAD at themselves....

Good luck

Answer 7

Are they buying you something? I would send them a card telling them how much you miss them and love them. If they don't respond then at least they know you love them. A heartfelt written word is better then a gift. Good luck.

Answer 8

No way! Maybe a card, but I wouldn't be giving them a gift until they grew up a little.

Answer 9

its the holidays! time for cheer...put that all in the past & get them the gifts!

Answer 10

I'd say talk to them first, and if things really get out of hand maybe consider a family counselor. If all fails maybe giftcards.