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well yeah im a teen and i love love LOVE children i really want to get pregnat yes im young but i feel i can take the responsibility of it , and before any of you say babysit dont get pregnat STUPID ! well i do babysit but that isnt enough i really love kids i want kids and i always will im a cheerleader in 8th grade and some people would just call me a slutty cheerleader but im not , i just want to have my own baby ... any opinions or helpfull sites or anything that can help me or change my mind ??

2007-12-17 09:55:29 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

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Listen honey, I'm not going to call you stupid. But I'm 16 years old, and today starts my 29th week of my first pregnancy. And trust me, It is not fun. Being pregnant is a scary situation, when you first find out. Your body goes through so many different changes. Some things that happen are:
-Easily tired/Constantly sleeping
-Easily sick/Morning sickness etc.
-Spotting (it's gross it's like a mini period that you can't put a 28 day timer on)
-Pains in neck, head, back, shoulders, ankles, etc. ( and that's not fun when you have to walk sooo much in school)
-Mood swings
-Cravings
-Etc.

Sweetie it costs over $10,000 a year to raise a baby. And that's hard when you don't have a steady income. Babysitting is NOT going to cover that at all. Especially being only 13-14 (?). Also, you still have a lot of maturing to do, not only mentally and emotionally, but also physically. You have to be able to keep a steady relationship [long term]. You WILL lose friends by being pregnant, and there WILL be rumors about you all around school. Although teachers can legally not discriminate, they will look at you differently than all of your peers. They will treat you (some not all) like you are stupid and dumb, and that's just not right, but hey, it's life. Plus your body isn't nearly as ready as it should be. Girls can have miscarriages when their bodies aren't physically ready to bear children. And it can leave permanent damage. You may not ever be able to have kid again! Plus caring for babies is much different than caring for toddlers, or young children, MUCH DIFFERENT!!!! Babies hardly sleep during the night, for the the first few months anyway. You have to be very careful about the things they're around and what-not because they don't have immune systems yet. They can get sick very very easily. Everything must be properly cared for. It's just not worth it babydoll. Don't throw your life away, I'm pretty sure you don't want to give up cheering, I know I didn't, but I had to once I became pregnant. I had to give a lot up. I wish you the best of luck in your decision honey bun <3333

2007-12-17 10:11:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8 0

Lets see... 8th grade, you must be around 13 or 14? Take it from someone who had her first at 17, you need to wait. Consider this, once you've had a baby, it's yours for the rest of your life. You are then responsible for it even after it reaches adulthood. What does this mean for you? It means no more social life. It means living the rest of your life for your child. It means no more dates, no more sleepovers, and no more going out just for the sake of going out. You can't even drive yet. How do you expect to be able to raise a baby? Babies take money. Money takes a job. A job requires transportation. Even better, can you imagine having to take a child to kindergarten while you are still possibly a senior in high school? I say enjoy as many of these next few years as you can. Go on dates. Have fun. Graduate and go to college. Don't give up your life just because you think you want a baby. They are cute, but they lose that cuteness quick when you can't study or do homework because your little one has a fever. If you truly love kids, keep babysitting. At least you can give them back when they become too much to handle.

2007-12-17 10:12:09 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy to Boys 6 · 2 0

You are to young to have a baby of your own.....you are not even old enough to have a job, how would you support your baby? You would have to give up cheerleading, social life, all of your money. I really hope you think a little more clearly about this subject. Just because you like babies doesn't mean your ready to be mom. Mothers have to responsible if you get pregnant at your age that's not being responsible and that would be the biggest mistake you ever made. Why don't you find a mature responsible adult to tag along with for a week and you can see what a mother's life is like.....you might rethink the baby thing.

2007-12-17 10:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by imamom 4 · 2 0

ok please listen to this.......you might think you want a baby right now, but please please dont have one yet. How do you plan on supporting this child? Do you have a job? Can you afford diapers, clothes, formula, toys, medical care? Are you ready to save up for the childs future college expenses? Raising a child is very expensive. I promise you that. Right now, you have your whole young adult life ahead of you. You should be going to school, going to the mall, hanging out with friends, or whatever it is girls do these days. With a kid, you are held back. You cant just go out with friends or go shopping any time you want because you are a Mommy with too much responsibilities. How can you raise a child right now? Dont rely on your parents for help...sure, maybe they would be supportive, but would it really be fair that your getting pregnant would force your parents to help care for a new child? You are being selfish if you dont take into consideration how it will effect everyone around you! I got pregnant at 18, by accident....if I could go back and change that, I would have waited until I was at least 22! Being a mom is forever. You cant just take a break and go out for a weekend or something like that. What if you have a baby and then realize its not what you wanted in life right now? you cant just give them away like a new puppy dog that wasnt compatible with you. Please do NOT have a child. Enjoy your childhood for all it's worth, and wait until you are in your twenties, with a good job, and a good man and then have a child.

2007-12-17 10:12:40 · answer #4 · answered by dirttrackgirl_77 5 · 2 0

Just look at it like this. Your in 8th grade and would have a baby now,which means you wouldn't make it to high school, which means you would not get a good job and have no money. Whats the baby going to do? He / she can't take care of himself. Your not even old enough to drive, work, and you probably just recently got your period. Do you have money saved, supportive family, is a guy your age going to take care of you and a baby ... NO! Babies are not just something fun to have and play with. What will you do for insurance, diapers, food, clothes, doc. visits, schooling, babysitting??? You really need to come back to reality and think about what your wanting. You will probably want to go to prom, school sporting events, be a cheerleading in highschool, go to a party, go to the movies with friends, stay out till 3 a.m., but guess what with a baby YOU CAN'T . Really look at every aspect of your decisions and if you still decided to want to get pregnant, be careful and get ready, your life will never be the same !

2007-12-17 10:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by me 5 · 1 0

Good u love kids, but it takes MUCH more than love to properly bring kids into the world. First of all kids deserve two parents that WANT them & prepare for them. We have far too many foster kids & let me tell u; they have alot of problems as do single parent homes. Babysitting is just that...temporary involvement. When u have kids...u have them FOR LIFE. Two parents allow for a balance from both genders & u could read more on this by obtaining books from ur library or online just talking to kids from single parent homes, & talking to a professional psychologist. If u feel the need to care for something full-time... get a dog. They require about as much time & attention as a child (if u r really responsible) U have all the way to age 32 to get u education, date, marry, & find the right partner to make kids w/& raise them. U r obviously rethinking this over or u wouldn't have remarked "help me or change my mind". That's u instincts telling u this is not time. So slow down.. be young as long as you can, cause once ur grown, ur grown forever.

2007-12-17 10:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by sissytwo 3 · 1 0

your 13 barely a teen ager how will you provide for a child
babies need clothes food a bed toys insurance for doctor appointments your not old enough to get a job that has benefits or pays well enough for you to support yourself and a household let alone a child

stop having sex and act like the little girl that you are you can get a whole lot worse than just pregnant having sex

one more thing your pretty little tiny cheerleading body and career will be gone forever. once you have a baby you wont be allowed to cheer as you will be an embarrassment to your school and your baby will need you at home babysitters cost alot of money
your body is also not done growing and in no shape or fprm ready for pregnancy

2007-12-17 10:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 2 0

First thing is first... Do you work full time? DO you have a life partner or someone who can support you while you are pregnant and also after you have the baby? A child costs between 10,000 to 15,000 a year PLUS, you have to think about cloths, food, schools, babysitters, rent or morgage, power, shoes, ect ect... wait until school is over then get a job, work and save then have children, as if you are unready now, you may not be a fit parent...

Ps babysitting is good because you can just give them back later...

2007-12-17 10:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I am a young mum and I say this ok. I think you should stick to just babysitting becasue your own kids are never as well behaved as other peoples are for you. I had my first baby just after my 16th birthday and gee was it hard How will you pay for a baby? are you in a long term relationship? Just think seriously about it ok I have 2 kids and pregnant with another one and it is very difficult. Don't get me wrong I love my kids and would do anything for them but at times I wish i had of waited. good luck and you just make the decision thats right for you okxxx

2007-12-17 10:03:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

Sweetie the grass always looks greener on the other side. I can tell ya now that you think you want to be a parent at this young age and you really have no clue. You are quite immature to just want a baby for what are selfish reasons ie you just want a baby, you want something to call your own as well as you want something to love, thinking the guy will stay which 9 times out of 10 they will leave you as soon as you tell them you are pregnant. You are not thinking clearly at all. You will end up being yet another statistic. A young teen who is unwed with a child on Gov. Asst. who will end up having to drop out of school. You need to stay focused on your school work and enjoy being a kid. You need to be aware that having unprotected sex you are at risk for STD's. Having a love for children is admirable but what could you possibly give a child besides love? You have no money, no education, no place of your own. Do you not realize how stressful it is for parents to take care of children? So what makes you think at your young age you can deal with it any better than an adult? What if God forbid that your child is born with a physical disability, mental disability???? There are parents who have a hard time to deal with it so how can you deal with it when you havent lived long enough to cope with lifes struggles??? These are questions that you need to read aloud and ask yourself what I asked you and answer them honestly. Having a baby is not easy you may need a C-Section which is a major surgery as well as having a baby vaginally is painful. You dont know how long you will be in labor. You need to wait until your married as well as completing your schooling and are a bit more financially stable!!!

2007-12-17 10:42:19 · answer #10 · answered by Sugastack 3 · 2 1

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