I am married and have a kid, but for some reason I love having sex with other women. I usually tell my wife I am going out to a friend's house when I am actually going out with some girls I met at night school (college) and we usually sleep together. I like being married and having that family, but at the same time I like having that party life and having many partners. I guess I want to know from people who have lived this way before, would it be better for me to just dump the wife and live my night life or quit the other one. I want both but....I guess I like the fact that when I don't go out on a weekend and have sex with someone else that my wife is at home to be there for me instead so it's like I'm never alone. I like that, but I also like the sexy, irresponsibleness attitude of these other young women. Thanks for your posts in advance!!
2007-12-17 09:53:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Another thing is, my wife isn't anything that attracted me to her from the beginning, I mean she never lost the weight from pregnancy and she isn't that wild child like before. Now if I do something provocative she acts like its the gross when before she played on it. WTF is up with that?!
2007-12-17 10:14:53 · update #1
You can't be irresponsible when you have a wife and a kid. You're going to bring home a disease and possibly leave your kid without a mother. Selfish
2007-12-17 09:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by PhantomRN 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People define your they are by many things. Men a lot of the time define themselves by their professional title or how much money they make. Women also have a tendency to define themselves as mothers. The thing is no single definition truly completely defines who we are, but unfortunately many people try to stay within these simple definitions. The problem is a "mother" does not have sex they are nurturing, its the "wife" does have sex either she creates a home, its the "girlfriend" that has the sex but the woman thinks that part of themselves is over once they are married. What many women forget is that men marry their "girlfriends" not the mother or the wife and if they expect a happy home they need to remember to be the "girlfriend" still.
2007-12-17 18:28:04 · answer #2 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not being fair to your wife. When a man sleeps with other women he should not be married to anyone. You need to start putting your wife first and stop acting like your single.
2007-12-17 18:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will regret what you are doing one day and you will hate your self for it for the rst of your life. Trust me, I know. Just stop what you are doing now. Focus on what makes your wife so special to you and dont let your mind stray. What happens if you give her an STD? What if you get another woman pregnat? Do you want your child to know that you didnt care enough about him/her to treat their mother with love and respect and thats why their famliy is broken. Stop being selfish please. This is going to haunt you forever. It will kill your poor wife, and you will lose respect from every person who cares about you and your family. Those flings are not worth it. Be a husband and father, after all you promised that to your family. Have some honor. You messed up but you can stop now and try to make it up.
2007-12-17 18:06:44 · answer #4 · answered by Shell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a wife and child who depend on you, and it's really saddening that you would risk them like this. Imagine them being gone forever with no way to get them back...does that help you muster a bit more self-control? It's not too late, you know. You've still got time to knock that s h i t off and be the man you're supposed to be. Try it. Good luck to you.
2007-12-17 18:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are really immature and self centered. Doing what you are doing (how would you feel if your wife was doing this), is heading you straight for trouble. You will bring home a sickness, your wife will find out, divorce, child support, then would you like to be married to one of the easy women? I don't think so. Take that energy and focus on your wife and child. They need you and you are hurting them beyond words.
2007-12-17 18:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpicker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
think...would you be completely horrified if your wife found out that your doing and it hurt her? Do you still love her (in love with her?) You do know that you are going to ruin many lives if she finds out? Would it bother you in the least if you gave your wife an incurable disease? Is it more important for you to get off or to give your children a loving family to grow up with? These are just things that come to my mind. I, personally, think you need help. (not trying to judge you, just trying to tell you what comes to my mind.) Good luck
2007-12-17 18:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by Kris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try swinging... You might be surprised to find out thaht your wife likes having many partners too.
2007-12-17 18:03:03 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep living the double life and your answers will eventually be answered. You can bet your marriage on it.
2007-12-17 18:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by rdrssuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋