2007-12-17 09:40:58 · 24 answers · asked by . 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As long or short as you are comfortable, I, personally would try to enjoy my freedom from marriage for a while and go and do things that I wasn't allowed to while I was married.
2007-12-17 09:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by Corgis4Life 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Personally I believe you should date yourself for a while. It is my own thoughts that by the time a couple gets to the end of a divorce, each party has gone through a lot of self changing to try and keep the other from leaving. As usual one has been saying you are this, you are that, you never this or never that, if you just do this, or if you would just do that, change this, change that. I mean who were you when you got married in the first place? Probably not the same emotional and mental person by the time you end up in divorce. So take the time date yourself, repair yourself. Place back up your boundaries. Learn again to love yourself just as you are. Better your self-esteem, pat yourself on the back, and remember it is okay to cry. Death and Divorce are two things that breakdown families, so to morn for a period of time is normal, and to allow those feelings to come out is healthy as long as you do them in a healthy way.
I believe dating before you have your boundaries are up and you are healed will only allow for someone else to come into your life and to fill in those voids that your ex-spouse left behind when you divorced. This is why it is so easy to find that perfect person right after the breakup. That perfect person who always has so much in common with us when we just get out of a relationship that went down south.
However, only you can truly answer this question but I’d go by these guide lines, date myself, get to know myself again, who am I; and I would make sure that I "wanted" to date not "needed" to date. Make sure that "I am" enough in my life to be happy and that if I wanted to share my life with another person then I would be able to find this person without emotinal and mentally starving to do so. I’d be able to go back out there with no baggage and with my boundaries up, loving myself and being true to myself. Good Luck, Stay Safe, Best of Holidays
2007-12-17 11:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by zsadista 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Heres my input, for what its worth.
Why not sit out the dating scene for 6 months or a year and get your life in perspective, rather than running right back into silly and potentially useless relationships that go nowhere?
The first few relationships after a divorce are throwaways...meaning they go nowhere and are simply wheel spinning in usefulness. So many women run out and have dangerous unprotected sex and that is the sign of lack of self respect and damaged self esteem. Why would a woman with any self respect take those chances in todays world?
My thought is that it would be healthier for YOU if you spent time alone, getting healthy, repairing the pains of the divorce, and learning what it is you REALLy want the next time around.
Best wishes...sincerely...and Happy Holidays!
2007-12-17 09:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by Noone i 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This lady dated once she had made the decision before man and God that the relationship was over. Warning - do not get sexually involved too soon. That brings a different prospective to the relationship and you do need your space to breath for a while. My pres. And this marriage does have a different feel of 'respect', not to say the other was not but probably because we we much younger and nature was calling for babies to be made and we eagerly complied. You have been there, no doubt you will remarry, like me, and find something special in no.2. Be cautious also of going out with someone who has similar ways/mannerisms just like your previous!!!!!
2007-12-17 09:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by enigma 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as she is comfortable with. I started dating again within 2-3 months after separation; the divorce didn't get finalized for another year due to the delays in paperwork.
2007-12-17 09:44:08 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think that depends on whether you've been separated for any length of time. It usually takes about a year for someone to completely work through all the issues after a divorce
2007-12-17 09:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I started dating about three months after my divorce but I am a guy without kids but that shouldnt matter.
2007-12-17 09:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by Gregory H 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
however long you feel like waiting.
many people start dating way before the divorce is final.
2007-12-17 09:44:17 · answer #8 · answered by Sufi 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are divorced, or even even thinking of one, that is admitting that it was a mistake to begin with. Right away, as long as you think the people you date do not think it is tacky.
2007-12-17 09:46:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Divorce 2:30, wild unbridled sex by 2:45...
2007-12-17 09:46:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋