for some reason i get information about my baby daddy but i hear alot of stuff about him and it bugs me alot cause he has moved on and i don't want any part of if being with this girl.. but this girl whats my attention what should i do i really don't like this girl that he is seeing and i don't want her around my son cause she is making him do things that i don't like am i being mean or what... i want her to stay aout of my son life and i don't care what she does with my baby daddy what should i do about her having my son do the things i don't like
2007-12-17 09:31:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are truly concerned because of your sons welfare then I would talk to the babys dad about it. It is important that no matter what is going on between you two that you keep the lines of communication for your son's sake open. He needs both of you. Just explain your concerns to the baby's dad and let him know that you are not trying to pry into his life but that you want to make sure that yours and his son is ok and that she is not teaching him bad things. Always put your son first.
2007-12-17 09:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by jenny c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...
I've got a sister that has the same problem, really.
I'm not sure what she wants your son to do-
I hope it's nothing wrong or innapropriate.
But what you do is basically move a bit away from her- like trying not to see her so much and avoid her if she bothers you.
I'm not sure if she's a nice person, but I know that you want what's best for your son. To keep distance from her, all you need to do is simply get out of your ex's business- if he wants to date someone like her, than let him make that mistake- he'll find it out on her own.
She'll only be dating him for a little while... I mean girlfriends aren't always forever (Unless they're serious).
Do be careful though and don't get into fights- my sister did, and now she is in the middle of a case that the court has to face.
If you could talk to her a little and see if she really could be nice- than that would be good. Otherwise- if she's really not the woman you thought she was, than you don't have any business being with her. Try talking to the baby daddy about this though- maybe he can straighten things out or even tell his gf how to be better.
You are the mother and you can do whatever it takes to protect your son and yourself- remember that.
You're in charge here.
(I hope I got all this relationship thing right- I'm a little confused- sorry.=/ )
Good luck!
And congrats on your son!,
Mairy
2007-12-17 09:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I'm gonna be real with you so if you can't handle my words I'm sorry but you created this drama in your life yourself by being with a horrible person for a husband and having kids with multiple guys, I feel bad for your kids, you need to move on and realize you made a mistake with this dude, hopefully someone is kind enough to help you out but this is the reality you created, you have to learn how to deal with it and accept the fact that your kids may not grow up with their father, the only thing you can do is do everything you can to make sure they don't make the same mistakes you did and don't end up anything like their father. Be the best mother you can be and stop worrying about this dude, you messed up, he messed up, time to move on, the more you dwell on everything he's doing or has done the more it's going to hold you back from what you need to do. Make sure you get child support from him and don't have any more kids, focus your life and time on them and work as hard as you can to give them the best life possible because at this point that's all that matters, the father is a dud, time to move on.
2016-05-24 09:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by scarlett 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the mother. You have the right to tell her if you don't approve of what she is doing with your son. Just make sure that it is not jealousy or envy. Sometimes, we as women, will say that we are OK with the ex moving on and not be. Its hard, I know. But make sure you are concerned about just the issues with your son and not because she is the new girl. If the girl is truly making your son do things that you don't like, talk to the ex and the girl. I'm sure they will understand. God Bless
2007-12-17 09:40:36 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being mean at all you cant controll what he does, but you can controll what your son does.....out of respect your baby daddy dont even need to be lettn other females around him like that. An tell her in a nice way to **** OFF!!!
2007-12-17 09:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by ~~Smiley~~~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like is girlfriend for whatever reason make sure she isn't allowed around your child or is supervised when she is. You're not being mean, you're being a mother.
2007-12-17 09:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by dice 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to f*** off and stop messing around with your son!
2007-12-17 09:34:18 · answer #7 · answered by . 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order against her...you have every right to.
2007-12-17 09:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean your baby's daddy?
2007-12-17 09:34:19 · answer #9 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
say
yeah, whatever.
2007-12-17 09:34:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋