Is this a true fact about marriage ?

Question

Is marriage all about tolerance?

Lets face it not all marriages work out but the ones that do thats years of tolerance right?

Answer 1

I would have to say yes, I have been married 18 years, and its a lot about tolerance, compromise, and giving, putting someone else, wants feelings and needs above your own. For marriage to work, you have to be like a tree that bends, and snaps back, never breaks. Love bears all ,believes all ,love never fails.

Answer 2

Wow I can't believe me of all people are going to say this. But no. Not really. The ones that work out are just the ones that were really meant to be. Divorce doesn't mean that someone could not tolerate another. I mean sometimes that is the case because people now use divorce as an exit but sometimes there are other reason. Marriage is for 2 people that want to be with each other. Not 2 people who decided one day that they were going to tolerate each other. I was married once. My divorce was so that I could still be alive today. I guess I could have tolerated it but I don't think that that is what Marriage is and I don't think that I should have too. I don't think anyone should tolerate someone. If it is that bad then they should have married or still be married. Those are the wrong reasons to be married.

Answer 3

I've only been married for a year and seven months, but I agree with the "compromise" answers from others. Tolerance is a part of compromise is two big ways that I can think of:
1. Compromise is not always half your way, half my way. In fact in my experience thus far compromise means as much your way as the other person can TOLERATE or visa versa.
2. When you make agreements and your partner still does what he wants to do (which is extra frustrating when you feel like you gave up a lot in the compromise you agreed to and he still *ucks up), tolerance is what keeps you together until he figures out how not to *uck up or you kill him(just kidding ... that's terrible).
I guess the bigger issue with the tolerance is what you are tolerating. Tolerance is hard to swallow when you are stubborn (like me) but in the end if what you tolerate is not dangerous to you physically or mentally, and it does not violate anything that is truly important to you, then in the end love prevails.

Answer 4

No, it is not true. While tolerance is an issue in marriage, real love (by definition: self sacrficing interest in another such that you are willing to be less that they are able to be more. It must be mutual.) is the main issue. Mutual growth is more important than mutual tolerance. Hopefully he or she will eventually grow out of doing the same selfish, foolish, thing over and over. They may not make this transition themselves. At times you will have to tenderly, carefully, (lovingly?) point out that same selfish, foolish, thing (occasionally, not every time) until growth has happened. Some things will never change. That's were the tolerance comes in. Hopefully there is more growth than there is need for tolerance. That's why love is more important than tolerance.

Answer 5

In a real marriage tolerance is not exactly the right word. Tolerance means you put up with what really bothers you.

Real marriage means that you are one and together. He/she has aslightly annoying thing.... you grow and work it out. Say a wife drives to fast. The husband being military tends to bottomline things and wants to always be logical. The wife sees the fuzzy wuzzy side. It is two people together showing each a different view.

Answer 6

If you're married to someone you are tolerating the whole time then yes, marriage is about tolerance, and that means your marriage is not good.
Marriage is not about tolerance unless you married an idiot. Don't marry an idiot unless you like your men/women that way.
Marriages work out because there are two ppl dedicated to making it work. When one person is not dedicated, it usually ends in a divorce!

Answer 7

I believe it involves give and take, rather than tolerance. As long as both are commited to each other, and want whats best for one another, you may never have to tolerate anything. Of course, those little things like leaving a mess in the kitchen is a form of tolerance, but it the great thing is I'll bet your wife (or huband) takes care of things you dont like to do too??? (hopefully)

Elaborate a little more with your question. What do you feel is tolerance? Are you tolerating something you really dont like and dont want to do the rest of your life???

Answer 8

Tolerance implies that no matter what the other person is doing, you just leave it. Well, you can't just leave everything.

There needs to be discussion, compromise, understanding, and respect. Respect if far more important than just tolerance.

If a husband really respects his wife, he will listen to her concerns. Tolerance just means he will keep reading the newspaper and tolerate her talk, without really listening.

There are MANY things that contribute to a good marriage. Too many to list here.

Answer 9

Marriage was ordained of God & Marriage is about commitment & unfortunately, commitment doesn't mean much these days. God also ordained the man to be the leader in the home, & so it is there natural instinct to want to lead. If a female takes that ability away from their spouse (by taking the lead): then they may find themselves divorced.

It is about working things out & about giving UR spouse a 100% of you, not 50% like the world thinks it should be.

The reason that marriage does't work, is because too many people think it is easier to throw in the towel, then it is to work @ it.

Society, leans towards sinful acts: & therefore Marriage is being seen by the world as not normal. What is popular these days, is same sex marriages, or same sex sexual partners & that is against godliness.

I'm happily married & have been for 10 years & desire to continue that way, until I'm raptured up to Heaven.

Answer 10

No it's not true. You "tolerate" a bug in your house but if you have to "tolerate" the person you're with you need to get out of the marriage.