so like i post on my last question, im 17yrs old and 7weeks pregnant and i love my baby, im living with my parents right now, working a part-time job, i graduate from high school last year , my family doctor set me an appt with a psychologist next friday, the babys daddy run away when i told him i was pregnant, he doesnt want the baby at all,
my moms friend is 34yrs old and cant have kids, she keeps harrasing me all the time cuz she wants me to give her my baby for adoption AND IM NOT GIVING MY BABY UP FOR ADOPTION, she calls to my house every single freaking hr, she is always telling me she can be a better mom for my child and she will give everything to him/her, so i told her ''thanks but im keeping my baby, im not giving my baby up for adoption'' and she called me an irresponsable mom just bcuz i dont wanna give her my baby! (im mad) im planning on calling the cops on her, should i call the cops on her? or what should i do
2007-12-17 08:40:22 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
CALL THE POLICE ASAP. This harassment and trust me you will not forgive yourself if something happens to your baby because she falls off of her rocker and decides she's going to take matters into her own hands and steal your baby. PLEASE tell your parents and call the police so you can get a restraining order. Lately the police have been taking these things more seriously b/c of the cases that have been coming up of women kidnapping babies. DO NOT let her in the house with you or your baby!! DO NOT let yourself or your baby be alone with her anywhere!!!! And make sure everyone knows that she isn't to be anywhere near the baby.
I just read an article that mentioned to call the police if anyone takes a particular interest in your baby. This is that kind of case. Please don't risk it!!!! You will be a responsible mother by calling the police and protecting your child!!!
2007-12-17 08:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by Corbin's Mommy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This woman is obviously going through some strong emotional problems. I do feel sorry for her not to be able to have children but there is no excuse for her harassing you.
My cousin was 16 when she had her child not even left high school. Her daughter is now 12 and is a real credit to her mum. Just because your young does not mean you can not be a good mother. You love your child and that is another by any one standards.
I too was only 19 when i had my first lived with my parents and was single.
I think you need to explain to this woman very strongly that you have told her NO and if she keeps hassling you maybe the law would have to come involved.
Congratulations on becoming a mother the most warding job in the world. Don't let her bully you and put you down. You know what is best for your child no one Else.
x
2007-12-17 08:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by Heather C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this lady is harassing you. I would call the cops. This kind of stress is bad on a pregnant woman. (You can tell her that she wouldn't be that great of a mom either if she thinks that harassing you isn't going to effect your pregnancy) I would get a restraining order and be done with it.
As for you, it sounds like you have things under control. Is this the ideal situation? No, but you are doing what you can with it. I applaud you for that. You don't know how many women in your shoes would run from the responsibility. I just say to take this all one step at a time and enjoy it while you can. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't do it or that you are making a bad decision by trying to keep it. In just about 33 more weeks you are going to have a beautiful baby that you love. Trust me, mothering comes pretty instinctively. Good luck and congrats.
2007-12-17 08:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy to Boys 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should call the cops, that lady has no right doing this to you. She sounds like a real b****h!!! Shes being selfish and trying to bully you into giving her your precious baby. She has no idea what kind of mother you are gonna be, so has no right saying she will take better care of your bubby. Talk to your mum about it all, what does she think of this womans behaviour? I personally think its appauling, she needs to back off and leave you to your life, if not then you will have to get the law involved. As for the no good father of your baby, he's a gutless jerk and should have thought of the consequences of having sex!!! He helped make this baby and needs to step up and take responsibility! But any how you look on the bright side, you have created life and it is truly a gift. Congratulations and good luck in the future
2007-12-17 08:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jayde A 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can try to call the cops for the harassment. If that doesn't work then I would seriously consider a restraining order. This woman sound desperate and mentally ill. Please keep your doors locked - this is scary because I see those stories about similar types of women who get psycho and kidnap the baby or attack the parent/parents. Be very careful and document the calls and anytime you see her, date, time and what she said. You will need all of that if you need to get a restraining order. And yes do call the cops as soon as possible.
2007-12-17 08:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetness 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would get a restraining order against her and then tell her if she doesn't leave you alone you will press charges on her. Take this very seriously because she could be crazy and might do harm to you in the future to get your baby. I am not trying to scare you but she seems extremely crazy!!!
Good luck and make sure to talk to your mom and maybe even talk to a lawyer for legal advice
2007-12-17 08:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by PG with #3 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to give up your baby if you don't want to. but you must be responsible and not expect you parents to rise your child like they raised you and in the meantime you go and have fun with more boys.
Figure out what you want from life, what kind of life you want for your baby and act accordingly - enroll into a school and work on your education then find a great job and live a great life.
To the crazy lady you should say: You can help out with the baby if you want to, but I'm still the mom.
2007-12-17 08:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by Darya J 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She should just be thankful that a young teen wants to take responsibility. I wouldn't want to give it up either! You need to tell her to adopt someone else's kid!!! Tell her to back off and get her own! I would tell your mom and if she persist, I would file harassment charges!! Congrats on your little one! I'm also 7 weeks and wouldn't be able to give this gift away!!! Good luck and God Bless!
2007-12-17 08:59:17 · answer #8 · answered by Brandie L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats terrible! if shes your mums friend cant your mum talk to her? i cant beleive someone would do that, it cant be good for you having someone on at you all the time to have your baby. i would call the police and tell them she is harrassing you and you are afraid she might try to steal your baby. (even if you dont think she will, it will make them see how serious it is) its not your fault she cant have kids and obviously giving up your baby wont make you a good mum will it? lol. try to get your mum to talk to her she needs to get a life and deal with her problems herself, not beg you for your baby. please dont give in to her, it will be hard but this is your baby and if she cant have kids she needs to either deal with it or adopt a child that is already up for adoption, there are kids who need homes she hould try to adopt one of them rather than pry a child from a loving mothers arms.
anyway good luck
2007-12-17 08:57:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call the cops on her for harassment. If you choose to give it up for adoption (which you made it clear you were not) then I would go through a agency and not give it to her. She needs to leave you alone so take actions into your hands now. It is ppl like her that end up kidnapping kids so please keep your child CLOSE to you at ALL times. Good luck
2007-12-17 08:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by Kat 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋