when I move her into the crib next to my bed she immediately wakes up and screams like crazy. I end up putting her back in the bed with me and she sleeps there also. I feel exhausted in the morning from being kicked by her all night long. How do I put her in her crib and make her stay asleep? It would be easier if she doesn't wake up when I move her into it. She will not fall asleep in her own bed and I do not like to let her cry because she will cry for 30 minutes non-stop. Help?
2007-12-17 08:32:01 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
she has her own room with a crib but I have a smaller folding crib next to my bed for her. I wouldn't make her sleep in her room right now, i think she's still too young but she will not even sleep in the crib in my room. As for one of those sleeper thingys, it's a wadge and she wiggles till she slides out of it.
2007-12-17 08:47:32 · update #1
sorry i meant WEDGE.
2007-12-17 08:50:06 · update #2
Mom that is normal.
You DO what is right for you Momma!~
Opinions are for others.... You use your heart, do what is right for your family!
Here are my tips:
I used to warm the baby bed and cover blanket with an electric blanket, take it out and put him in it. and put a microwavable "neck wrap" in the bed with the baby on his side, so he could snuggle. So something warm was in the bed with him. I continued to "bundle him" when he slept alone, it seems to comfort him.
He stopped sleeping with US at 4 months.
He was in Bed....alsleep by 7:30-8PM. That's hard and just do it. Trust me.
A bedtime routine. Bath, book, bonding (snuggles and prayers) and bed.
We included a bear with Mommy's voice, I love you, sweet dreams. (build a bear) into the crib later on.
I had him in a crib by the bed, yet NOT in my bed anymore.
It is actually harder on YOU than them. They are just protesting to the change. We are interrupting it as much more. I must admit, the sleep was nice and we both were comforted by the fact, Momma/Baby were so close.
Its hard to really keep the pattern.... it will change your life. Good and Bad.
Here we are at 4 years old and He is still in bed at 8pm and by 2am, its a pattern, he comes into our bed. My husband hates it and "honestly" I love it. So what, I dont' get to sleep every night, but "my reality is" he is only little for such a short time frame, I want my baby in my arms. He will be in college within minutes, because a blink of an eye ago, I was asking some else the same questions about my little baby. time flies.
My wonderful and wise mother in law- told me the same thing I am telling you.
Do what is right for your family, and don't allow any judgements, books or "opinions" interrupt the way your live your life. ....Including mine.... love your mother in law.....
cool huh.
Best wishes and give her a snuggle for me.
I'm so not a "tree hugger"... just a logical woman with life skills.
2007-12-17 08:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by Denise W 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you take the drop-down side(which isn't structural) off the crib and butt the crib up against your bed. Then you use bungy cords to attach the two frames, and also attach the two mattresses if possible (most mattresses have handles). Oh and use a rolled sheet to fill the gap between the crib mattress and the far side of the crib.
Then you can try to get her to sleep in her part of "your" bed. However I ended up sleeping in the crib after my son was about 6 months *lol*. That only works if the mattresses are the same height obviously.
You can also do the same thing with a twin sized bed.
2007-12-17 17:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dr. Sears would tell you that this attachment is a good thing. She probably feels very secure next to you! You're lucky...believe it or not.
How about this: they make little beds that babies sleep in (mine is called the "First Years Close and Secure Sleeper" and it was about $35 at Target...you can see the picture online). You just put your baby in the little sleeper next to you. You will not get kicked all night, you will not roll over on her, and if you really want her in her own bed, just lift the whole sleeper out of your bed and into her's.
Is her crib in your room? If not, consider it until she's 12 months or so.
Good luck! You're a good mom for trying to soothe her...even if you're too tired to feel like it! :)
2007-12-17 16:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by J B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should put her to bed in her crib. Develop a routine, and stick to it. Does she suck on a pacifier? If she starts to cry go to her crib talk to her console her (without picking her up) if that doesn't work, pick her up and rock her then put her back down and walk away. Of course this will probably go on for a little while, she is just nervous that you are leaving her, but if she sees that you come back when she cries she will feel more secure. But if you dont want her sleeping in your bed you shouldnt put her there at bed time.
2007-12-17 16:42:23 · answer #4 · answered by lilLuv_2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This transition can be tough, I too shared a bed with my child until he was 6 months, but had no trouble getting him into his crib. I was lucky. I do remember reading about lowering one side of the crib and putting it right next to your bed so she thinks she is sort of in bed with you. Then you just raise the side and gradually move the crib away from your bed just a little every week or so until she is comfortable in her own space.
2007-12-17 16:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by sky64 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to put her down in the crib when she is drowsy and falling asleep, but NOT asleep.
It will take some time for her to get used to, and an evening routine will help. She will still cry through the night, but this will give her a better chance of sleeping through the night in the crib.
I really like the new johnson's bed and bath routine.
2007-12-17 16:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I also had the same problem with my youngest. It was very difficult to wean him from our bed, but I persevered by trying the method of letting him/her
cry it out. You must not go back in the room the first time for
30 mins. then check on them briefly using soothing words and letting them know they are not being abandoned. Then
also make sure there is a musical toy or something they like to help reassure them. Go back in again after 20 more mins. and check, then again after 10 mins. Usually at this point they will start to tire out and give up. Try again the second night but you will see that the crying will lesson in a shorter time than the night before and so on. The crying will hurt you more than them, but the reason for checking is to make sure it is definately not some other cause. Be patient, this method does work but you have to be firm. . You must be consistent always. There are also other mehods mentioned in the best baby book ever: What To Expect The First Year and most libraries have this book. Good luck to you sincerely.
2007-12-17 16:54:59 · answer #7 · answered by Debbi 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If your baby was younger than this, I wouldn't recommend what I am going to recommend to you, but at 6 months, my experience (3 kids) has been to let them cry. Maybe try rocking the baby to sleep, putting her into her crib when she nods off, and patting her back til she dozes off again IN HER CRIB. If you decide to try this, know that you are going to have about a weeks worth of grief, but it is worth it in the end! Good luck, no matter how you choose to do it!
2007-12-17 16:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by judo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest starting her off sleeping in her bed and trying to soothe her some way. Weather we want to believe it or not babies can learn a behavior or feeling and I think if you keep consistant with this it will help. Also, do you try warm milk when putting her to bed?
2007-12-17 16:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by pooey_1980 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard, but you got to let her go and sleep an entire night in her crib.
2007-12-17 16:35:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋