My husband will let me have a bite of his hamburgers sometimes or every once in a while he'll let me have my own but generally he tells me to watch what I eat. I want to know how common this is. Thanks :)
2007-12-17 08:23:18 · 34 answers · asked by Little Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oops!! I meant to ask if so what was the food he doesn't want you to eat? :)
2007-12-17 08:29:58 · update #1
Get a new husband.
2007-12-17 08:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by Willow 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Are you kidding? Your husband tells you what you can and can't eat? Sounds like you are married to a control freak...My husband would NEVER tell me that I couldn't eat something because he didn't want me to gain weight....I am actually on the thin side myself..but he doesn't force food on me either....
2007-12-17 08:28:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I've never experienced that and I think it is very wrong for your husband to control what you eat. He should love you for who you are.... and just exactly the way you are. Even if you gained 100lbs.... so what.
I gained about 20 lbs when I was married and my then husband (we're divorced now, but not because of that) thought and always told me I was beautiful no matter what. Even if i wasn't. Just those sweet words encouraged me to try to be as beautiful as I could - for him.
I would imagine that makes you feel bad, doesn't it? Saying stuff like that (which is mean) will only lead to worse stuff. What if you gain weight anyways (which a lot of us tend to do anyways, as we get older). If he is concerned about your weight, I believe there are more gentle ways he express his concern. For health reasons... only. For one, you dont want to be too skinny.. thats not attractive.
He's mean. I think~
2007-12-17 08:39:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's very common...
It's okay for him to want you to be healthy, but he shouldn't tell you what you can and can't eat. If he eats healthily and wants to help you make healthy food choices, that's great! But to tell you that you CAN'T have a hamburger is kind of ridiculous.
You didn't really give us all the details of the situation but it doesn't sound good. If he's being unfair and making you feel badly about yourself then this is NOT okay and it needs to stop!
2007-12-17 08:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by Cristina 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband sometimes tells me this but it is not right you should be able to eat what ever you want with a little exercise you will be fine he has not right over you to tell you what to do and you should not listen to him in the first place. And if you do not eat hameburgers because he says so then this is not good my husband sometimes say I should get on a diet and hey sometimes I do but when I have a craving I will eat what I want. So you need to do the same I mean don't get me wrong watch what you eat if you want to still have a hot body but do not do it because you husband tells you not to.
2007-12-17 08:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lost 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband watches what I eat like a hawk and he should be watching himself. He has gained about a size since we got married 2 years ago. He is so worried because he knows that I used to weigh 100 pounds more once apon a time. It took me a long time to take that weight off and I did it the correct way. I have faith in myself that I know what I'm doing. I think to many people are weight obsessed!
2007-12-17 08:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, he has not told me that ever, and he never will. He will LET you have a bite, how gracious of him? Have you lost your mind. He don't tell you what to do, or does he? Sounds like you married your father, instead of a real man. Let my man tell me what I can do and what I can't and it won't take but just a second for me to sit his *** on the curb. We are equals in our relationship, he loves me and NOT my looks...You and this man-boy has some serious issues. My dear, this is not normal for a man to tell his wife what she can eat and what she can't and it is even harder for me to understand that you actually listen to him. . . .
2007-12-17 09:15:16 · answer #7 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It' great to watch what you eat. It's bad for him to tell you what and how much you can eat. You said once in a while he will let you have you own. He sounds very controlling and if it hasn't bleed over into the other parts of your marriage it surly will. educate yourself one eating right and do whats right for you. Have a hamburger when you want.
2007-12-17 08:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Poor girl!!!
I am so sorry, it is common, but it is not right, men and women should love eachother no matter what, there was a time in my marriage when I was really overweight, and I knew he was unhappy with me just by his little signals, like not sleeping with me, and not paying attention to me, but the biggest thing was his lack of interest in se*!
I saw all the signals, and I went on a diet and started dieting and exercising and eating right and then he finally noticed me, but men and women can't tell eachother what to eat or "monitor" their eating., that is just not right!
I would talk to your husband and tell him it bothers you, on what he is doing to you and watching you eat.
I would communicate with him and ask him to please stop saying what he is saying because it makes you uncomfortable. And if he does not stop, then I would seek the advice of a counselor.
2007-12-17 08:43:34 · answer #9 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't even begin to imagine what it would be like to have a husband tell me something like that. Oh well, if he tried, I'd ***** slap him down.
2007-12-17 08:27:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would NEVER talk to my wife like that. She is over weight and I would like her to lose some but I want HER to want to lose the weight. If she never does then I will love her the same.
As for your man, the next time he tells you that you can't eat somthing because you are over weight tell him to go to hell!
2007-12-17 08:37:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋