What does everyone think of people who are married and that still talk to their ex's is that cool or not?

Answer 1

not cool with me or my husband we both hate our exs and all our kids are grown thank god . good luck and merry christmas .

Answer 2

It depends, it's circumstantial, as everything else. If he/she is divorced and in touch with the ex cause of the kids, then that's ok.

A while back, I dated a friend for a month or two, and we both absolutely hated the relationship and realised we made a mistake and were better off as friends. We have been friends for around 10 years now, no attraction, no comments about the past, no fond memories, no flirting, in fact, he tells me about his dates and so do I.

But if there was a powerful feeling going on, and there are sparks flying everytime both people talk, or if one can't let go of the past and wants to try it again, or whatever, then that may bring troubles in the relationship, and that ain't too cool.

Answer 3

No it's not, unless there is some intent and possibility of getting back together again.

I'm in that boat right now; my ex and I talk... and I'm thinkin we're gonna get back together again... but I can't be sure and I have to make some career decisions... so if I'm just being strung along as a "friend" then that is not cool at all... it would be worth it to stay put and struggle in a less-favorable employment for now IF we are getting back together, otherwise I literally want to move away to another city.

Answer 4

Well, there's no way to get around my boyfriend talking to his ex-wife since they have 2 kids together and (for the time being) work for the same company. I don't have a problem with it.

As long as the ex stays an ex, it's cool to talk. As long as it's at least civil if not friendly.

Answer 5

Well I have some direct experience with this. I don't think it is cool to talk to the ex just about life, work, etc. To me it means the relationship is continuing in some form and I just don't like it. However, I also know that exs can remain friends and who am I to tell my hubby he cannot have Friends? Also if there are kids between them they have to talk to deal with things with the kids.

Answer 6

Whether you have children or not if you can remain friends in the end that's great. It's most important to work at being friends if there are children involved because it is now all about the kids. They watch everything you do and say to eachother and by showing them that people can still be friends even thru a divorce instills the best example to them. I have two children and am divorced and we are friends. I see how my children watch how we interact with one another and am very glad that we were able to work things out in this manner. Good luck.

Answer 7

cool...my second husband hated it so it made me choose to keep it secret from that point on. He are I were just friends after our divorce nothing more. Ended up the second became a X as well...his dumb @ss didn't fair as well, I don't talk to him.
Its cool, they are Xs for a reason, doesn't mean that you don't like that person; just means you couldn't be married to them.

Answer 8

Quitely frankly, I don't understand it., they can't be married but they can be best buddies...I think not. When 2 people have been married, there is history and it a possiblily that they will want to be with each other again, I think a person is playing with fire when they allow their partner to be best buddies with an X. I say NOT!

Answer 9

I'm married and I talk to my ex on a regular basis. Granted it only started a couple of months ago, we've been exes for nearly 15 years, and we live 1,200 miles apart, so it's different than someone who is talking to their "recent ex" who lives two towns over...

Answer 10

I talk to my ex all the time,,,we have three beautiful daughters togheter, we have to talk. My wife and ex are planning the Christmas gifts for the kids right now actually.

Answer 11

Not cool at all! No ex's unless there are kids involved.