I was raised to respect my elders but some make it very hard to do. We deal with a lot of eldery in our office & just shake our heads at the ones that call our office & demand to be seen ASAP just to have their nails & calluses taken care of because they are going to FL the next day. Doesn't matter that they missed their last two appts without calling or anything or that the office is full. Very annoying.
Then there was the lady that kept beeping her horn in the supermarket lot at a lady that was moving 2 carts out of the way so this lady could park. 4 other H-capped available mind you but she had to get into this one. When she got out of her car the lady moving the carts told her she was moving them so she could part there & hoytie toytie said "oh you were not". I was a witness to this & we just laughed at her arrogance.
Some can be so sweet & downright funny while others are unbelievable. Guess that life.
Any elderly experiences you would like to relate?
2007-12-17 08:13:02 · 28 answers · asked by lilith663 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
I live beside of my 87yr old grandmother. Biggest mistake I ever made. Not only is she horribly demanding, but she is by far the selfishest (is that a word?) person I've ever known! Everything has to be her way or no way and if she doesn't get what she wants exactly as she wants it, then she throws a temper tantrum, that far exceeds anything my 4 yr old could do. Just today she had her panties in a wad because I lost her Kroger plus card. I mean come on it isn't like they are irreplaceable. She is always concerned with how much time I have for her. She gets mad if I"m sick and can't be down there doing for her, or if I'm busy with my daughter or other things. There are times I'd love to slap the **** out of her, but of course I try to remain respectful but boy does she make it h ard!
I have seen a lot of this attitude in her friends and other elderly at my church. They are impatient, and selfish. I hope if I ever act like that someone just shoots me and puts me out of everyone's misery.
2007-12-17 08:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by The OTHER Boelyn Chic 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I had a father like that. The older he got, the meaner he got. Until it was all I could do to be around him very long. At the last, nothing I did was right in his eyes.
Seems like some people are just rude and mean all their lives, and those people I have little respect for at any age.
But I think sometimes as people age, they suffer from changes in their brains, and it causes personality changes that make them mean and ill-tempered. I think that was what happened to my father, because he once was a nice man. I don't believe in some cases that they realize how they are behaving, and if they did, they would be horrified.
I try to have patience with them, but sometimes it is really hard, and can be dangerous, esp when they try to run you down! They seem to lose control of their tempers and manners and good sense.
2007-12-17 08:51:07 · answer #2 · answered by Isadora 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ya know, I don't think that has much to do with being elderly. Those same rude people were probably rude in their younger years also ,I doubt they turned that way over night. Years ago I worked with the public and everyone would seem to complain about the bad ones and I always tried paying more attention to the nice people I met. In reality some people are just down right miserable people to be around ...young and old. I guess we have a perfect grandparent picture and it's not always that way.
2007-12-17 08:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by Eileen B 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes i feel the same way that you should respect your elders but i also feel as if all people should be respected no matter what their age. But since you asked for a story...here it goes
I was walking into our produce market and i was pushing my cart down the side of the parking lot. There was a stopped car in the lot with a blinker on and an open spot next to them. They are parking right? Well as i went to cross, in the cross walk, in front of him this old man floors his car at me so i had to very quickly move out of the way. As he drove by me he was yelling through his rolled up window and waving his fists in fury. I looked at him in shock. He almost ran me down and he is the mad one? Where did he get the nerve?
2007-12-17 08:25:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being one of the elderly, I have to agree with most of the responders.
Anybody can be rude and crude, age is not a factor. What may make it stand out more as we age is that we are more easily grouped because of our wrinkles, loss of hair, slowness are whatever. We get pigeon-holed as crotchety old people.
But, that has little to do with respect. What it has to do with is character. That of the older person and that of ones interacting with them.
Kindness, mildness, understanding makes a lot of wrinkles disappear.
2007-12-17 11:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by deepndswamps 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes.....some aren't nice....but there isn't any age group who is 100% perfect.
I was waiting in line at a store. This elderly lady kept shoving her cart in my back-side. I'm not talking a bump.....I had bruises. I looked to see if others were maybe pushing her. Looked to see if she was un-stable and didn't mean to hit me......I was 100% trained to totally respect the elderly. Finally I snapped.....I did.....God forbid....I did turn around to her and say..."Shoving your cart up my *** isn't going to make this cashier move any faster." I didn't get bumped again and felt horrible since.
I have been called a thief and had fists shaken at me when a sale item didn't scan at the sale price like I was going to "steal" their money. They didn't understand and if I had the time
to explain it I did but always fixed it immediatly. Got to where I had a reputation for helping and had a huge line waiting just for me. I double checked their expiration dates and such and looked after them. I earned that respect because they ran me through the ringer to get it. LOL I've had enough fingers shaken in my face and called enough names to last a lifetime. LOL...Thing is,,,I didn't blame them and they taught me so much in return.
2007-12-17 10:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's amazing to me how many of the answerers said they respect their elders,,,Respect should be earned..not freely given because of age.
Attitude is a problem with a lot of people,,age makes no difference in that respect.
My experiences with the elderly are many and 7/8 of them I reflect upon with joy..The ones I know are loving, giving and helpful...
Please don't "lump" people together because of age,,,do it because of attitude....
2007-12-17 12:35:29 · answer #7 · answered by Boopsie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few years ago I pulled into the post office in a parking space next to an elderly lady sitting in the passenger side. I opened my door to get out and she said I hit her car door.It was impossible for me to have hit her door and I told her so. She still insisted that I hit her car with my car door.
I then opened my car door as far as it would go and it still did not touch her car and I again told her " I could not have hit your car, my door is wide open now and this is as far as it goes"
She stated "Well, you still hit my door." Whatever. Figure that one out.
2007-12-17 13:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arrogance & rudeness knows no boundaries when it comes to age. There's no excuse for rudeness no matter how old a person is or what the circumstances are. In the line of work you do, it must indeed be hard to hold your tongue sometimes. I've had my experiences too, but I try to be patient. It's hard sometimes.
2007-12-17 08:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Careful what you say here. Most of the ANSWERERS are elderly, it's not ABOUT elderly.
Isn't it amazing. I got a respect deserves respect question removed, but everyone else is saying the same thing!
2007-12-17 10:01:49 · answer #10 · answered by primalclaws1974 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋