Not too long ago, when I was in the throes of a major depression, someone told me that I was unpopular, because people thought that I had a "negative attitude". This really irritates the hell out of me, because what they perceived as a "negative attitude" was one of the symptoms of clinical depression. Not only that, but has it ever occurred to some people that maybe some people have a "negative attitude" because of their life experiences? Not everyone's life is a cakewalk and not everyone has a reason to jump for joy or think that life is hunky dory, so people should take this things into consideration before they dismiss someone as having a "negative attitude".
2007-12-17 07:58:53 · 17 answers · asked by tangerine 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Maybe that person diagnosed you wrong but what they intended to say was people don't like you because your depressed; which translates to a negative attitude.
My life and millions of other peoples where filled with terrible things. most people are surprised if I ever tell them about how I grew up or some of the things Ive seen. I don't dwell on it and i definitely don't let it dictate the person I am.
2007-12-17 08:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, I am really sorry you are in a clinical depression. That is awful. But even if you have an "excuse", you have to acknowledge reality. When you are depressed you view life differently. Usually with a "negative attitude". You also need to acknowledge life's truths or realities. Like attracts like.
People want to be lifted up. A negative attitude drags people down. You will have some "true friends" that will be beside you through thick and thin. Be grateful for them and keep them always. The great majority of people you know will judge you on your current behavior. If you are "down" or "negative" they will respond that way.
Be careful on judging people. They have made a "quick" judgment of you. You will have 1-5 "true friends". The others are just acquaintances. Treat them as such. If they pull away from you at this time, it's OK. That's human nature. (Just think. If you had "casual" friends acting like you do, would you want them around?)
You are going to be OK. You are going to pull out of this. And when you do, don't punish the people who were not there for you. (But keep the friends that were there for you close forever!) Just remember not to trust them on an intimate level. But if you come at them with a bad attitude when your positive attitude returns, they will go away. Forgive them and move on.
2007-12-17 16:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by Kelli 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
True, but they may not have wanted to be around you because your depression was depressing them. Sad but true. When you need people the most, they can only take so much. Depression can be contagious so people avoid being around it. Try to think positively even when things are bad. See the bright side. If something bad happens, think, ok, this is bad but it must have happened for a reason. Sometimes, down the road you'll see how it actually turned out better than what you expected.
One time my car wouldn't start when I had an appointment with the chiro. I couldn't get there in time but heard on the radio there was a bad accident right along the path I was going. If I had been on time, I may have been in the accident.
If I don't get what I want, I just think there is probably something wrong with it & I'll end up getting something even better.
2007-12-17 16:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by Pogo peeps 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I went thru a similar situation about 18 months ago...it was the worst time of my life,and those I thought I could count on, those I was there for when they needed it,told me I was the one with a bad attitude, well duh....all I can say, and it has taken me so long to realize and accept it, is that they are not your real friends. They are the ones with the problems.
I reconnected with my former good friends, who I dumped and ignored to hang with this "cooler" crowd.They gave me unconditional love and support, and I can't believe that I thought those other *^$%*^( were better.
I bet you have a good friend that you have not talked to in a long time. Why don't you call her? I bet you will feel better.
2007-12-17 16:27:39 · answer #4 · answered by desertskieswoman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depression is something that will fade over time , if you really want it to, providing that its not cronic. I agree that some people just don't understand how depression effects others and may respond to a person having a bad attitude ? If it really bothers you how people repond to your depression maybe its a way of saying that its time to change.
Most people typically don't like the negative attitudes from anyone.
2007-12-17 16:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
People who have never experienced clinical depression will never understand. No matter what you do everything is crap- but hang in there, with the aid of supplements/medication life for the present can be tolerable - and it WILL pass!
2007-12-17 16:47:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have their own problems to worry about and are not in the mood to listen to others. Like they say "Your problem is your problem, why bother me with it?". When someone is constantly being negative it is a drag to be around them. That is the way life is. Most of the times negative people say things to gain attention. Everyone says things or have conversations that have negative connotations but not all the time. If a person is constantly being negative they need help.
2007-12-17 16:07:56 · answer #7 · answered by worldneverchanges 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It is obvious those people did not know you and what you were going through at the time. Then again why should you give a rats patotie about people who do not and will not take the time to know you. All you do is become bitter and there is that 'negative attitude' again. So don't sweat people who could care less about you and vise versa....
2007-12-17 16:06:12 · answer #8 · answered by wrathofkahn03 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
wow i've been waiting for someone to finally feel the way i do. i've been in the middle of what feels to me as depression and all my friends say that i'm always mad or always pissed off and they don't really talk to me anymore. i've been through a lot in my life and it's nowhere near easy, or as you said, a cakewalk. it's like no one understands that what happens in your life to you or involving you can have serious effects. so i don't know why people say that, but i do understand how you feel. i hope everything is better for you now.
2007-12-17 16:04:20 · answer #9 · answered by HcBasketball#15 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Do you even listen to yourself ? Use some common sense...
Would you rather be around someone who is happy and full of life and makes your life better for having known them...
or
The depressed complaining loser who goes on and on about how life sucks and how unfair it is and makes you just want to jump off a bridge or step in front of a bus...
In the words of Denis Leary, "Life sucks, get a ****ing helmet"
I'm depressed all the time but I don't go around complaining to everyone about it...
2007-12-17 16:15:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋