How important is sexual chemisty in a relationship?

Question

In your opinion, is it more important to have a good friendship basis or more important to have good sexual chemistry?

Answer 1

friendship,because when the sex wears off(and it will eventually) you better have something to fall back on. my husband & I were friends before we ever were married(2gether 25 yrs) he got very sick about two years before he died and we couldnt have sex very much but we played alot of Yatzee,spades, Dr. Mario, trivia games,and watched alot of movies, so we bascially reverted back to being friends again...had we not had that friendship in the first place I don't know what we would have had in common to fall back on so I do believe being friends is more important. I did not go out looking for an affair but spent the remainder of our time being with my best friend and best bud talking about the good old days and reminesing about the great sex we used to have & laughing our @sses off.

Answer 2

I assume you mean a romantic or significant-other relationship, since the other types of relationship don't usually involve sexual chemistry.

It's important, but it's by no means the only factor. A romantic relationship should be based at least partly on respect, partly on friendship, and partly on sex. And on as many other things that can be brought to play--including religion, political values, social values and many other things.

For example, if one partner is dead set against the use of drugs and the other partner is a user, that works against the relationship--and can destroy it. In a lasting relationship everything is important.

It is possible to disagree on some things, and unusual if you don't. But the major issues should not be a point of disagreement.

When all else breaks down, love (not sex) and friendship should be the anchor that keeps the relationship from breaking up on the rocks.

Answer 3

I think both are important. You can't have an actual relationship based on sex, but bad sex can definately break it. If the sexual chemisty isn't there, I would say you're better off as just friends.

Answer 4

Very interesting question, given the responses that you have received. I am sure there are flaws in my perspectives since my track record with relationships is lousy. So, here goes:
A solid relationship benefits greatly from a good sexual relationship but simply can't be the basis of it. As an example, I recently dated a women who made it CLEAR she was a very sexual being and needed sex often. I thought woo-hoo lucky me!!! She was attractive, sexy,smart, funny and interesting to talk to. Nice gal. Anyway, she made love like a long-shore man. I hope no long-shore men reads this, my point is- no tenderness, no passion. Just sex. It was made clear after she got what she was looking for, you have 3 minutes to get what your looking for cuz she's done. To make a long story short, I lost interest. One day, she threw her 'plastic love machine' on her kitchen table and told me "I need a new one of these and your paying for it"...... Ah, yes, tenderness...... That's not to say raw sex ain't kewl-because hot monkey lovin is so fine.... I thought making love was just that- expressing one's emotions towards that other person. Like I said, my track record aren't so good....
I heard it once said, pick someone who you really enjoy talking to, who respects you and who you respect because one day your passion will be expressed in different ways. Someone who's smile makes the whole world right.

Hope this helps!

Answer 5

well both....i believe to be in a relationship there is gotta be a friendship and trust...but also a sexual attraction thats driven by both of you a passion... when u combine the friendship n that sexual chemistry everything else is easy.

Answer 6

Both are extremely important. But if I have to choose one, I would of course choose to have a good friendship with my boyfriend.

Answer 7

both i want a guy to be like a bestfriend...ya know to laugh with/at me and make me laugh lol

but sexual chemistry is important or when you kiss its not there for you, i personally want to be able to kiss him and want more ya know! ts gotta be passion!

Answer 8

have to have a good balance of each keeps the relationship moving foward. but one thing the balance got to be same for both.

Answer 9

both are important you can be good friends and not have good sex or have good sex and not like each other you have to find someone that you can have both with

Answer 10

good sexual chemistry