When we married, we didn't know what the heck we were doing, we were so immature and selfish. We've been together for 10 yrs, 6 married and want to replace our rings with something that means more to us. When you talk to people tho, they say that those rings reflect that time and you shouldn't replace them, that it's wrong. But to us our marriage means more now than it did back then, we've gone thru so much and love each other more now than we did when we got married. We want to get a proper set that reflects who we are today.
Our first set was a cheapie set that was under $200 and we had them stolen(hard to believe) when we moved into our home, 18 mos ago. We've replaced them with a ring but it's just a ring and this time we want something that is more classical and a little more expensive than what we did originally.
Do you personally agree with it. I'm not going to be swayed by someone here, just wondering on your viewpoints.
2007-12-17 07:38:45 · 46 answers · asked by Yummy♥Mummy 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sarge927---so so sorry to read that. I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-12-17 07:48:36 · update #1
It is based on what the couple thinks. We bought cheap rings when we first got married. But the rings are just a symbol. They don't show how much you love someone. All it shows is that you are married. Marriage history at one point didn't have rings so it shouldn't matter now unless you want it to. We are planning to replace our rings as well. My husband and I agree that although our love and commitment to each other means a lot more than the rings itself, be reminded of our commitment is also a good thing. It doesn't matter if you replace the rings because they are just an added symbol to the world about the love you share with eachother and that is the only thing that cannot be replaced with time.
2007-12-17 07:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why some people may think it's wrong, but I also completely understand why you want to replace them. As they were stolen you cannot be accused of "replacing" them in the first place, can you? So those who are against it do not have a legitimate view.
You and your husband should go and choose a new set of rings, have them engraved with the date of your marriage to make them significant of that time. If you had a church wedding or you value religious significance of your marriage, ask your vicar or reverend whatever if he can arrange a blessing of your rings. Hope this helps, at the end of the day it's what means most to you and your husband. Good luck and many happy years together x.
2007-12-17 07:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by Willow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to replace the rings then do it!
Seeing as your first set got stolen anyway ... now is the perfect time to do it!
If you feel that it would mean more to both of you to replace the rings, then I say do what feels right in your heart! I think it sounds like a great idea.
You could even have a celebration of sorts to "renew" your marriage and your vows. Give each other the new rings, and make new vows to each other. Have fun with it! Make it something special so you will both remember *why* you decided to replace the rings!
Good luck!
2007-12-17 07:45:23 · answer #3 · answered by twinklette.doombunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Items can represent different portions of your life, and when you feel that you have entered a new chapter, there is nothing wrong with "Replacing" it - I would not call it replacing, because that ring will always remain special, that you are just starting anew, or in a different light.
I believe it is a wonderful idea to get a set that represents you as who you are now. People will change and grow, come togethr and fall apart, and I think it would be great if you got new ones because you've come a long way and as you said, are different today than you were before.
2007-12-17 07:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by Mary 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fine everyone thinks that it's the rings that makes the marriage but it actually doesn't. YOu have been married for years now and you can do whatever you'd like there isn't any rule book on replacing your rings. They will get over it
Love for another 10 years. With or without the rings
2007-12-17 07:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by Debbie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not see anything wrong with replacing your rings. My husband wears his out every 5 years or so . If he gets new ones than I should be able to too. I think you do whatever makes you happy marriages don't hinge an rather or not you replace your rings. Your originals were stolen anyways so by all means buy the ones you want.
2007-12-17 07:45:17 · answer #6 · answered by STLgirl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Personally, my husband said it was time to upgrade... we've been married 6 years now and i have my original engagement ring and wedding ring... Plus to top things off, I lost a diamond too... So, he said it was just time. So, here is the way I see it... It is your ring, and you want it to show what you two mean to one another, plus, yours that you had was stolen, so we're not talking about an original ring that you had 6 years ago... I say head to the store, pick out something nice, but not going to ruin the bank and just enjoy one another!
2007-12-17 08:20:21 · answer #7 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say if you want to replace them then thats what you should do. My parents had very little money when they were first married and they got cheap rings. As time gone on, they upgraded a couple times in the 60something yrs they were together. They always kept their old rings tho. i now have my moms first wedding band and her first set she got years later. You know you love this person and everytime you see your ring, you should remember how you two got as far as you did and being able to get new rings. its just another chapter in your hopefully long story of life together.
2007-12-17 07:44:22 · answer #8 · answered by ☆rebel yell☆ 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's a ring - it's a material thing. I would say go for it and get the best ring/diamond you want and/or can afford. As long as you are happy within your relationship and your husband agrees with upping the ring - go for it! Who cares what other people think!? You guys are the ones that worked long and hard to keep the marriage good this long - you know what's right for you! :)
2007-12-17 07:45:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call it as replacing the rings, it because you can never replace what brought both of you together. I would call it adding to what you guys have already build together. You can wear the rings together, on the other hand, or around your neck on a special necklace that you guys pick out to go with the new rings to symbols the you love guys have today. That would even tie both together as one, with the early part of you love to the present love.
2007-12-17 08:18:26 · answer #10 · answered by Musicman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋