Why is it still often the man's responsibility to provide for their girlfriend/wife?

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No offense to all to the many successful independent women out there - no offense at all. And no offense to women who work - I TOTALLY SUPPORT BOTH GROUPS! :-)

That said, *why,* even in today's modern society, does it still end up being the man who is both expected to and does end up providing for their girlfriend/wife?

I know many girls who expect their 'man' to do all the work.

If I had a girlfriend, da*n...I'd love for the roles to be reversed!
Why should I be the one who has to work most of my life to provide for all the needs of a family?
I don't mind having a job, but why should I have to be the primary breadwinner?

I'm NOT talking about the pregnancy recovery period!!! Duh.
I'm not even really talking about kids, since I can't even have any!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Most men....expect the wife/girlfriend to have a job, raise the babies, keep the house clean, dinner cooked and be ready for sex so why is it in today's Modern Society men out there - No offense expect this???? :-)

Answer 2

Tradition. Traditionally it has been the man's role to provide for the family. That is how it has been forever. However with women's lib and all, women began to get in the work force; in certain instances because it was needed for the family to survive. This may sound strange, but the biggest benefactor of affirmative action were women. If you think about it, it will make sense. Both of these movements, women's lib and affirmative action came to life around the same time in history. Everything in this country is based on how it appears. A man is seen as weak if he doesn't make more money than his wife. You see it all the time. If a man stays home with the children and does all the stuff say a house wife does, he is looked down upon. All the women get together and talk about him. Either that or he is seen as gay. Most of the guys are slender in stature. There aren't very many big, beefy, burly house husbands. Personally, I'm all about the teamwork approach. Maybe that's why I'm still single. Can't find someone to work with me. Most women still expect a man to be the provider, but also want to be independent. You go on a date, you better not go dutch. You will be talked about badly and there won't be anymore dates. Other than that you need to kick her to the curb and find someone who will work. You can do bad by yourself.

Answer 3

when you get pregnant, go through all the problems that entails, and give birth, it can take a full year for your body to recover from this, the fact that in most cases pound for pound your have more muscle and muscle strength, and that women make less money, and have more mothering and nesting instincts, then men, then we can talk, because if men had babies the race would die out, health wise, men are less sturdy than woman 106 male babies are born to every100 women, and that consistency is needed in the home, i for one are not happy that men are physically stronger, but that is the way we were made for a reason oh and by the way they did a study on this one, they found that being a stay at home mom was the equivalent to having 2 1/2 full time jobs, so you still think you want to reverse roles, the human race would die out

dale t

Answer 4

Depends on the women I guess. I also think this has to do with history Most people grew up in families that were that way and I guess most people still follow the example and expectations as created in their childhood.

I would not expect it of a man, but the truth is also that in a lot of cases men do get paid more for the same work than women. This makes the issue come more to life yet again.

So society is changing but not changing very fast in that way I guess it will take a few more generations before this patriarchal society is truely one of equality

Answer 5

I completely understand. It's all a society thing, it's looked bad upon the man if he's not taking care of the woman.

My situation, I am the breadwinner and my husband is the work from home man but ppl look down on us all the time, they bruse and killl his ego all the time because they fill the MAN should be the winner not the woman, AND i'm offended that I cant be the breadwinner with out ppl thinking I'm stupid and soft. I wish things would change in society but, it wont for a long while/

Answer 6

Well lots of things changed since women became liberated however the man still makes so much more money then a woman does unless she has an high education. My husband makes 3 times more then I do an hour. Yes he works hard outside being a heavy machine operator but I work hard at my office job working for the county.

Answer 7

Men usually start out doing this when they are dating. The woman usually just let them keep it up. This should be discussed at some point especially before marriage. I work with quite a few men that have this problem and their wives work and think that what they make is their money. I work and I make more than my husband. Our money is pulled and the bills are paid, we get our own money and the rest is saved. If we want something or we are going to make a large purchase it is discussed and decided on when it will be done. We do not make financial decisions without the others input. It works great. You do not have to be the one that provides for the family. It should be a joint venture. I think that providing for our children and each other is as much my responsibility as it is his. Lay out your cards and tell her exactly what you want and expect.

Answer 8

You wouldn't be providing *ALL* of the needs of your wife and children...don't you think your family NEEDS a clean house, clean laundry, groceries, home cooked meals, children taken to school and doctors etc? Who will more than likely get up with the kids in the middle of the night? Who will be cooking and cleaning and taking care of you and the kids even on the weekends while you are relaxing watching tv? A stay at home mom does a whole lot.....and usually after the children grow up and move away (or are in school full time) the wives get jobs outside of the house at that point...(and STILL do the cooking, cleaning, etc when they get home.

Also, it is true that most men make more money than women so it just makes sense for them to be the breadwinner when it comes time for one of them to stay home and raise the kids. My husband and I both work but we don't have any children yet. When we have kids, I'll be the one to stay home with them because even after I finish grad school I *still* won't make as much as my husband does. If one of us has to stay home, it makes more sense for me to do it since he can bring in the bigger paycheck .....and good child care is TOO expensive!

Answer 9

Meh if women have the babies,have sex and all the other things I don't see anything wrong with taking care of them. I leave that "priviledge" to wives though since they've actually made the lifetime commitment. If you want to be in the role of a woman good for you but personally I think women usually want to marry men not lazy guys pretending to be women. Guys who have to take on duties at home is different from a guy who just wants to stay at home and be taken care of.

Answer 10

Simply put, women are the ones who produce the children. We carry the baby, breast feed the baby, etc. Having a baby takes a major toll on your body. Me will never understand that.

The answer is obvious. We know that we are going to be out of commission for a MINIMUM of three months when a baby comes along. A man needs to be able to prove that he is able to provide for us when that time comes. It's instinctual, really.

I happen to make more money than my husband. He can support me if he needed to, I guess, but it isn't necessary. However, if I am pregnant, I expect him to pick up the slack. For example, a pregnant woman is not supposed to scoop the litter box because the cat pee has chemicals in it that are bad for the baby. Well, now hubby is on cat-poop duty. If household chores become too much for me, then it falls to him to do. He gets to do everything while I am busy baking a human being. Duh. If my husband wants to try to gestate, he is more than welcome.