My niece just got married a couple of weeks ago and then her husband found out she had some CD's he didn't like due to the lyrics and threw them out and removed the fuse on her car stereo so she can't play CD's for a month. I don't think this is fair because she just got married and didn't know that he wouldn't approve of those CD's. My niece is a really sweet girl and I just think he could have gone easier on her since she just got married, you know? My husband agrees with me too but I want to see what others think.
2007-12-17 07:18:17 · 30 answers · asked by Little Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The behavior seems rather extreme to me. I suppose he's trying to set a standard of behavior for the marriage and establishing his position as the authority. He must figure that if he puts his foot down hard now, he will have less "trouble" or fewer rebellious uprisings later on.
At any rate, it doesn't sound like a relationship that I would like to be a part of!
2007-12-17 07:22:44 · answer #1 · answered by DJ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um... Ok, it might just be me, but I'm having a REALLY hard time with the whole "new wives, grace period, being disciplined" thing... wow!!!
First of all, if I was your sweet niece, I would've told him exactly where to go and what to do with him self once he got there, then I would've probably caused some serious bodily harm!
He is HER husband, not her father! She shouldn't stay in that marriage! If he's doing this now, what's next?? lock her up so she doesn't go out? beat her?? That is unacceptable! No woman deserves to be treated that way! And just because they're married that doesn't mean she doesn't get to be her own person, and do the things she likes, including listen to the music she likes. Furthermore, is that car under her name?? or his name too?? because if it's under her name I'd definitely be charging him with destruction of property or something!
Oh wow!! My mind is running wild right now, I better stop while I'm ahead!
Good luck!
~ Nessa ~
2007-12-17 15:44:53 · answer #2 · answered by ♥(`*•.(`*•.¸ ή姧α¸.•*´) .•*´)♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-12-17 16:33:01 · answer #3 · answered by LadyBug 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well your husband is trying to keep the peace but secretly he agrees. I think a grace period is out of the question. You don't get a grace period when you buy a car or house.Since she didn't see this coming I hate to see what he'll do when she's really "bad". ROFL women need to learn how to choose men before they get married. I wish I could "discipline" my wife when she messed up whew.
2007-12-17 15:30:52 · answer #4 · answered by Shinigami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where in the hell are you from? Discipline? Hell no. Tell her to divorce him. If he goes that far over CDs, then he's going to be a controlling freak!!! Forget it.
My husband knows who's boss. Me. I run the house. I also have a full time job. I bring home half the bacon, but the house is mine. I listen to what I want, eat what I want and do what I want. The point is this: He loves me for who I am. I love him for who he is. If he wanted to change even one tiny thing about me, I would divorce him.
2007-12-17 15:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by Yup Yup Yuppers 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who does that guy think he is? he is your niece's husband not father. why would an adult let somebody treat them that way. it is a warnign that your niece's husband is going to be a arrogant and authoritative person. your niece does not need her husband to tell her what kind of music she listen to, her husband should focus more on the household problem : paying the mortgage and the bills on bills. your niece 's husband already show his abusiv side and your niece should not let him do those things to her. first come the Cds, then come family and friends next thing you'll know he will hit her everyday because he thinks she belongs to him. your niece has to set the standard and make sure she does not want her husband to control her because she is an adult not a child. your niece and her family need to set up and make sure you let her husband jnow that he is not going to abuse her
2007-12-17 15:37:16 · answer #6 · answered by singlegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A husband shouldnt do that period. That is controling, He sounds like he will end up being an abuser! Just cause your married you don't loose your idenity. If that's what she likes in music that's her choice, marrige dosnt change that. There should't have to be a grace period what he did was wrong, not loving and controling!
he'll turn out to be a abuser, that's how they all start out..little controling things like that!
2007-12-17 15:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, disciplined by her husband, I would go to Auto zone and get the fuse replaced, He is a controlling person, your niece is going to continue having problems with her husband..
2007-12-17 15:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R U KIDDING ME, IF THIS IS WHAT HE DOES BECAUSE OF SOME CD'S SHE NEEDS A DIVORCE NOW, SHE IS NOT A CHILD, SHE IS HIS EQUAL AND HE HAS NO BUSINESS ACTING LIKE HE IS HER FATHER, SHE IS A GROWN WOMAN AND DOES NOT DESERVE TO BE TREATED LIKE A CHILD, CHILDREN MATURE AND LEAVE HOME, as they should this is crazy and she needs to get this marriage annulled or divorced at this will get much worse, and i would be willing to bet if he isn't an abuser now it won't be much longer and then how will you feel, if she is hurt or dead, help her things are probably far worse than you realize, get her away from this nut
2007-12-17 15:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by Dale T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One...your niece's husband is a class A schmuck. Two....a wife being disciplined? Like what? Spanked? made to wear a latex mask with a red rubber ball strapped into her mouth?
I don't know many women who want to be 'disciplined'.
2007-12-17 15:24:58 · answer #10 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋