Im 15 and most of my friends have had sex or are pregnant but I haven't and I admit that to everyone but it's not because I haven't had the opportunity its because Im like scared to. So is that like not normal?? lol
2007-12-17 07:15:26 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Thank Jesus! Finally! Someone who is here on YA! that is asking a valid question, and ISN'T asking if they are pregnant, while spelling pregnant "pregant" Ok, Your question, no it isn't abnormal, it just means you aren't ready, and you shouldn't be ready. i love the fact that you don't want to have sex yet. PLEASE>>> don't follow your friends example. One sensible teen. Many others...
2007-12-17 08:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by ღJenniferღ 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. I felt the same way. I mean I have had many opportunities too but said no in the heat of the moment, which I didnt really think I would or could do, because I wasnt ready for our relationship to get severely complicated by sex, and I think it is, because once you lose it its something that you cant take back, and I would wait until you were with someone that loved, cared, and respected you, not with someone that you would later regret.. Anyhow... I'm shocked that your 15 and your friends are pregnant, thats a little young in my opinion.
2007-12-17 08:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by coolliz2444 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your scared now wait til the right guy comes along that will be there when your scared because he will be too!...and trust me i almost made a HUGE mistake when i 15 and almost had sex because "everyone else was" ( same thing my friends did or they were pregnant) he was a guy that didn't repect me or care about me even tho he was my bf for a few months he was very pushy!
thank god i didn't and a few months later i met another guy that was great he was also a virgin we talked about sex alot b4 anything happend he was 17 i was 16....4 years later we are still together!! he said he wouldn't have giving me the chance if i wasn't a virgin also
respect yourself and everyone else will
and trust me if anyone makes fun of you for being a virgin they are the ones that wish they were or still are and don't want any to know...sex isn't "cool" you do it because you love some one
2007-12-17 08:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Scare or smart? I think smart...you respect the seriousness of the consequences that having sex can bring.....so I think that's smart.
Let's face it. If you don't have sex, you can't get pregnant. You also can't catch an STD.
Remember...most guys don't care about have a relationship...to them it's about the sex. Of the preegnant girls at school how many of them still have a relationship with the boy that did it. How many of the non-virgins are still with the guy that took the virginity....very few I'm sure.
Guys are dogs...they will do anything or say anything just to get sex. From that standpoint...it's ok to be scared.
2007-12-17 07:29:44 · answer #4 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The question that comes to mind is why are you scared, is it because someone did something to you that makes you scared of guys or have you been traumatized to the point that you think it will hurt. Many parents will tell their children that it hurts so bad, which instills fear in having sex. I do suggest you wait until after school in doing so only because school should come first. I believe that if this fear is still present then that it might be wise to consult a therapist.
2007-12-17 07:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal to be scared. There are alot of things that can happen or go wrong. This is a very big step in life and you should not take it until you are ready. I still believe that you should save yourself for marriage, but I know that the world we live in today has made it less sacred and more casual. I know that I regret not saving myself for marriage. I hope that others can learn from my mistakes, and believe me, they were mistakes. I am married and have a beautiful child, and I would give anything to have been a virgin the first time I slept with my husband. He was a virgin, and I am very jealous that my first time was not with someone that I loved and knew I was gonna spend the rest of my life with. Hope this has been at least a little helpful. Please make sure you are ready before you do anything!! Educate yourself! Good Luck!
2007-12-17 07:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by TKA0427 3 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Well...I'm 14 and i kno i shuldve waited....b/c now i have 2 worry bout a child and i have this big weight on me. I'm 3 months pregnant and my lifes gonna change forever...be afraid being afraid is good espicilly in the situation....i was never afraid b/c i had gotten raped in the seventh grade so i thought my innocence was already taken away...but the truth was i shuld've waited and u shuld too...b/c now im afraid i worry everyday if im gonna be a godd mom and if i'm gonna be able to take care of this child when it comes into this world...so dont be hesitant 2 be afraid stay young while u enjoy b/c when u get knocked up...it's not fun :(
2007-12-17 09:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your fear comes from not wanting to engage in irresponsible casual sex, or not wanting to become pregnant, or not wanting to expose yourself to sexually transmitted diseases, or not wanting to get into a relationship you don't want or are not ready for, then your fear is a good one.
However, if your fear is based on misinformation about sex, such as it hurts terribly, or your soul will be guilty of mortal sin, or boys and men will not love you and will just use you, then maybe you should question your fear.
All in all, it is good to hear you have said no to the few times you have had the opportunity to have sex. It is good to know you practice patience with yourself, and will not go headlong into a sexual experience just to fit in with your friends, or to be with a boy. Please continue to choose to wait until you are in a loving, committed, monogamous relationship with a boy (or in the future, a man) who loves you, and whom you love. Always choose patience, and to wait for such a relationship in your life. Sex is best when born out of love. Sex should always be a result of love. Do not use sex to gain love. Very rarely does love happen as a result of sex. Only after love has been established can sex help to produce a deeper bond between two people. Neither love, nor sex, should ever seek its own end first, but rather the good of your partner before your own. So must be the goal of your partner to seek your good first before his own. Seek this kind of relationship first, and sex won't be anything to fear.
2007-12-17 08:19:24 · answer #8 · answered by souldoctor 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 15! Maybe you are smart enough to realise that having sex at that age is not a good idea! You don't want to end up like your friends who are pregnant. You are way smarter than your friends, not scared. Keep it that way, and finish school and make something of your life, and actually get married and don't live at home with your parents the rest of your life, living off of welfare and being a burden to your family.
Best luck!
2007-12-17 07:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people are scared to have sex. It could hurt, you could get an std, you could become pregnant, and you could be emotionally injured. If you're scared, don't rush into it. When you meet the right guy, and it is the right time you will feel comfortable about it and will not be scared. Also, when you become more mature you will be less worried and at a better age to start.
2007-12-17 07:24:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I was too young for sex at 15...I wasn't ready til I was 17...of course that's the first time I had a real GF too...lol...It's nothing to be scared of but wait til you meet a special guy...if not a husband at least a true love.
2007-12-17 07:48:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋