About four years ago, my drunken ex-girlfriend of six years almost got into a fight with another girl. I prevented the fight from happening. My ex got pissed and stabbed me with a kitchen knife in the arm and in the neck. She was too drunk to take me to the hospital and blocked the door to prevent me from yelling for help. So I called 911 and ended up with an $8,000 medical bill. I lied to the cops and stupidly got back together with her. Two years later, she clawed me ferouciously in a drunken rage and she got convicted of third degree assault, domestic violence. I feel like she deserved a more harsh penalty for what she has done to me in the past, but I never reported it.
She is no longer in my life and I am now happily married to another woman. Should I have put my ex in the slammer?
2007-12-17 07:05:52 · 27 answers · asked by Dr S 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my ex and I have had about 10 acts of violence.. all caused by her when we were both drunk. before she stabbed me, she took her high heel and jammed the pointy tip into my eye. she apologized the next night. what a crazy woman.
2007-12-17 07:07:12 · update #1
uuummmm...yeah. the minute that someone puts a knife into my body, i don't give a damn who they are, they are going to prison.
2007-12-17 07:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no cause the only reason you want to prosecute her now is because you are not with her, if you were going to prosecute her it should have been then but you forgave her by going back to her all this is is vindictiveness, you should have done something about it the first time, it is time to forget her and go on with your life, if you want to do this you also may want to consider the charges you would face, lying to a police office, filing a false police report, which is a felony, and possibly purgery, so quit with the vindictive BS, or are you not quite over her and dragging her into court is your way of getting in contact with her again, this was resolved years ago when you filed a false police report, and forgave her when you 2 got back together after the incident, and it sounds like you all need to stop drinking, no doubt in your drunken state you were doing things that made the situation worst, no excuse for what she did, but again you forgave her and filed a false police report
dale t
2007-12-17 07:19:11 · answer #2 · answered by Dale T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are happily married; why are you crying over spilled milk? You said you lied to the COPS, to keep her from the slammer back then. Ok, think wisely, if you lied then and now you are trying to go back and recant your story, not only will she possibly go to the slammer, but you will too for perjury. If you two have moved on and have no involvment with each, then let it go. Sound to me that you are scorned and suffers from mental abuse. Move on and hope you and the new wife-y find other ways to square out the differences.
2007-12-17 07:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by TexanNFLGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see, your ex committed assault with a deadly weapon, attempted murder, and unlawful entrapment. You should have never lied to the cops, but it is in the past now. At least with a domestic violence charge on her criminal history, and if it makes you feel better, that has hurt her some. At any rate, count your blessings you found the courage to get out of that relationship, and that you found someone who you are happy with.
2007-12-17 07:14:32 · answer #4 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have at the time, but I can understand how you would lie. I think now it would be your word against hears, because you dont have fresh proof. You'd have to talk to a lawyer about the case, but I think a jury would be asking...why now?
If your happliy married or with another woman, why do you want to go back down that road with the ex and have to put your current love in such torment?
2007-12-17 07:13:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your statued has probably ran out by now also they will file charges against you for lying and not telling them who did this. So actually this may damage you the best thing is to stay far away from her put a restraining order against her. If you file charges tell them you were afraid for your life this is why you never told the truth she will be put in jail
I hope this is what you really want. Abuse happens to both woman and me it's not funny at all.
2007-12-17 07:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by Debbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Yeah, you should have reported what happened to the police. I'm surprised that the police didn't do an investigation and take her in anyway. How did you explan getting stabbed anyway??? But, because you didn't do anything, I think maybe you should try to move on. It isn't healthy for you or your marriage to think back on what you should or should not have done. At least you are not with her anymore.
2007-12-17 07:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by *Almost ready* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have left her hafter the first incident. You said yourself you were both drunk. So she was probably not in her right mind, and you were probably not sober enough to know how to handle the situation properly. What good would jail do? You weren't strong enough to leave her on your own. But eventually, you learned your lesson. Let the past be the past, and be glad you are no longer living your life in such dangerous situations.
2007-12-17 07:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you were living with Ike Turner's little sister.
I'm sure the women on here will tell you, just be patient with her. Buy her some roses and a box of chocolates and she will come around or Take her out to dinner and try to be understanding about her feelings.
Yes sue her if you can but watch your back, she might put a hit out on you.
2007-12-17 07:16:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try to have her charged, but you will probably only bring more crap onto yourself from a system that will likely NOT go after a woman for domestic assault. You as well as me know that the cops and court system will treat you terribly.
If she is gone, I say get on with your life.
2007-12-17 07:10:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's all over with and honestly, you're an idiot for getting back together with her in the first place. Didn't you learn your lesson the first time? Who cares now it's over with you if you don't have any proof then don't waste your time. Just move on and thank god for the women in your life and thank him for how wonderful she is and that you're still alive! Forget the other crazy *****.
2007-12-17 07:15:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋