Ok i found out that his credit card was charged for 600 for someone in Europe. When i talked to him and said i think u are cheating on me he got really pissed off saying "I am not cheating on you" "you know me better then that" and got really upset. The next day he comes up to me and says he is sorry for getting so upset and that everyone here hates us. We had a friend here before we moved and just because my husband did not do something he wanted he is pissed at both of us now. He will not talk to us or get back to our emails.
Should i watch my husband closely incase he is lying to me or believe him since he is getting upset about all this and swears he did not do nothing wrong.
I also told him who ever did this and if i ever find out i will get really ticked off at them. And my husband knows i can mess him up good if he messes with me. I know he can not afford an apartments and his car payments on his salary. He has never paid a bill yet in 5 years. he has me do it? what i do
2007-12-17 07:02:50 · 11 answers · asked by jamieloves31 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What did your husband say the $600 charge was for? That could be important.
Trust is clearly an issue between you and your husband. Somehow, if we were to advise you to believe your husband I'm sure you'd still choose to be suspicious of his behavior anyway. Once the trust is broken, the relationship falls into a serious downward spiral.
Your ability to "mess him up good" is a sign of a vindictive nature, and that's not the stuff that good marriages are made of. It shouldn't be a competition or a battle. You sound resentful--perhaps because you married a man who cannot support himself. In the meantime, he seems to be searching for some way to have a measure of control (or happiness) over his own life. Where's the love?
Get thee to a counselor.
As far as the friend you had here (I suppose you meant "in this country"), forget about him; your expectations of him were not met so let the bitterness go and move on. It's a big country and apparently, you and your husband have only each other. Treat each other with love and respect and, for goodness sake, make some new friends.
2007-12-17 07:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by DJ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A cheaters first words after being questioned by the suspecting husband/wife will be "I am not cheating!", "How can you say that?", "You know me better than that", "Don't you know me at all", "Fine don't believe me!", "You don't trust me", "I've got enough with you, I don't need anyone else", blah blah blah.
I bet he didn't even answer the question of where the money went... did he? Of course not, he was too upset by the fact that you'd think he was cheating, right??
WRONG!
He knows where the money went, and it's not somewhere you'd want it to be, or somewhere he'd want you to find out, that's why he put more attention to the "cheating" question than the "money" question. Trust me, any man that's not cheating, and that works hard for their money would dismiss the cheating question and get pissed about the money. A man who's trying to cover up the cheating will get mad about being suspected in order to push the money issue aside because he doesn't have a valid excuse made up yet for the missing money.
Sorry sweetie, get rid of him, and do it fast, before you wake up and realize you've wasted your life on someone who doesn't deserve you.
Blessed be...
~ Nessa ~
2007-12-17 16:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by ♥(`*•.(`*•.¸ ή姧α¸.•*´) .•*´)♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are the charges for? Sounds like he is cheating and I'd watch him, but seriously if you have illegal charges on your credit card you better contact the credit card company so they can do an investigation. You don't want to pay for that if it isn't your charge....especially when you pay all the bills.
2007-12-17 15:22:18 · answer #3 · answered by *Almost ready* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting upset, and saying "im not cheating on you" u should know better than that" is the first line a cheater says.
I cheated, said the same exact thing, my ex cheated said the same exact thing.
if he didnt cheat he would blow it off or look at u in a way like yahhh right where u would know and be like duh! cuz when i didnt cheat and when my boyfriend asked me that thats what came out naturally.
u just tend to get upset etc when u try to make someone believe u.
i recommend watch him closely.
2007-12-17 15:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by Hard Candy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guilty people use anger to circumvent the subject and change the dynamics of a conversation as a way to cover their actions (avoidance). I see it all the time!
2007-12-17 15:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by Lv Dr. 4U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure his credit card wasn't stolen?
And if you're from the states... how is he cheating on you in Europe? (assuming you are from America of course)
2007-12-17 15:11:53 · answer #6 · answered by textfiend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This got crazier and crazier the more I read it. The last paragraph went off to LaLaLand. This is ridiculous.
2007-12-17 15:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where did the money go?
I would watch him closey I mean you never found out where the money went
2007-12-17 15:28:07 · answer #8 · answered by Debbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in Christ's name are you trying to communicate to the herd here?
2007-12-17 15:15:23 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about what ure writing because i dont understand it either...
2007-12-17 15:08:53 · answer #10 · answered by lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋