How do people stay married for so long? Without falling out of love? How do u know that person is the “one” that your suppose to spend the rest of your life with.
2007-12-17 07:02:01 · 19 answers · asked by meg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Being married for a long period of time does not mean that the couple are still 'in love'. They could just be used to each others ways and know each other's habiits and are comfortable with each other. Sometimes I think that as a couple matures in each other's space, they learn to accept more than they would if they were younger and still 'bouncing around". You can't really know that 'this' person is 'the' person unless you keep working on the relationship. The staying together means that you are open and communicating everyday, y ou are willing to put up with things and allowing yourself to let other th ings go. People tend to stay with each other and spend time together as they mature - particularly when they retire. On the other hand, some people just know they are meant to be and they don't allow anything or anyone to separate that love.
2007-12-17 07:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always uncertainty in life. It's just how it goes. With my husband (been married a little over a year), it was different. I felt comfortable with him pretty quickly after we met. I tried to walk away but couldn't. He has kids from another marriage. We have a lot in common but have some differences. I never felt this way when I was with any other guy. People told me that I would know when I found "the one". They were right. But again life is uncertain so... But so far all is great. It's not perfect. There are good and not so good times but I wouldn't want it any other way. It is very difficult being a stepmom (especially a part-time, much less control, say, etc.) but I wouldn't change it. It helps me to vent. That's how I ultimately cope.
2007-12-17 15:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by Unsub29 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just know!! Love is not a maybe thing - you either love somebody or you don't.
i was married for 20 years - I know I didn't love him like I should - there are different kinds of love -
there is the love - where you really care about that person, and they mean alot to you.
and , there is the true love - soul mate love - that is the love you just don't question whether you love him or not - you will have no doubts what so ever. I am married to this person right now - and I met him when I was in highschool - he's the guy that I couldn't get out of my mind no matter where I was in life.
so - how do you know if he's 'the one'? you just know. and whatever you do - don't settle for somebody that 'could be the one' ..wait until you find 'the one' and you will know it.
2007-12-17 15:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LIFE and love is a gamble people take.it's such
a easy mistake people make.being in love is
different than in love. I have been in love many times with beautifully ladies.But falling in love is
is just a small part of real love.If your love is
strong and real.time is the test and if can survive
waiting,your marriage will last the rest of your life.
I fell in love with a GINGER wile she was still in
school.I Went in the USMC for 3.5 years.when I
came back she was waiting for me.She passed
the hardest test of time.
DOVE IS THIS SOME HELP. Phillip W.
2007-12-17 15:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being "in love" is a state of mind, and it only lasts for the first couple of years of any relationship. You can still love someone after that though, so don't get me wrong. Personally I don't think "the one" exists in reality. It boils down to being with someone that can meet your needs, and vice versa. There also has to be 1) energy and 2) desire in both parties involved.
2007-12-17 15:20:05 · answer #5 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband when I was 14. We didn't start dating until I was 19, and married when I was 24. I just knew when I first met him that I was going to marry him.
We just celebrated our 12 year wedding anniversary, and I know this sounds corny, but I love him more and more every day.
You just have to trust in your heart to lead you to right person.
2007-12-17 15:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by donduckgirl_70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a big believer in "the one." Any two people who are devoted to each other and who work at their relationship are going to be happy, and that is the goal of marriage and life, right?
2007-12-17 15:20:04 · answer #7 · answered by Laura R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll never know for sure but if you find someone you can talk to about anything then you have a good start. you can work on the rest as you go.
2007-12-17 15:08:47 · answer #8 · answered by inloveinTN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just know, you should bwe overly joyed and can't talk you and him have secrets that you wouldnt tell a soul and a night you cant sleep because you (are having mad hot sex or you are thinking about him) You just know you will understand when you meet them and you are excited to show him to your parents and you friends love him but even if they dont like him it doesnt matter because you are in love
-Tianna
2007-12-17 15:08:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think marriages (even great ones) go though ups and downs and if you arent ready for that, you will be disappointed. I also don't think there is "one" - too much pressure. you could end up an old maid looking for that "one" perfect person.
2007-12-17 16:29:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋