The previous post was an email from him, telling me how he felt. He said "faithfulness & loyalty differ from yours, monogamy has nothing to do with either; & the only reason I haven’t been completely honest in the past is b/c I wanted to keep my family together & be happy at the same time. Now, as far as the unwanted pregnancy thing & std thing; the chances of that happening are slim to none if the people involved are responsible. Further more I hate that this is the focus of are issue, but if you must I will. But this isn’t the real issue(sex) for me, but obviously it is for you so we’ll continue.My heart is with my family; period. You can’t change the way I think, you probably have to open your mind(if possible) or find a partner who thinks the way you do for this to work. Oh & I almost forgot, your love for me has absolutely nothing to do with my actions. I am me, I am strong & I don’t depend on what someone else might do when I make my decisions.I feel that I s/be abel to be me
2007-12-17 06:59:11 · 12 answers · asked by sassy lady 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce him. You guys are definitely not on the same page and probably never will be. Why you ask...because I get the impression that he is self-righteous so he is not going to get anyone to think otherwise, even if the person telling him is rational.
2007-12-17 07:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda S 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
that's a tragic undertaking and that i can relate on your tale. Technically, he could could contain you in maximum of her deeds, and a minimum of take section you of his on a regular basis occurrences, his plans, his emotions, and so forth. that's what a marriage is all approximately. i can tell you i'm in basic terms commencing divorce papers suitable now as a results of fact my undertaking have been given worse than yours... and that i observed that there substitute into no return. Did you attempt chatting with your husband? Counseling? i attempted that and in my case to no avail. so which you're able to truly learn your undertaking. in line with hazard you could write down a catalogue of excellent issues and then beside it a catalogue of undesirable issues. issues you think of your husband is prepared to dedicate and issues you think of he won't dedicate. in case you notice too many extra adverse issues, then you definately could make a rational assessment and take a call. i'm telling you after my husband left a month in the past it has not been relaxing. I omit him extraordinarily at circumstances, yet i comprehend i don't could bypass through this aggravation i substitute into dealing with. i substitute into truly begging him to take me to places and to introduce me to human beings he knew. He thoroughly forget approximately me and positioned me to the component like a unused piece of furniture. I hated that and that i did not settle for that. so which you're able to evaluate your very own undertaking and notice in case you notice plenty wish from there. he isn't the final individual interior the international, have self belief me. and you need to be dealt with with appreciate, dignity. you should be somebody's precedence, not an determination. So i wish you're able to make a good determination based on your data and locate your happiness.
2016-12-11 07:47:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds like the typical guy that has an explanation for everything. Hey, it sounds like he know what the heck he is talking about, but that is the problem, he is the only one that undestand. I think you should make a decision to eighter live with this guy and be his doormat, or leave. You deserve to be happy. He is too into himself. People like that, don't listen to reason!
2007-12-17 07:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
so he basically says he's going to continue cheating, regardless of how you feel about it.
he's a selfish prick, and full of sh!te. he has no heart. the real issue, even though he says it's not, is that he wants sex from wherever. it doesn't matter that he's hurting you, he basically says that.
divorce him. one thing he got right: "find a partner who thinks the way you do" so things can work. you dont' deserve to be lied to & cheated on. no one does.
2007-12-17 07:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by Ember Halo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah Christ.......lady this clown talks like a man with a paper azzhole. He makes weak attempts at justifying his transgressions (like sleeping with your cousin) and then rambles on in this foolish manner trying to be philosophical about it. So...if he has to be 'me'.....so be it. Let the louse go. The worse part about this is there's some broad out there who'll subscribe to his baloney. In the meantime....you be "you" and jettison this baggage in your life.
2007-12-17 07:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did he ever marry you if he didn't want a monogamous relationship?!
What a jerk! Divorce him so he can be himself by himself and you can move on and find someone who wants a real committed relationship and isn't a selfish prick!
2007-12-17 07:21:36 · answer #6 · answered by kelloggs322 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAAAAAAAAAAA!
Your husband is full of it.
Yeah good luck finding a partner that believes in MONOGAMY! Yeah the mono part, that means ONE!
Keep running and don't look back!
2007-12-17 07:04:25 · answer #7 · answered by kittykatsback 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
File for divorce, seek counseling.
2007-12-17 07:31:53 · answer #8 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't waste time reading what he sends or listening to what he says. I'd put better usage to my time....talking to a divorce attorney.
2007-12-17 07:28:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read both questions.
Divorce this selfish jerk. Only stay in this marriage if you have the guts to be a selfish jerk yourself.
2007-12-17 07:04:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋