I am going through a devorce and my wife will not let me or any of my family see my SON. The marriage was over before it started. The only reason that I got married was to be in my sons life more. Now that we are going through the devorce she has will not answer my parents calls and when they set up a time to see him, she always cancel. HELP!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-17 06:54:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have reason to believe she is intentionally keeping you from seeing your son then you need to talk to your lawyer (or other legal counsel) about filing a visitation or custody agreement. Unless your ex can offer proof as to why you shouldn't be allowed to see your son there's nothing she can (legally) do to keep you from spending time with him. I don't think that she has to deal directly with your parents or other family members to set up a time for them to see your son, but she certainly needs to work with you on a visitation schedule. If you can get court ordered visitation/custody and she still doesn't cooperate, she can be held in contempt. Your best option is to talk to your lawyer and get something in writing and entered as am official judgment in the divorce.
2007-12-17 10:34:28 · answer #1 · answered by QT_Pie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my dear, get yourself a lawyer immediately and file for a motion to enforce visitation. We were in the process of taking my husband's ex to court and no visitation order was in place yet. However, we had a lawyer who filed as I stated above and the mother either had to let us see the child immediately or the police would be involved to enforce the visitation. If you have to file anything of those sorts, judges won't think too highly of the mother because she wasn't thinking of the best interest of the child and his need to be with his Daddy.
Also, document everything word for word. Use times and dates and write the exact situation as it happened. Keep a log or a journal and write all the times that she cancelled visitation. When it comes to court for visitation arrangements, mention these things because the courts want the kids to have frequent contact with BOTH parents. And clearly your wife (ex) isn't being cooperative with this part of things.
I don't know how old your son is or if she's allowed you to speak to him over the phone. But try any and all options, just ALWAYS keep your cool and don't lose your temper because that too can be used against you.
I'm sorry you're going through a divorce and I'm even more sorry that you haven't seen your child since. But once you two get a court order, she can't prevent you from seeing your child anymore.
My husband and I have spent thousands of dollars we didn't have on a lawyer to fight for rights to his daughter. And it took almost 2 yrs for that to happen! And as broke as we are, the best part is that it was all for my stepdaughter and we can now see her without her mother stopping us. It's worth it because your little man needs his Daddy in his life!
2007-12-17 07:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by Momto2inFL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is difficult. You'll need court action. You can't do this on your own, you'll need help.
Since the divorce isn't final, everything's in legal limbo. Once you get a decree, it will spell out your rights. But even that needs tweaking. Call your local family court. There will be an agency attached called something like "Family Mediation Center." They have classes in family law, how to help a child get past divorce issues, etc. See them and take the basic class. If any other classes seem useful, take those, too.
I don't know if your parents have any legal rights as far as visitation goes. I suspect you'll have to use *your* custodial time to let your parents see their grandson. If they want their own visiting time, they may have to petition the court on their own.
It's too easy to use the child as an emotional football. Your wife is likely not happy with you, and one way to hurt you is to jerk your parents around, so she does.
"Winning" in a divorce is never easy, and it's quite expensive. Your divorce attorney is your best guide here. But if you don't like what you're hearing, get another attorney.
2007-12-17 07:18:51 · answer #3 · answered by going_for_baroque 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer. I have a son with my ex husband and he wasn't in my sons life for 2 years. Now the court has appointed visitation. If he can get it you can too.
Now on another note. Have you tried just talking to her? As a mother I know if my ex would have let me know how much my children mean to me and that he wanted to be there I would have been willing to let him see our son. You have to remember she is a person and try to talk to her! She is probably hurt from everything that is going on and doesn't know how to handle everything. Maybe Familiy councling will help you guys!?
2007-12-17 07:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your divorce lawyer and set up a visitation schedule. She can't keep you from your son unless you allow her to do so. Make the call today.
2007-12-17 06:58:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
apply to the courts for a visitation order, check bout parntel reponsibilities you have right loads of them especially if shes being unreasonable (uk) also keep a diary of whats happening and whats being said
2007-12-17 07:02:24 · answer #6 · answered by lexirich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce lawyer.
2007-12-17 07:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show up at the door step where he is living.
2007-12-17 07:00:06 · answer #8 · answered by M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AS LONG AS YOU WERE NOT VIOLENT AND YOU 'RE PAYING SOME TYPE OF SUPPORT...YOUR LAWYER SHOULD HAVE NO PROBLEM GETTING YOU VISITATION!!
2007-12-17 06:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋