homophobic co worker?

Question

ok about a three years ago when i was 17 (im now20) i realized i was a lesbian and after that i was costantly ridiculed, once after school a group of girls beat up so badly i was in a coma for two months (i havnt really been the same since) i was ok for a while but i had to transfer schools. since then there hasnt been any other cases like that (except for the usually glare i get now and then when my girfriend and i hold hands) but now i have a part time job as an intern (fashion industry) and this girl whose desk is across from me, stares at me constantly glaring and she puses me out the way and when i confronted her she said "ur a disgusting human being and god detests you" i freaked out (hello memories) and told my boss, but she wont do anything becuz this girls two levels ahead of me, what do i do??? i NEED this internship but im a little terrified ths girl is going to try and hurt me or worse my gf (she once said to me "one of these days u'll both be punished by god.") HELP ME :[

i live in america (california)

enough said ;[

yes it IS descrimination u idiot! she said "god detests me" and she KNOWS im a lesbian, ok? ok.

Answer 1

Go to the Human Resources department and report everything this woman is saying. It is TOTALLY against the law to let harassment continue in the workplace. Also report your boss, they can be fired for ignoring your distress.

Answer 2

First, let me say I am not homophobic, phobic meaning afraid. I am not afraid of homosexuals, or that I will be magically converted by being the same room as one, or any other stupid thing people say. In fact, my mom (who did not raise me, but I have a good relationship with) is a lesbian and I love her dearly.

But... I don't agree with homosexuality, the myth that it is an inborn genetic condition, the attempts to mainstream it and force our children to accept it. I am not phobic, like I said, I just don't agree with it. The connotation of homophobe has been taken way out of context.

I do believe that God will judge, but ONLY God can judge. I don't think you will be kept out of heaven for it, if you are a Christian who believes that Christ died for your sins - ALL sins, even the ones some people have arbitrarily labeled "worse" than others. Man's job is to help one another get to a place where we will all be understanding of what God wants for us so we can share in the spoils of His kingdom. If anyone is condemning you, threatening you or harassing you, they are not doing their job. They are causing a hostile workplace, and no matter what the circumstances, that is not ok. I would take the matter beyond your boss, to HR, or wherever you need to.

Sadly, there are people everywhere who will be overly aggressive about their beliefs. I don't feel running to another job will solve anything, just put you into another possibly similar situation. Good luck, and try not to fear people who are usually more bark than bite anyway.

Answer 3

Oh my goodness!! thats horrible.

what you need to do is document everything - the dates and all the incidents with the co-worker, also the date that you approached your boss. if your boss still refuses to do anything once you show her all your documented evidence then see about approaching a union or maybe speak to someone that knows the law and what rights you have. it might help as well if you have any co-workers that can back you up with evidence of the discrimination.

at the end of the day the company is in the wrong if they don't protect your human rights and you may have the opportunity to sue if the company refuse to protect you.

Best of luck!

Answer 4

Keep a record of the dates, times and exactly what this girl is doing and talk to the labor board.

The girl needs to get a grip if she's going to work in the fashion industry - she's going to be working with people with all sorts of backgrounds and lifestyles.

Answer 5

That girl is an idiot, she works in a fashion industry, like hello??? 40-50% of people who work there ARE gay, so I think she should really look for another career!

And don't listen to crazy 'Christians', they don't know what they are talking about, they really don't. They simply mask their own bigotry and hatered with religion.

The only examples in the Bible of homosexual activity are either rape, married people cheating on their spouses or orgies. The example given in the book of Leviticus is not applicable for today's society, because one it is in the OT and two it is a list of rules given to the people of Israel in order to keep them separate from the cultures around them. Almost none of those rules are followed today, such as not touching or sleeping in the same bed with a woman who is on her period, eating meet that still has blood in it or wearing clothes made from mixed fabric, but you don't see priests preaching against that, do you?

The example given in the book of Romans was given to a specific group of people.... Romans. In Rome in those days mass orgies and MARRIED affluent people having a young same sex lover was the norm, and that is what those passages talk against.

Also what was translated as 'homosexuality' was actually 'pederasty' in the original text. Pederasty includes the practices that i have mentioned in the paragraph above, as well as a common practice of those days (which still happens today in the military sometimes) of soldiers gang raping their captives in order to humiliate them, or like in the story of Sodom and Gomorrah, gang rape of the visitors to humilate them and show them that they are not welcome.

But to compare this to a loving, homosexual relationship is like to compare a man raping a woman or cheating on his wife to a loving straight relationship.

Just record everything she says and does to you, and present your boss with evidence. That girl is creating a bad work atmosphere and harassing you, just ignore her, as if she is not even there, even when she is talking to you.

Where do you live btw? Just wondering in what hellwhole do people have such attitudes, I live in UK and I never experienced anything like that!

Answer 6

Maybe this coworker was once also ridiculed for being a Christian and like got beat up after school by a bunch of God hating Lesbians because she was preaching the gospel and told them to repent and trust Jesus to save you from your sins and like she ended up in a coma for like 3 months.

And now she is like a total God warrior and refuses to let you like die in your sins so she keeps on warning you that if you don't repent of your sins you will like die and face the wrath of God.

Answer 7

wtf? you can get you boss in trouble for not doin anything about it....write down time and date anytime that chick does or say something to you and take it to your boss again and still if nothing is being done you take it to someone higher than your boss....

Answer 8

maybe she just doesn't like you. she didn't mention the fact that youare a lesbian so its not discrimination.