Our divorce will be finalized in early January. We are going to spend this holiday together and dont want to make it too awkward for her. I still love her dearly and would like to surprise her one last time.
2007-12-17 05:52:59 · 7 answers · asked by vader1779 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
I recommend buying her something small, inexpensive, thoughtful, but neutral. That will basically show you to be considerate, but will not put her on the spot or make her feel guilty or awkward. Divorces happen. No sense in being a jerk about it, but you don't want to send the wrong message... unless you honestly think it still could work out. If that be the case, you might want to consider getting marriage counseling.
Good luck!
2007-12-17 06:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so. If you still love her dearly it must have been her who did the leaving. In which case any gift from you is going to be seen as an attempt to win her back. I assume you are spending the holiday together for the children. Maybe let them pick something out for her, but nothing from you personally.
2007-12-17 05:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by Holly 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The Bob Hope song, "Thanks for the Memory", is about a couple about to be divorced or separated. Maybe you can give her the DVD of the movie it came from, which is The Big Broadcast of 1938, or give her a CD featuring that song.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thanks_for_the_Memory
http://www.amazon.com/Broadcast-College-Swing-Double-Feature/dp/B00005UMFC/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=dvd&qid=1197918162&sr=8-1
http://www.amazon.com/Big-Broadcast-1938-W-C-Fields/dp/6303464718/ref=pd_bbs_sr_2?ie=UTF8&s=video&qid=1197918162&sr=8-2
All I can think of is a "Last Date". Set up a nice little dinner, give her a single rose, or one rose for each of your years together, and tell her how much you appreciate all the good things she's done for you and all the good times you had together. Maybe you can prepare a little photo album, too. Be sure you ask her permission in advance for this "last date"--don't surprise her with it, or it will be awkward.
Back up your good feelings for her by treating her right in divorce court. Give her what is fair, and maybe a little bit more. Don't set the lawyer-dogs on her. Keep up a good relationship with her, especially if you have children together (or even stepchildren).
Good luck and God bless. Merry Christmas!
2007-12-17 06:08:18 · answer #3 · answered by MNL_1221 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but a gift is definitely okay. If it is for the children, it will help them understand that they still have both parents. My parents (divorced) have been friends for the past 10 years and have always bought each other Christmas presents, and they're both remarried!
2007-12-17 06:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by Chris R 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you still love her dearly, try and get along with her so that you don't have to get divorced. It's so sad..
2007-12-17 06:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are bringing tears to my eyes, is there no chance of reconciliation, does she love you to or is it just one way traffic.
I know this isn't an answer as such but i hope christmas is everything you want it to be.
take care
merry christmas
2007-12-17 06:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by Steve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A rabid dog
2007-12-17 06:00:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋