Nobody notified my son of his son's passing for a month?

Question

My son has not been a perfect father. I admit that. He has two daughters and a son. All 3 kids have different moms. The mothers of all his children are difficult to deal with and keep him from seeing the kids. The mother of the son moved 1000 miles away and my son couldn't locate her to get a court order for visitation and she refused child support through the courts so he had no way of paying support to his son, either because he couldn't find them. His son was killed in an automobile accident last month and nobody notified us until the other night when he received a phone call from the funeral home asking for payment on the remaining 3k dollars owed for the child's funeral. My question is can legal action be taken against her for not notifying my son sooner and does my son have any legal responsibility to pay this bill to the funeral home? The child had a 5k life insurance policy that my son purchased for him when he was born.

Answer 1

I know this will sound harsh and cold. No child deserves to die. Your son is either so hard to get along with that nobody will even try, or he has a habit of getting involved with troubled women. And making babies with them! I'm sorry, but this is what happens.

The answer to your first question is no, it's not against the law. This is his fault, either for being impossible or for making babies with sick women. Now, he needs to separate the insult of not being notified, from what is morally right. Yes, the insurance was bought for just this reason. Who controls the policy? If he does, then shame on him for even asking this question, but if she does, and she spent 8K on a funeral, then no, he is not liable for her bills. But does that absolve your son from doing one final thing that's just about his child, not about the child's mother? After all, he hasn't had to pay child support.


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Answer 2

If he is not paying child support, and paternity has not been established his legal rights are not recognized by the courts so he would not have a legal responsibility to pay the funeral home fees. I'm really sorry this happened and the mother is a very nasty person not to let your son know about the accident and death of his son. The MORAL thing would be to pay the funeral home. Maybe they will provide your son with an address for the mother so he can write her a letter letting her know how much she has hurt him by her actions.

Answer 3

The simple answer is cash in the 5K policy, pay the 3K... and your son has 2K to catch up on the other two child support payments he's probably behind on... Since he did not contract for the funereal, nor was he in any way associated with it, I don't THINK he has any legal obligation to pay... and I'm of mixed feelings on whether he "should" or not... I would think whomever signed the contract is liable for the full amount...
While I doubt there is any law requiring your son to be notified of his son's death, ethically perhaps he should have been... Since the mother was not collecting any child support payments that came due after the boy's death, she has broken no law there... Your son IS still liable for arrears prior to the boy's death though...
I honestly can't blame the mother for not informing your son earlier... If 3 separate women have problems with your son... that IS rather telling!
My condolences on the loss of your grandson though...

Answer 4

since your son did nothing for the child when he was alive, the least he can do is pay for the funeral. what the mother did was not right, but she has lost a child she loved and took care of his whole life, she has enough greif without your son starting some court b.s. because he feels guilty. the mother has enough to deal with. your son should leave her alone, and send the remaining $2000 to the mother for back child support. i hope she takes him to court.....

Answer 5

Let the Mother pay